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4YourGlory

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For a long time, I've been feeling like my friends aren't really my friends. Academically, I've been a lot more successful than they have and sometimes I sense that they are jealous. I feel like they're just waiting for me to fail, but I've always encouraged and supported them. They always have something bad to say about me and I feel like they're very negative. Also, I feel like they're always trying to embarrass me. It's ridiculous and most of the time I don't entertain their stupidity but now I feel like being around them is affecting me. I've noticed that I've developed this "I don't care attitude" and thats just not me. I've begun to become "sassy" with certain people when I'm normally kind and open. I've always been a loner so I don't typically hang out with them outside of school. I can't really make any new friends because I'm a senior in high school and my school is very cliquish. Right now, I just want to get away from them without all the drama, but I don't want to be friendless my senior year. I don't think all the jealousy and negativity is worth being around anymore. I've always tried to see the best in people and I guess that's why I've remained friends with them for so long. I am friends with people in other social circles, but there's no one I can really see myself fitting in with. Honestly, if I could go off by myself during lunch and read a book I'd probably do it. However, in the sucky world that is high school I can't. I don't hate people, but I don't particularly like my high school classmates either. I've learned that I'm not alone; I've discovered that plenty of others are "friends" with people they don't like. When did that become the status quo? I don't know what to do in this situation. Should I continue being in toxic friendships or be alone which can be awful if tthere's nothing to entertain you. I want genuine friendships with people who actually want me to succeed. I want to sit at lunch with people I actually like. I want to get away from fake friends, but they sit next to me and behind me. Even if I do try to end the friendships, I'll be forced to interact with them anyways. I definitely plan on never speaking to them again after graduation, but what do I do in the meantime? I know we dont always get what we want, but how do I find a real friend in a school where everyone already belongs to some specific group? Please help! Any advice is appreciated!!!!

-Please forgive any grammar or punctuation mistakes. I'm typing this on my tablet in a very small box. Also, I hope I didn't come across as cocky with the whole jealous thing.
 
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Marian29

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4YourGlory said:
For a long time, I've been feeling like my friends aren't really my friends. Academically, I've been a lot more successful than they have and sometimes I sense that they are jealous. I feel like they're just waiting for me to fail, but I've always encouraged and supported them. They always have something bad to say about me and I feel like they're very negative. Also, I feel like they're always trying to embarrass me. It's ridiculous and most of the time I don't entertain their stupidity but now I feel like being around them is affecting me. I've noticed that I've developed this "I don't care attitude" and thats just not me. I've begun to become "sassy" with certain people when I'm normally kind and open. I've always been a loner so I don't typically hang out with them outside of school. I can't really make any new friends because I'm a senior in high school and my school is very cliquish. Right now, I just want to get away from them without all the drama, but I don't want to be friendless my senior year. I don't think all the jealousy and negativity is worth being around anymore. I've always tried to see the best in people and I guess that's why I've remained friends with them for so long. I am friends with people in other social circles, but there's no one I can really see myself fitting in with. Honestly, if I could go off by myself during lunch and read a book I'd probably do it. However, in the sucky world that is high school I can't. I don't hate people, but I don't particularly like my high school classmates either. I've learned that I'm not alone; I've discovered that plenty of others are "friends" with people they don't like. When did that become the status quo? I don't know what to do in this situation. Should I continue being in toxic friendships or be alone which can be awful if tthere's nothing to entertain you. I want genuine friendships with people who actually want me to succeed. I want to sit at lunch with people I actually like. I want to get away from fake friends, but they sit next to me and behind me. Even if I do try to end the friendships, I'll be forced to interact with them anyways. I definitely plan on never speaking to them again after graduation, but what do I do in the meantime? I know we dont always get what we want, but how do I find a real friend in a school where everyone already belongs to some specific group? Please help! Any advice is appreciated!!!!

-Please forgive any grammar or punctuation mistakes. I'm typing this on my tablet in a very small box. Also, I hope I didn't come across as cocky with the whole jealous thing.
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Being yourself is the only thing you won't regret, since you treat everyone and yourself rightly and with respect you will attract people like you, it takes time, of course, it won't be from night to day immediately. Unfortunatly, you'll also experience this kind of situation when you start to work, or even at church!... I never liked being part of any groups. Trust God will put interesting and true friends in your path. God bless, good night! :)
 
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4YourGlory

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Thanks Marian29!
 
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