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We’ve been together for 1.5 years( both eighteen). She was brought up ridiculously pampered and spoiled by her wealthy parents who never told her “no”. She’s never had a job or had to work for anything( usually pouting until she gets her way) and has enjoyed being handed things on a silver platter. She is Mae West esque with her vocabulary
"I don't think a girl can ever be pampered enough" is her excuse if I sarcastically ask her why I should buy her xyz item.
I’m well off as well but I never had anything handed to me, I have a job, and buy stuff at K mart. Basically every weekend she’ll come over and we’ll go to the mall where it’s mandatory to buy her whatever she wants. If I didn't she will pout,cross her arms, whine, roll her eyes, and make me feel horrible. Sometimes she’ll would ask nicely/suck up but other times she’ll just hold out her hand and say “ sweetie, money”. Since I want to be nice, I give in. It made me mad though when she throws in little comments like “ You’re like a little ATM” or when we were with her friends she’d tell them how “ well trained” she had me and how I'm wrapped around her little finger .( that one made me sick) or what she used to do until she finally quit was I would give her the money and or credit card and she would pat me on the head like a dog and say “ That's a good boy.” Her idea of a joke is " You better enjoy this relationship because I'm the prettiest girl you'll ever date". I’ve always enjoyed things like going on drives, walks, movies, reading( you can’t read as a couple but still) etc.
I asked her before why she doesn’t reciprocate( other than xmas and birthday) and she’d laugh and tell me “Girlfriends don’t indulge boyfriends”. I think if I broke up with her then she will bash me around school and make me sound mean and cold. During the holidays I did put on the " holiday pounds" which didn't help because I'm already overweight. I take her out to nice place but she is bossy and overbearing . One of our dinner conversations went along the lines of
Her: What are you thinking?
Me: Maybe the ... burger
Her: That looks so fattening, better pick something else, you don't need to get bigger/
Me: * sarcastically* How bout a salad ?
Her: No dressing though, it's bad for you and your breath
I ended up with a burger and she looked disgusted the whole time and told me " Fine, but no dessert and you will start dieting if you're going to eat like this. Usually on these dates, she texts the whole time.
"I don't think a girl can ever be pampered enough" is her excuse if I sarcastically ask her why I should buy her xyz item.
I’m well off as well but I never had anything handed to me, I have a job, and buy stuff at K mart. Basically every weekend she’ll come over and we’ll go to the mall where it’s mandatory to buy her whatever she wants. If I didn't she will pout,cross her arms, whine, roll her eyes, and make me feel horrible. Sometimes she’ll would ask nicely/suck up but other times she’ll just hold out her hand and say “ sweetie, money”. Since I want to be nice, I give in. It made me mad though when she throws in little comments like “ You’re like a little ATM” or when we were with her friends she’d tell them how “ well trained” she had me and how I'm wrapped around her little finger .( that one made me sick) or what she used to do until she finally quit was I would give her the money and or credit card and she would pat me on the head like a dog and say “ That's a good boy.” Her idea of a joke is " You better enjoy this relationship because I'm the prettiest girl you'll ever date". I’ve always enjoyed things like going on drives, walks, movies, reading( you can’t read as a couple but still) etc.
I asked her before why she doesn’t reciprocate( other than xmas and birthday) and she’d laugh and tell me “Girlfriends don’t indulge boyfriends”. I think if I broke up with her then she will bash me around school and make me sound mean and cold. During the holidays I did put on the " holiday pounds" which didn't help because I'm already overweight. I take her out to nice place but she is bossy and overbearing . One of our dinner conversations went along the lines of
Her: What are you thinking?
Me: Maybe the ... burger
Her: That looks so fattening, better pick something else, you don't need to get bigger/
Me: * sarcastically* How bout a salad ?
Her: No dressing though, it's bad for you and your breath
I ended up with a burger and she looked disgusted the whole time and told me " Fine, but no dessert and you will start dieting if you're going to eat like this. Usually on these dates, she texts the whole time.
It's sucks to say it but it's true, people change. And, just as often for the worse as for the good. Your choice of what you need to do though, and I pray and hope you make a choice that changed things for the better