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Okay so I know there are tons of posts that sort of relate to this and people are probably getting tired of it, but I would feel more helped if I actually told what I was going through.

I do not identify myself as being gay but I am attracted to men and not women. I have no attraction for women. I have asked God to help me and I am confused as to what his answer is. I am not sure if I can change and I know with God anything is possible, but I have been lead in both directions that homosexuality is wrong and then the opposite that it is ok to be a gay Christian. Is it?

I know the Bible condemns it but aren't we all still sinning? Even if we are saved every now and again a little white lie may slip out or there may be that guy or girl or do not realize you are somewhat lusting after. For example, a celebrity maybe. People say all sins are equal so how is the fact of someone lying and still being saved ok but a gay Christian is not? According to John 3:16 as long as I trust and believe with all my heart Jesus died for my sins then will I still go to Heaven. Also I know I am never really alone, but I just have the fear of not being able to find someone if I try to become straight and I do not want to end up all alone. I am really confused and open to anyone willing to help. Thanks!
 
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Think of sins this way. Sure, we all sin in some way or another. We loose our temper, cuss, lust, or whatever. But will still try not to. Then there are sins that are a bigger problem, homosexuality, porn, sleeping around etc.. Now you have two attitudes towards the sin in your life.
1. Oh well, i'm forgiven, so sin doesn't matter. I'm going to indulge myself in things i know are wrong.
2. Man, i can't help myself, i really hate this, i'm fighting it, but i can't seem to stop myself sometimes.

That is the difference. Its not the sin itself that is always the problem, but your attitude towards the sin. If you know a sin is wrong, and you struggle and fight against it, even if you fail sometimes, God is pleased and honored that you are trying to live right for Him. He will not hold the sin against you long as you keep fighting it both physically and in your heart and mind.
On the other hand, you can choose to accept the sin in your life. This shows an unrepentant heart, a cold heart, and a lack of guidance of the Holy Spirit.

So i say, long as you acknowledge the sin, accept it as a sin, and out of a true desire to honor God (not a desire to 'obey the rules') then i would say don't worry. You may spend weeks, months or years battling it, but long as your heart is right and you do your best to not act on the homosexual urges and renew your mind through biblical reading, then you're good.

Remember, there is more to salvation than John 3:16. That is only the beginning. The bible makes it clear that if there is a genuine conversion, there is also evidence of that conversion. Your life and heart should reflect your accepting of Christ. Its not just a matter of 'pray a prayer and now i'm locked in and can do whatever now'. While there's nothing we can do to earn our salvation, works does not grant us salvation. But good works evidence our salvation.

Lastly, the bible does show homosexuality as a sin. The bible also warns us in the last days people will 'tickle our ears', meaning tell us what we want to hear, and that we need to be careful not to listen to their lies. Yes, it would make your life easier to allow yourself to believe its ok to be gay and Christian, but its clearly not. But i commend you for trying to do whats right. I know how hard it is and how easy it is to want to give up. But keep to it. Others have overcome your sin. You can too.
 
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