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children are never mistakes... instead they are BLESSINGS..
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Seems your translation of 'pharisee' is anyone who disagrees with you. So a woman encourages you to be more sensitive, talks about how God is incomparable and she falls to her knees and worships Him, to you, is pharisee minded?
When various people are all giving you the same response, speaking against your post, it's all of them that are pharisees, and you are the one that's right. Then you call Them self righteous.
Then to prove your humble yet superior spiritual status you quote a scripture about a married woman to a single woman... though that scripture has no relevance to anything being discussed.
You, who showed up on this site and immediately took on the role of teacher, believing it is your obligation and right to inform all others as to the correct way to live spiritual lives. And deeming those who are not your disciples as 'pharisee minded'. Now it's all coming together.
When various people are all giving you the same response, speaking against your post, it's all of them that are pharisees, and you are the one that's right. Then you call Them self righteous.
Then to prove your humble yet superior spiritual status you quote a scripture about a married woman to a single woman... though that scripture has no relevance to anything being discussed.
You, who showed up on this site and immediately took on the role of teacher, believing it is your obligation and right to inform all others as to the correct way to live spiritual lives. And deeming those who are not your disciples as 'pharisee minded'. Now it's all coming together.
So true! It hurts!
My father divorced my mother for a woman 15 years younger than he was.
It's been passed around within the family that he left because he didn't want all of us kids.After he left, we never saw him again, he never wrote, no birthday cards, no phone calls. I was around 8 and although I continued to do all the things kids do which is to adapt to whatever life brings them, there was a deep hole in my heart that stayed empty. I felt so unloved, unwanted, rejected.
The weird thing is that out of those 8 years, I only remember one interaction with my dad. It was my birthday and he whispered in my ear, always wish for this, that you will always be a good girl.
This might sound corney, but every year thereafter I remembered his words and always wished for that same wish year after year and even into my late adult years.
Oh how much we need the love of our parents, if only they could remember what it was like when they were young.
But our parents were broken people without the Lord. And sometimes parents are still very broken while knowing the Lord. We don't heal right away. It's all a process of growing and maturing in the Lord.
As parents to our own children, my husband and I were broken people, both with parents who were divorced. We didn't parent perfectly either, but we did love our kids very much!
I saw where you mentioned how important the relationship with our father is whether good or bad. Another, how true!
So much so that I ended up idolizing my dad, worshipping him to the point of raising him to pedestal status. For years I did that, I so wanted him to show me love, I just wanted to be loved.
I'm sure my mom loved me, but she had her hands full with 7 of us. And now she had to go to work.
Also, I was born a year after one of my sisters and so my mom couldn't give her attention to both of us. My older sister ended up mothering me and as a teenager with her own problems, she didn't really know how to or even want to love on me. So I missed out on the love of a nurturing mom too.
Hopefully some day your parents will change. I wanted to share my story with you and let you know how hurtful it was to go beyond desiring fatherly or motherly love to the point of allowing it to become obsessive. I allowed it to become too important and began idolizing him even after becoming a Christian.
In looking back, as a believer, I needed God's Fatherly love, not my dads anymore.
When I hear God is my father and read the scriptures that actually call Him, 'Father,' it does something inside my innermost being. That love melts away past anger, the past hurt and the loneliness.
He fills me with so much, love, joy and peace knowing that I have a real Father in heaven. It's supernatural. He's always available, He's the essence of love. If I feel alone, He reminds me He'll never leave me, He'll never forsake me.
I'm so sorry that you're parents don't see you as a blessing. *HUGS*!
My guess is that they don't know the Lord yet? Are they divorced? Do you still live with them?
I'll be praying for you and your family, Natania. I don't feel your particular pain, but I share in it with you and grieve with you!
Much love!
T
So true! It hurts!
My father divorced my mother for a woman 15 years younger than he was.
It's been passed around within the family that he left because he didn't want all of us kids.After he left, we never saw him again, he never wrote, no birthday cards, no phone calls. I was around 8 and although I continued to do all the things kids do which is to adapt to whatever life brings them, there was a deep hole in my heart that stayed empty. I felt so unloved, unwanted, rejected.
The weird thing is that out of those 8 years, I only remember one interaction with my dad. It was my birthday and he whispered in my ear, always wish for this, that you will always be a good girl.
This might sound corney, but every year thereafter I remembered his words and always wished for that same wish year after year and even into my late adult years.
Oh how much we need the love of our parents, if only they could remember what it was like when they were young.
But our parents were broken people without the Lord. And sometimes parents are still very broken while knowing the Lord. We don't heal right away. It's all a process of growing and maturing in the Lord.
As parents to our own children, my husband and I were broken people, both with parents who were divorced. We didn't parent perfectly either, but we did love our kids very much!
I saw where you mentioned how important the relationship with our father is whether good or bad. Another, how true!
So much so that I ended up idolizing my dad, worshipping him to the point of raising him to pedestal status. For years I did that, I so wanted him to show me love, I just wanted to be loved.
I'm sure my mom loved me, but she had her hands full with 7 of us. And now she had to go to work.
Also, I was born a year after one of my sisters and so my mom couldn't give her attention to both of us. My older sister ended up mothering me and as a teenager with her own problems, she didn't really know how to or even want to love on me. So I missed out on the love of a nurturing mom too.
Hopefully some day your parents will change. I wanted to share my story with you and let you know how hurtful it was to go beyond desiring fatherly or motherly love to the point of allowing it to become obsessive. I allowed it to become too important and began idolizing him even after becoming a Christian.
In looking back, as a believer, I needed God's Fatherly love, not my dads anymore.
When I hear God is my father and read the scriptures that actually call Him, 'Father,' it does something inside my innermost being. That love melts away past anger, the past hurt and the loneliness.
He fills me with so much, love, joy and peace knowing that I have a real Father in heaven. It's supernatural. He's always available, He's the essence of love. If I feel alone, He reminds me He'll never leave me, He'll never forsake me.
I'm so sorry that you're parents don't see you as a blessing. *HUGS*!
My guess is that they don't know the Lord yet? Are they divorced? Do you still live with them?
I'll be praying for you and your family, Natania. I don't feel your particular pain, but I share in it with you and grieve with you!
Much love!
I feel ya!
Just another wonderful example of how you're never alone, there is always someone out there who feels what you're going through.
My parents:
My father is abusive, he tried to choke me while I was in the hospital, he constantly used "physical punishment methods" at home, he duck taped my mouth constantly when he wanted me to be quiet (which is actually what took me out of his house, because apparently being beat with a weed Wacker isn't bad enough)
My mum married an alcoholic who had awful anger,
He would constantly throw things at me, chairs, beer bottles, when he was mad he would get up in the middle of the night and throw at the food outside so we had nothing to eat.
My and my mum can't be in the same room without arguing,
Heck I jumped out of a moving car a few weeks ago because of how bad the arguing got.
My step mother,
and step father who I currently live with half the time....
Welll....
That's complicated
I now live with my mom half the time which is a new arrangement
I'm so sorry, Natania! I hope you're safe now! Do you have siblings? Are the safe?
Without going into details I personally understand the choking and how scary that is!
One of our foster children had a dad that was an alchoholic and he use to beat him. Another tough little guy had a mom who married a murderer. Like yours, there's so many heart-breaking stories out there.
So you have a mom, a mum, a stepfather and step mother? If I may ask, how did you come to know the Lord? If I'm being too nosey, just say so or if you don't want to talk about things just ignore my questions.
I will be praying that this new year truly brings you a peaceful home life filled with love.
I don't intend to bring a false hope or white wash anything either. But - All things are possible with God. And it looks like you have an army of supportive prayer warriors here.
Without going into details I personally understand the choking and how scary that is!
One of our foster children had a dad that was an alchoholic and he use to beat him. Another tough little guy had a mom who married a murderer. Like yours, there's so many heart-breaking stories out there.
So you have a mom, a mum, a stepfather and step mother? If I may ask, how did you come to know the Lord? If I'm being too nosey, just say so or if you don't want to talk about things just ignore my questions.
I will be praying that this new year truly brings you a peaceful home life filled with love.
I don't intend to bring a false hope or white wash anything either. But - All things are possible with God. And it looks like you have an army of supportive prayer warriors here.
T
I'm so sorry, Natania! I hope you're safe now! Do you have siblings? Are the safe?
Without going into details I personally understand the choking and how scary that is!
One of our foster children had a dad that was an alchoholic and he use to beat him. Another tough little guy had a mom who married a murderer. Like yours, there's so many heart-breaking stories out there.
So you have a mom, a mum, a stepfather and step mother? If I may ask, how did you come to know the Lord? If I'm being too nosey, just say so or if you don't want to talk about things just ignore my questions.
I will be praying that this new year truly brings you a peaceful home life filled with love.
I don't intend to bring a false hope or white wash anything either. But - All things are possible with God. And it looks like you have an army of supportive prayer warriors here.
Without going into details I personally understand the choking and how scary that is!
One of our foster children had a dad that was an alchoholic and he use to beat him. Another tough little guy had a mom who married a murderer. Like yours, there's so many heart-breaking stories out there.
So you have a mom, a mum, a stepfather and step mother? If I may ask, how did you come to know the Lord? If I'm being too nosey, just say so or if you don't want to talk about things just ignore my questions.
I will be praying that this new year truly brings you a peaceful home life filled with love.
I don't intend to bring a false hope or white wash anything either. But - All things are possible with God. And it looks like you have an army of supportive prayer warriors here.
Haha
Lots of questions,
Yes I have siblings of whom I love very very much.
Yes they are safe
Well, my father married my mom got divorced, and then married my step mom and later divorced her as well (which is who I live with half time now, her and her husband who I call my step father)
And then my father is now married to another person, so my second step mom.
And my mom married of course my step father.
Well, my step mother used to be Christian and she took me to church and my Pastor became like my father figure so even when she stopped being Christian and going to church he kinda kept me there
Yes,
I am truly blessed to have so many wonderful people praying, and encouraging here