How to get over mistakes...?

[qtpie17]

Hey everyone. I'm rarely on so you probably don't know me, but I have a big problem and I need advice. I recently became friends with a girl from a college group at our church. Many of my friends warned me about her for her being reckless, clingy, and known for lesbian tendencies in her past before being saved. I went into the friendship with caution but we really clicked and have a lot in common. AnyWays. This weekend she was sleeping over so that the next day we could go to a college visit. She brought up sex and kissing and how it would be the first time. I tried to sway the conversation. She's a very snuggling person so we were laying with each other. Later she started kissing my fingers and sucking them. Don't want to go into details, but both of our behavior was unacceptable. We only stopped because the alarm went off. Right away we regretted everything. We spent the whole next day together. She said we should try to forget it and pray hard and continue as good friends. We're still talking and ok. I'm just wondering what to do. Should I stay friEnds?? I've never done anything like this and I am NOT a lesbian. Please help. Sorry this was long. I just need advice for the n t step.

 

[valerie]

hey sis.

well, i haven't got any experiences like that. but here's a try:
if you feel like it can't be controlled next time, i think you should both lay low a bit. you see, temptations will always come, and satan hits you by your weaknesses.
but remember, we are in Christ so there's no condemnation. but it is not also a reason that we should keep on sinning. do what's best. seek to please GOD. and as you pray, also read the Bible and know what GOD has to say about that.

1John 1:9 sis. GOD Bless

 

[Faith00]

Don't think too much about it. Keep your mind on God first and remember that most friends come and go, no matter how close you are to them.

 

[nukreation]

Difficult situation. A very good friend of mine for many years was gay. It only became a problem when he took a liking to me. I was sad to lose him as a friend but he tried to make a move on me a few times so sadly I decided to shut him out of my life. This friend had confessed to being violated by someone else. I believe that he had allowed the feelings of pleasure and lust to define himself as gay. If you go down that road you too might convince yourself that you're gay when infact you're just a girl wanting to be loved just like anyone else. God loves you and has a plan for your life so I pray that you draw close to Him.

 

[Aqua_Girl09]

If you feel the urge to fall for her advances then i think your relationship might have to take the back burner. I want to say that you should stay to be a Christian example in her life but its MUCH easier to pull you down then to lift her up. I think that night is a big eye opener that shes convinced you that doing that kind of things is ok. she needs to find other girl friends that won't stand for that kind of things. to tell the truth even "snuggling" might be the wrong kind if its too much and too close.

you DON'T wanna open that door. you should tell her the truth that you don't want to to swayed by her whims and that you feel like your friend ship with her would make you question your own sexuality and you don't want to be in that situation. @ least thats what i would do.

 

[Lucy68]

Sounds like you're both struggling with desires that you know are wrong. Your honesty is wonderful. I don't see why you can't stay friends and put limits on your relationship ... and no snuggling. It may be a good test for you both to learn self control and appropriate behavior. If you find that it's too much of a struggle and you really are afraid of falling into sin, then you may need to end the relationship for both of your sakes.

Praying for you and your friend .

 

[riabrooks]

1 john 1:9

 

[Jordache]

Ok, from personal experience, I'd say you need to have a time of separation in order to personally establish your boundaries with eachother and find accountability. It doesn't matter if your gay or straight. We ALL have the tendencies to do stupid things, things that you could never imagine yourself doing.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

Exactly. Tell her you need space and are separating to ensure sanctification and then go find a different friend to hang out with that doesn't bring all those problems into your life.

I'd say you need to have a time of separation in order to personally establish your boundaries with each other and find accountability.

 

[Jemuel]

just move forward... onwards always up....God bless

 

[psychomom]

Don't you find that the moment we say in our hearts, "I would never do that...", is the moment we are ripe for temptation?
I do.
1 Corinthians 16:13 tells us to "Be on the alert. Stand firm in the faith. Act like men (of God). Be strong."
And the very next verse tells us "Let all that you do be done in love."

Sometimes the most loving thing we can do toward another is to cut them from our lives.
And the most loving thing we can do toward the Lord is to obey Him.

You are now on the alert---good for you!!
And you can purpose in your hearts to love God and love one another,
even if it isn't fun, or doesn't look loving.
Agape love is an action, and a decision we make, as God has done for us.
The flesh wars within us against the Spirit,
but the Lord will always provide us with a way to avoid temptation. (1 Cor. 10:13)

That said...we are taught to ask the Lord to lead us not into temptation...
so we must also be sure we don't drag ourselves there. lol
I think you'll be fine. Just give this, as with all things, to God for cleansing and ask for strength to do His will.
I'll be praying, sweetheart!

-ellie