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First thing no one care whether if you keep your virginity, I know cause Iv been a virgin and still am, not many people can say that. It means nothing to practically every one that's done it. but it does prove you love the LORD more than any one.cause your going to have it the way LORD only reward us with it. if your doing it for people your waisting your time, the in thing, is being like a porn star with out a film director, there, film it.Only then when they feel no one going to do it with them, then they decide to settle down, before all the fish in the sea a taken up. You've probably heard of though's slutty people tell out in the open where any one can hear shamelessly every where you go. and high five it. Well i don't know about you but i know i have.
C
Yes, but me and guys like me are always ignored by girls across the spectrum simply because we're not loud, obnoxious and "confident".
If you started paying attention to the guys who are short (5'2"-5'8"), who don't have a six-pack, who aren't exactly the best looking, who are a little socially awkward, who aren't smooth with the ladies, and who is more focused on his future than all-nighters of Call of Duty... you'd realize that there's plenty of decent, non-manipulative guys who would treat a girl right if she gave them the chance
If you started paying attention to the guys who are short (5'2"-5'8"), who don't have a six-pack, who aren't exactly the best looking, who are a little socially awkward, who aren't smooth with the ladies, and who is more focused on his future than all-nighters of Call of Duty... you'd realize that there's plenty of decent, non-manipulative guys who would treat a girl right if she gave them the chance
Yes there are, never fear...and some guys won't become kid friendly until they find the persons they are meant to have children with. My fiance didn't have a desire for children at all until we started dating.
Unfortunately having a purity ring won't save you from being "thrown away" not to be a buzzkill or anything. Being a virgin doesn't protect you from that.
Unfortunately having a purity ring won't save you from being "thrown away" not to be a buzzkill or anything. Being a virgin doesn't protect you from that.
Yes, but me and guys like me are always ignored by girls across the spectrum simply because we're not loud, obnoxious and "confident".
If you started paying attention to the guys who are short (5'2"-5'8"), who don't have a six-pack, who aren't exactly the best looking, who are a little socially awkward, who aren't smooth with the ladies, and who is more focused on his future than all-nighters of Call of Duty... you'd realize that there's plenty of decent, non-manipulative guys who would treat a girl right if she gave them the chance
If you started paying attention to the guys who are short (5'2"-5'8"), who don't have a six-pack, who aren't exactly the best looking, who are a little socially awkward, who aren't smooth with the ladies, and who is more focused on his future than all-nighters of Call of Duty... you'd realize that there's plenty of decent, non-manipulative guys who would treat a girl right if she gave them the chance
1.) I would say to a certain extent socially awkward guys are like a pandora's box. It looks innocent, trustworthy, and forgiving on the outside... But, given the opportunity they can take advantage of everything they are given.
2.) Some Socially awkward guys strive to be the guy who takes advantage of women. Majority of the socially awkward guys would give anything to be that star football player or that suave guy with all the women...
3.) It does not matter what you do what your height is or what social cliche' you fit into... A Christ-like man will do Christ-like things. Were a nonChist-like person will do evil things. I have seen star football players be the nicest to women... And socially awkward nerds THAT ARE 5'2''-5'8'' be the most vindictive, cynical, and manipulative person there is...
It is easy to say well girls don't give me the opportunity to date because I am to nice, to awkward, or to perfect... The truth of the matter is, people date to find a Future spouse... When people date 9/10 times they are seeing if this person or these types of people will be good for me to marry...
This is why the star football player gets so many girl friends... Who want's to marry someone and be held up in a cave 24/7 with that one person who is Socially Awkward. Most women want that man who goes Hey Babe, Bob and His wife Shelly are going river rafting on Saturday They want to see if we would like to come with them...
And trust me, if anything I am hurting my game by saying this... For I am 5'8'' I don't have a six-pack, I am socially Awkward, and have already contemplated about creating perpetual pure non distilled water (which would have made me a millionaire but apparently someone already thought of it)...
All I am saying is that you can't categorize people to make your self feel better... People are People... We all have the potential for Good and All Have the potential For Evil...
The reason I post this is so some poor girl out there doesn't go date someone they would never have dated to get hurt and scared... I used to say the same thing as you, until I realized I was just saying this so I felt more superior then the people I envied..
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I'm not trying to make myself seem superior. I'm tired of girls saying they want sweet, loving Christian gentlemen (nice guys) when they almost always pick the unsavory types who cuss, smoke, drink, and treat people with disrespect (jerks)
OP asked if there's guys who don't take advantage of girls, and I simply said that there's plenty of great guys out there if you pay attention.
Sorry for generalizing about this, but after playing HS football for 3 yrs, I can tell you that most of all of them are foul mouthed, narcissistic jerks, and would never want my daughter to date one.
I know a lot of awkward guys act creepy and stalker ish and that short guys can be hot heads but I'm neither.
I've learned from experience that girls will pass me over for the jerks, thugs, and party animals of this world - even devout Christian ones or plain looking ones generally would prefer not to have anything to do with me.
I would never want a girl to date a creep, but women seem to think being yelled at or hit by a guy is "assertive" or "confident" while writing a love song or a poem for her is "creepy" or "weird" (learned from experience)
I'm just saying if girls really want to meet a good natured guy, she has to look beyond the surface. I respect your stance and agree we all can do good and evil in this world
OP asked if there's guys who don't take advantage of girls, and I simply said that there's plenty of great guys out there if you pay attention.
Sorry for generalizing about this, but after playing HS football for 3 yrs, I can tell you that most of all of them are foul mouthed, narcissistic jerks, and would never want my daughter to date one.
I know a lot of awkward guys act creepy and stalker ish and that short guys can be hot heads but I'm neither.
I've learned from experience that girls will pass me over for the jerks, thugs, and party animals of this world - even devout Christian ones or plain looking ones generally would prefer not to have anything to do with me.
I would never want a girl to date a creep, but women seem to think being yelled at or hit by a guy is "assertive" or "confident" while writing a love song or a poem for her is "creepy" or "weird" (learned from experience)
I'm just saying if girls really want to meet a good natured guy, she has to look beyond the surface. I respect your stance and agree we all can do good and evil in this world
C
The only guys who will care are Christian guys who also believe in waiting and who value a girl who waits.
Do you value a guy who waits? Is that the kind of guy you are focusing on or do you like to think about/pursue guys who are 'cool' in a worldly way and do not put a high value on purity?
I've met heaps of guys in Church who passionately believe in staying a virgin until they marry their princess. If you're looking for guys at school/work/in the world, of course they are going to place no value on their own virginity or yours, because they do not care about God, Jesus or the Bible's commands on how we should live. They want to go 'their own way' in life rather than God's way.
If you're truly looking for a Christian guy in the right places, like Church, you'll find someone who values your purity commitment You'll know them by their fruits.
Do you value a guy who waits? Is that the kind of guy you are focusing on or do you like to think about/pursue guys who are 'cool' in a worldly way and do not put a high value on purity?
I've met heaps of guys in Church who passionately believe in staying a virgin until they marry their princess. If you're looking for guys at school/work/in the world, of course they are going to place no value on their own virginity or yours, because they do not care about God, Jesus or the Bible's commands on how we should live. They want to go 'their own way' in life rather than God's way.
If you're truly looking for a Christian guy in the right places, like Church, you'll find someone who values your purity commitment You'll know them by their fruits.
K
Here is my 2 cents on this...
1. I do anything i can to be that dream guy for girls. Its stupid really because i fall short of that by a couple hundred miles . I am really nice and do what i can to make my friends feel like they arent used. So yea there are guys like me out there (atleast i hope there are)
2. The purity ring means nothing to me, i see it on most girls in my grade and considering most of them are on the lap of the cutest guy they can see... But i do care about a girls virginity... If a girl i was dating for a while and considered going long term with her told me that she's already had sex with some other guy, i would feel very disrespected.
If your asking this because your considering wether or not your virginity is worth saving, it is. And it shouldnt even matter what i or anyone else thinks about this matter, God believes your virginity is so important that he made it a point to include it in the Bible.
1. I do anything i can to be that dream guy for girls. Its stupid really because i fall short of that by a couple hundred miles
. I am really nice and do what i can to make my friends feel like they arent used. So yea there are guys like me out there (atleast i hope there are)2. The purity ring means nothing to me, i see it on most girls in my grade and considering most of them are on the lap of the cutest guy they can see... But i do care about a girls virginity... If a girl i was dating for a while and considered going long term with her told me that she's already had sex with some other guy, i would feel very disrespected.
If your asking this because your considering wether or not your virginity is worth saving, it is. And it shouldnt even matter what i or anyone else thinks about this matter, God believes your virginity is so important that he made it a point to include it in the Bible.
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If a guy really loves a girl he's going to wait until they get married. I have a lot of friends believing that no ones gonna wait nowadays but a real christian guy can do that Even us, Christians, get tempted too but God is there to help us to control ourselves.. Just place your hands to God and let him place it in the hands of a man who deserves you.
Even us, Christians, get tempted too but God is there to help us to control ourselves.. Just place your hands to God and let him place it in the hands of a man who deserves you.
J
Hello...4 me personally i think as long as a girl is sexually pure i.e she is a virgin or she has abstain from all sexual activities,thats okay 4 me....i'll be more than willing to wait 4 her till we get married.I'll marry a girl who is sexually pure not necessarily a virgin...and any girl whom i chose to enter a relationship with must put CHRIST first in her life or must be willing for us to help each other grow spiritually....lolz.