What is my best option here?

[JoshJoseph2]

I will try to explain as much as possible.
When i was around 14 years of age i left school, i also shut off just about all contact with friends or anyone else for that matter that wasn't my parents or grandparents or people i knew online. I am now 18 years of age and looking to make changes and get the needed fellowship to walk with God. In those 4 years away from people i also battled with a lot of porn problems. I am still going through some trouble with lusting after girls to this day. A week ago i joined a 12-18 youth group and i am being attracted to some of the girls who are likely under 18. I think the reason for this is because as i explained above i shut off just about all contact with the outside world, so some of my attractions are likely still there from the 14 year old boy perspective. Though i am still attracted to people my own age, there is still "left overs" My options are as follows -
A) I leave the current youth group and join another church that has an 18+ youth program, the problem with this option is that it starts in september and i will have to wait an entire month for fellowship and another problem is i have become good friends with people (the guys my own age) in my current youth group, so that could be difficult for me to move away from that, and its no guarantee that i will find good friendship in the next youth group i go to, like i have now.

B) I continue in the current youth group and try to battle my attractions and not act on them. I suppose i could talk with a youth pastor about my attractions with this option and we may be able to work something out.

C) I look for a group within my current church that allows me to keep my friends while staying away from those under 18. (this may not be an option but it is one i suppose i could look into, if you think it is necessary to stay away from those under 18)

 

[Tobby17]

I think Option B is best if you can talk to your youth pastor about it

 

[Henry_YZ]

You'll find young girls wherever you'll go, it will be practically impossible to avoid them. I think it's better to face the problem. So I think option B seems the best...

 

[Ugly]

While its true young girls are everywhere, putting yourself in a position every week to work directly with them, closely and getting to know them on a personal level is just putting temptation in your face. That's like telling an alcoholic trying to quit to work at a bar. Yeah, alcohol is everywhere, but that doesn't mean you put it in your face constantly when you have another choice.
I say remove yourself in whatever fashion you can, from working with youth. I know, if i were a parent to find out that someone working with my teen daughter was struggling with what you are i would not not let her continue. That's why when people are convicted of sex crimes against minors they are often prohibited from any job, or volunteer work involving minors, or often even living within a certain radius of schools.
You also will do better if you get help from sources who know first hand how to deal with this addiction. So yes, i would go to your pastor, i would stop working with youth.. but try this link as well... Porn Addiction - Treatment and Recovery
They specialize in helping people with all types of sex and porn addictions from a biblical perspective. Hope this helps.

 

[Kathleen]

I think option A is the best route. Although, yes, you will come into contact with younger girls or w/e, it is best to try and avoid it. It is better to cross the road away from that.

Not to sound bad or w/e, but if you were to lust after a 14yr old ect, youll potentially be accused of being a peaodphile or w/e, its happened before. You dont want that obviously, it is better to change youth group and do your best to distance yourself from any unwanted temptation.