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jscadt

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College's starting at the end of the month...
And tbh, I'm not sure if I'm ready :/

It's been more than a year since I left school,
and...let's just say I have a slight problem in socializing.
I'm afraid I'm gonna be the freak in class and won't be able to fit in.
I know I shouldn't feel this way, but I can't help it.

Have you guys experience the same?
How did you manage overcome this kind of feeling?
 
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alexisnicole58

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When I first started school I felt the same way. I really didn't talk to anybody but after couple days I got comfrontable and I always thought I was the werido or fat freak but then I 0rayed and prayed for everything to be better after while I started talking to other people ..the point is it takes time to get used to the people around you and you get comfrontable and start making friends ....everbody shy first day I mean everybody ...be patient.and god by your side threw the whole way.!!:)

GOD BLEsS

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College isn't like High school.....at all. Most of the time it's just lecture, and people (from my experience) don't really talk to each other in class most of the time. We all just keep to ourselves. So don't worry, Jesus is holding your hand. He knows what we're going through. Anytime I'm scared or just plain lonely, I picture Jesus walking right beside me (because I know he is). It helps immensely.

I had a harder time in middle/high school. Prayers going your way <3
 
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Lucy68

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Yes, college is A LOT different than high school. You don't have to deal with the cliques. It's very nice actually! Remember everybody else is feeling the same way.
 
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Ugly

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You're going to be the freak in the class? And you know this how? You don't know this at all. You're just making assumptions about what other people will think and not giving people a chance to think for themselves. Stop trying to pretend to know the future, and what others will be thinking.
 
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savedbygrace_cheering4god

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I started college last year and thought the same thing. I went to a high school where it made you want to not socialize. I thought it was just going to be an awful experience especially since I never wanted to get out of my comfort zone but honestly it was nothing as i had hoped..in a good way! My roommate turned out to be well a little weird herself but in a way to where we really connected. We were able to help each other out and make a ton of new friends. You will find your place. Trust God in showing you. Others will be willing to talk with you too. you will not be the freak. Don't be afraid to get out there and join in. Best of luck!
 
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jscadt

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alexisnicole58 said:
When I first started school I felt the same way. I really didn't talk to anybody but after couple days I got comfrontable and I always thought I was the werido or fat freak but then I 0rayed and prayed for everything to be better after while I started talking to other people ..the point is it takes time to get used to the people around you and you get comfrontable and start making friends ....everbody shy first day I mean everybody ...be patient.and god by your side threw the whole way.!!:)

GOD BLEsS

ALEXIS
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Thank you giiirl :) I've been praying about this also, and I think I'm more positive about this now!!
 
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jscadt

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PANCAKES said:
College isn't like High school.....at all. Most of the time it's just lecture, and people (from my experience) don't really talk to each other in class most of the time. We all just keep to ourselves. So don't worry, Jesus is holding your hand. He knows what we're going through. Anytime I'm scared or just plain lonely, I picture Jesus walking right beside me (because I know he is). It helps immensely.

I had a harder time in middle/high school. Prayers going your way <3
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You're right, I should never forget that no matter what I'm going through, I'll never be alone. Thank you for reminding me this <3
 
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jscadt

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Lucy68 said:
Yes, college is A LOT different than high school. You don't have to deal with the cliques. It's very nice actually! Remember everybody else is feeling the same way.
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I'll keep this in mind, thank you!! :)
 
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jscadt

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Ugly said:
You're going to be the freak in the class? And you know this how? You don't know this at all. You're just making assumptions about what other people will think and not giving people a chance to think for themselves. Stop trying to pretend to know the future, and what others will be thinking.
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Thanks telling me this, you're right :)
 
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jscadt

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savedbygrace_cheering4god said:
I started college last year and thought the same thing. I went to a high school where it made you want to not socialize. I thought it was just going to be an awful experience especially since I never wanted to get out of my comfort zone but honestly it was nothing as i had hoped..in a good way! My roommate turned out to be well a little weird herself but in a way to where we really connected. We were able to help each other out and make a ton of new friends. You will find your place. Trust God in showing you. Others will be willing to talk with you too. you will not be the freak. Don't be afraid to get out there and join in. Best of luck!
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Thank you for sharing your experience! It's always a relief knowing someone went trough and overcame what I'm kind of afraid of :) I'm more positive about college now, thank you once again!! <3
 
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Just curious, does your college have a "Welcome Week" or any new student orientation of any sort?

I felt the same as you before college. I was sure I was going to have no friends ever and that I'd be lonely and socially awkward the whole time. That was back before I really gained some confidence (college really helped me with that), but I was seriously a bit freaked out. However, my college had a Welcome Week and I became really close friends with many people in my group, and still am! I'd encourage you to go to activities if you can, and just be friendly with people sitting around you in your classes. Like others have said, the other students there probably feel just as nervous as you and will probably be very open to conversation. :)

It also depends on how big your college is, but maybe there are some campus clubs/organizations you could get involved with. Then you'd be with people who have the same interests as you, which is a good start!
 
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jscadt

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rachelsedge said:
Just curious, does your college have a "Welcome Week" or any new student orientation of any sort?

I felt the same as you before college. I was sure I was going to have no friends ever and that I'd be lonely and socially awkward the whole time. That was back before I really gained some confidence (college really helped me with that), but I was seriously a bit freaked out. However, my college had a Welcome Week and I became really close friends with many people in my group, and still am! I'd encourage you to go to activities if you can, and just be friendly with people sitting around you in your classes. Like others have said, the other students there probably feel just as nervous as you and will probably be very open to conversation. :)

It also depends on how big your college is, but maybe there are some campus clubs/organizations you could get involved with. Then you'd be with people who have the same interests as you, which is a good start!
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I'm not so sure :( The college I'm going to attend is a boutique college, only about 8-10 students in each class so it's gonna be more like private and stuff.... The "Welcome Week" sounds pretty awesome tho, wish they'd have something like that! I think small classes gonna be mooore awkward than bigger ones lol :eek:
 
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kittycat7

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I'll be praying for you! :) So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. All who rage against you will surely be ashamed and disgraced; those who oppose you will be as nothing and perish.
 
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jesusnme

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i hear you! and i def agree that small classes can be more awkward. but guaranteed - you wont be the only one worrying about it :) i'd just be my normal self and be kind to everyone.
i think when you are yourself you will make genuine friends. there's bound to be somebody you can get along with!

also , i went back to school last year and there were only like 6 other people in my class. They were all older than me so i didnt get really close with any of them but we could all just talk randomly and got along. i actually ended up preferring the smaller group . I got alot of work done, and its more relaxed than like a big high school class with all the cliques. with such a small group evryone is so different so its hard to feel left out cos everyone is individual ;)
 
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xXErraticEmilyXx

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I was afraid too. College is very different from grade school. There's people there who actually want to be there and no one cares what kind of person you are. There aren't any cliques and you start meeting people with the same interests as you. College is too big of a place for all that baloney. There's really no place to fit into. Everyone's an individual.
 
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