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LouiseDritz

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I have terrible memories, I was kidnapped when I was thirteen and and I was with my kidnappers for a whole year. They abused me to the point where I couldn't walk or talk, and they also took my virginity away from me. I am 15 now, and I still have angry, bitter and hateful thoughts toward them? Should I? please pray for me.
 
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Amandar

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I am so sorry. That must of been a horrible experiance. I can understand why you feel angry but with God's help you will learn to forgive those people who did that to you. Here is a verse I found that hopefully will help! "Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your father in heaven." Mathew 5:44 If you want to read more about how to love your enemies read Mathew 5: 43-48. You will be in my prayers! Message me if you would like to talk privately.
 
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love7

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hey,im praying for you and remember love conquerers all. Just wanna hug yoj! Lots of love-your sister in christ.
 

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One of my closest friends has a sister who went through a tough time coz of her marriage, she had three miscarriages got lied to, etc. Although they did divorce, my friend couldn't just forgive the man, I and a few others tried to tell him the importance of forgiveness but it just couldn't work. As he got to grow in his relationship with God, God started changing him and turned his burning hatred away.
My point is, seek God, grow your relationship with Him, let Him change you and He will turn all your hate and anger away. Its hard to forgive alone, but through Christ all things are possible. God bless
 
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Chilaha

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Praying for you.
 
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Chadtreme

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I'm sorry, and no dont have bad feeling for them. God said to forgive everyone r he will not forgive you. Dont let those horrible ppl take away your life. Let God deal with them. I have anger problems that formed over the years form my childhood, n my youth pastor told me just a few weeks ago that those feeelings r keeping me away from God. I spent a whole week at the alter praying for purity and i received what i asked for, n i found peace. Go to God n prayer n forgive those ppl n ask for peace ask for healing. n dont run off right away. stay there n sit there with the holy spirit. God loves you. n ima tell you what my youth pastor told me before i founded peace. Those feeling that you r holding in you r keeping you away from God. Let those Feeling go, N let God come into you. I will pray for you and get my whole church to pray to. Im here if you need to ttalk. N i believe that one of my youth leaders went through the same thing when she was younger.
 
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I will be praying for you, I am sorry to hear that that happened to you, but you don't have to keep living your past, you can still be joyful. Pray to God that he will take those memories away, I will be praying, too.
 
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Ugly

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What happened to you was very severe and traumatic. Yes, you do need to work towards forgiving them, but at the same time you have to be aware it won't happen over night, unless God decides to deliver you. This isn't the kind of thing you just 'get over', chances are it will take years for you to get to a decent place in your mind and heart. Hopefully you're receiving professional counseling, and if not, you should be.
So yes, pray about it, seek God about it, try to forgive. But don't pressure yourself. If you are honestly seeking to get past this and forgive, God will see your heart, and honor that, even if you are still struggling.
Also, while physically you may have lost your virginity, spiritually speaking i believe its still in tact. You can get past all of this. Don't give up, don't let it bring you down. Keep fighting. Keep sober. Keep praying.
 
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AdorableNoel

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I completely understand why you would have hateful thoughts torwards them. My step brother and other guys would abuse me from when i was 4 until i was 11 and was taken out of those situations, my entire family knew. Everyday i wake up with the memories and a hate for everyone who put me through that.. But i remember i have a God who loves me, who loved me through it, before it, after it, and will always love and protect me. He forgave the people who did horrible things to him, forgave our sins and the people who have sinned against us.
Pray for them, forgive them. I know it's hard.. and it could take years. Your story is important, you can use it to minister to other girls who are going through the same thing, or have gone through things like that but have forgotten that they have a voice. Tell 'em that God has a plan for them, the same way he has a plan for you.
I'll pray for your healing. God Bless.

I have terrible memories, I was kidnapped when I was thirteen and and I was with my kidnappers for a whole year. They abused me to the point where I couldn't walk or talk, and they also took my virginity away from me. I am 15 now, and I still have angry, bitter and hateful thoughts toward them? Should I? please pray for me.
 
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I have terrible memories, I was kidnapped when I was thirteen and and I was with my kidnappers for a whole year. They abused me to the point where I couldn't walk or talk, and they also took my virginity away from me. I am 15 now, and I still have angry, bitter and hateful thoughts toward them? Should I? please pray for me.
You will still have them kinds of thoughts towards them. You have every reason to. They kidnapped you. They abused you. They even raped you. A lot of people would feel the exact same way. But you can still forgive them for it all, with the help of Jesus Christ. Rape is a very difficult thing to forgive. But I know you can do it. Just hang in there, ok?
 
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AdorableNoel

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Woah woah woah that was seasoned with some bad thoughts. With God she has NO reason to have those kinds of thoughts towards them. By abusing her, they were only abusing themselves. She's stronger than that, she's an overcomer. Jesus put some extra strength in her before she was in her mother's woumb.
Yea a lot of people WOULD feel the same way, but that still doesn't make it okay. it is absolutely horrible what was done.. but as children of God we are saved from our flesh's feelings. We have One to turn to when those doubts and bad thoughts come. It''s "understandable" that she's angry and upset.. but at the same time I KNOW her heart will get better. In God's timing she will think back on what hhad happened and smile because she has a God who brought her through it, and she's only better because of it.
Her story is part of HIStory.
No, don't just "hang in there" hon. Get out of those bad feelings completely.
Forgiving someone for rape is as hard as forgiving someone for stealing, or forgiving someone for lying. Each person is given their own amount of tolerance.
Im still praying for you hun.
God Bless <3
You will still have them kinds of thoughts towards them. You have every reason to. They kidnapped you. They abused you. They even raped you. A lot of people would feel the exact same way. But you can still forgive them for it all, with the help of Jesus Christ. Rape is a very difficult thing to forgive. But I know you can do it. Just hang in there, ok?
 
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betrys

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With all due respect, I disagree with some of the posts here. You have gone through a horrible ordeal, one that is difficult for me to even comprehend. You have every right to feel animosity toward your abusers. You have every right to dislike them.

What you shouldn't do is let them control your life.
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. -Ephesians 4:31-32
God does not expect you to be best friends with your captors, or think that they are great, upstanding human beings. They aren't. That's not forgiveness, that's foolishness. Instead, He wants you to overcome your struggle. Imagine living your whole life under the shadow of your past circumstances! No, the greatest thing that you can do is find closure. DO NOT become haunted by what happened--find a way to move on. It won't be easy, and it may take a while, but DO NOT let this horrible thing rule your life. DO NOT let it taint your hope in humanity, or your faith in God.

That is true forgiveness.

Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord. On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. -Romans 12:19-21
God will keep you safe. Pray, grow in your relationship with Him, and BE HAPPY. The way to conquer our past is to look forward to our future, and to enjoy the present. Remember that it was not your fault in any way. You were innocent. And you are STRONG.
 
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AdorableNoel

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I dont know if my posts were mistaken for being best friends with your captors..
As someone who was abused(sexually.. physically, mentally, verballly.. name em all)i know that.. it's not okay to be mad at that person anymore. Ever think about how they probably dont think too much of you, so why should you spend you precious time thinking about them?
'Disliking' isn't quite right.. being kind and compassionate puts behind those bad thoughts.

With complete respect, i dont see how christians can tell someone who's hurting it's okay to be angry. God gave us anger for a completely different reason. That kind of anger controls people, and in time she needs to break those chains.
so.. oh geez now im begining to get upset haha.
Do not tell this child that she should have wrongful thoughts.
Bless you LouisDritz , also the One you should be turning to for answers is God and God alone. "WWJD" haha.. as a christian you want be like him, no? He was abused far worse than any of us.. but still he asked His father while he was on the cross to forgive His abusers and even LOVED them with all of His heart (thats a really big heart) Jesus lives in you, so you are capable of forgiving and even praying for your abusers. As i've said, it's not easy.. but choosing to walk with God has never been easy.

God Bless <3
 
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betrys

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Let's be clear on what I mean by anger here: "wrath: belligerence aroused by a real or supposed wrong" and dislike: "an inclination to withhold approval from some person or group" -Princeton University's Lexicon

No, I did not get confused in your posts. I know you don't want her to be best friends with her captors! But I do still disagree with you. I told her that it was okay to dislike them, not to be angry towards them. There is a huge difference.

God "withhold's approval" from people all the time. Pharisees, Liars, Adulterers, Thieves... he did not approve of them because they were unrepentant SINNERS. And the people who abused her were the same. So when we use the word dislike, we are simply saying that she should not CONDONE or make excuses for their horrible behavior. Instead, she should put her anger and her desire for retribution in the hands of the Lord (Romans 12:19-21, above). How is that wrong?

That being said, it is true that she needs to move on. I said that in my last post. I think that Ephesians 4:31-32 can really help there. We cannot give a detailed map out of her suffering, because that is her journey and not our own. And so I repeat:

God will keep you safe. Pray, grow in your relationship with Him, and BE HAPPY. The way to conquer our past is to look forward to our future, and to enjoy the present. Remember that it was not your fault in any way. You were innocent. And you are STRONG
Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. -James 1:12

This is YOUR trial, and it is a very difficult and long one, indeed. It won't always be a walk in the park to live well, and to hold off your resentment. Remember WHO exactly you are--a child of God, someone who is CAPABLE and WONDERFUL and made in his image. It will be hard. But you can fight it, and with God in your heart, I know that you can succeed.
 
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Jordache

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Some day we will all hear the things we told people and be humiliated. I know that I've said some very ungracious things, but here's you number one warning sign that you will probably come off ungraciously.
My heart hurts for you because i do know some of your pain... And in general I know great pain. My father began raping my older sister and I when we were infants. He continued until I was about 8. I hated my father for years. We are created by a just God and therefore look for justice. It's natural and healthy in proportion. We also hav a merciful God which often doesn't seem just to victims. It's also natural to feel that way. Feelings, including anger, are neither right nor wrong. What we do with them determines he righteousness of them. I am angry for you. The father is angry at what occurred. He is angered by people's bad choices. He is angered when his children are hurt. It is healthy to express anger and resolve it. It will eat you alive of you allow it to become bitterness and rage.
I confronted my father a few years ago and he stopped speaking to me. Over a year, I kept my distance and worked on forgiving him for what I understood then. A few years later he developed cancer and lived near me for 6 months while he awaited a transplant. In January, after a year of counseling and gaining of understanding, I confronted him again but do to me things I had grown enough to admit. He completely disowned me. Over one crazy weekend, by the grace of God, I ended up seeing him.' he was unable to speak, but I was able to forgive him and tell him. I was able to s
 
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Jordache

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Speak to him about the Lord and offer Him grace. PM me. We'll talk.
 
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Jhaymee

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Hi LouiseDritz. My name is Jaime and I am 14. I just wanted to let you know that I am here for you and I have also prayed for you and will continue to pray for you. I know that what you and your family went through must have been a very difficult thing for you to deal with and I am very sorry that you even had to go through that. But God is always by your side, no matter what the circumstance. We all love and support you! Feel free to message me anytime :)
 
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kat2819

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I admire your strength for living through that and will pray for you.
 
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zero_lover101

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You're in my prayers<3
 
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jkalyna

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I have terrible memories, I was kidnapped when I was thirteen and and I was with my kidnappers for a whole year. They abused me to the point where I couldn't walk or talk, and they also took my virginity away from me. I am 15 now, and I still have angry, bitter and hateful thoughts toward them? Should I? please pray for me.
THIS IS A TERRIBLE THING THAT HAD HAPPENED TO YOU. EVIL HAD USED THESE PEOPLE NOT ONLY TO TAKE YOUR PURITY AWAY, BUT ALSO TO TAKE THE LOVE OF GOD OUT OF YOUR HEART, AND TO TAKE HIS PURITY AWAY HIS LOVE. A LOT OF THOUGHTS, ESPECIALLY, ANGER, AND BITTERNESS COULD BE IN THIS PLACE. ONE OF THE CHALLENGES AHEAD WILLL BE TRUST. SCRIPTURE REVEALS THE TRUE ESSENCE. FEAR IN PLACE OF LOVE, IS THE MOUNTAIN YOU NEED TO REMOVE. THESE ARE THE MEMORIES, THIS MOUNTAIN. "SCRIPTURE SAY'S " GOD HAS NOT GIVEN US A SPIRIT OF FEAR", BUT PERFECT LOVE CASTS OUT FEAR. YOUR STEP TOWARDS, PRAYER, AND BELIEVE IS LOCKING THESE THINGS OUT AND CASTING THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE. " GOD HAS GIVEN US, PEACE, AND ORDER , AND A SOUND MIND." DON'T LET THE EVIL THINGS OF THIS WORLD HIJACK YOU SPRIITUALLLY. ONE WAY TO OVERCOME THIS, IS PRAYER, AND CONTINUE TO PRAY UNTIL YOU FEEL SET FREE. UNFORGIVENESS, IS BEING A CAPTIVE OF THE OFFENDERS, EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE GONE, BUT YOUR MIND IN CAPTIVITY OF THE MEMORIES. FORGIVE THEM LET THE CHAINS FALL OFF YOUR HANDS, AND KNOW YOU ARE NO LONGER A SLAVE, BUT SET FREE BY JESUS." IT IS WRITTEN, " WHOM THE SON SETS FREE IS FREE INDEED." FORGIVE, AND WHEN THE ENEMEY ATTACKS YOUR THOUGHTS, PRAY AND" BRING INTO CAPTIVITY YOUR THOUGHTS", ALSO A VERSE
COMMIT YOURSELF TO FORGIVE, NO MATTER WHAT. FORGIVE, AND PRAY. IT IS WRITTEN," RESIST THE DEVIL AND HE WILL FLEE FROM YOU". DON'T GIVE THE ENEMY TO DO THIS TO YOU AGAIN, SPIRITUALLY. PRAY. USE THE WORD, LIKE A SWORD. FOR IT IS WRITTEN," WE ARE MORE THAN CONQUERORS, THROUGH CHRIST JESUS. DESTROY YOUR MEMORIES, AND ALL THE BAD WITH IT WITH THE WORD OF THE LORD. THINK ON THESE THINGS" THE WORD OF THE LORD. READ JOHN 17. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. FATHER TAKE THIS LIFE AND BLESS IT, FOR YOU SAVED HER NOT ONCE BUT TWICE NOW. AMEN