Had to tell someone that we couldn't go out because of differences we had

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ArtsieSteph

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This sucks. It really does. I usually don't do venting forums but here goes.

I had to tell a guy that looked completely amazing on paper and asked ME for MY NUMBER. This has never happened to me in my entire life. But believes that extramarital sex outside of marriage is ok. I think he means before marriage, but I'm not sure. Pretty sure he isn't Christian. I know this is best but....eh....
 

djness

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This sucks. It really does. I usually don't do venting forums but here goes.

I had to tell a guy that looked completely amazing on paper and asked ME for MY NUMBER. This has never happened to me in my entire life. But believes that extramarital sex outside of marriage is ok. I think he means before marriage, but I'm not sure. Pretty sure he isn't Christian. I know this is best but....eh....
An online guy or a flesh bag?
 

djness

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Our existence can be so cruel.
 
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ServantStrike

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This sucks. It really does. I usually don't do venting forums but here goes.

I had to tell a guy that looked completely amazing on paper and asked ME for MY NUMBER. This has never happened to me in my entire life. But believes that extramarital sex outside of marriage is ok. I think he means before marriage, but I'm not sure. Pretty sure he isn't Christian. I know this is best but....eh....
Eh, sounds like a deal breaker.

Even if he says he's not going to push for it, you know he will.

Some Christians nowadays say it's okay too. I'm not saying they're right, I'm just saying they claim it's okay.
 
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Tintin

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I'm sorry, mate. That's really rough. But it's great that you let him go now, rather than later. There would've been more struggles and hurt to deal with then. You acted with godly integrity. God is proud of you. :)
 

ArtsieSteph

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Eh, sounds like a deal breaker.

Even if he says he's not going to push for it, you know he will.

Some Christians nowadays say it's okay too. I'm not saying they're right, I'm just saying they claim it's okay.
Yeah I know, it's crazy that some Christians do that, it is just not a good idea.



I'm sorry, mate. That's really rough. But it's great that you let him go now, rather than later. There would've been more struggles and hurt to deal with then. You acted with godly integrity. God is proud of you. :) ~ Tintin
Yeah I think that it was best for us both.
 
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Hellooo

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This is the first time in my entire existence that I've heard of a flesh bag.
 
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cmarieh

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Flesh bag! Shockingly enough!! Found out he was not Christian, and the obvious sex thing, so he got the boot.
Good for you! Us, ladies deserve an honest, faithful, man of God. :)
 

JonahLynx

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Definitely the right choice! Not many people make it nowadays.
 

ArtsieSteph

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Definitely the right choice! Not many people make it nowadays.
Thanks man. God has helped me to make this, honestly. If it were up to just me I'd probably end up being stupid and trying to ignore the obvious. This would be unfair to me and to the guy.
 
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ServantStrike

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nobody ever asks me for my number...
I don't think anyone has ever asked me for my phone number.

You just have to ask them instead :D. I mean, they might not say yes (I think my success rate is somewhere lower than 25 percent, maybe like ten percent). But that's why you just do it a lot of times.

Even with a 1 percent success rate, if you ask 100 people, you eventually get one that says yes. And with those kind of numbers, you just ask people out while shopping for groceries or whatever other boring normal daily tasks you're doing. If it doesn't work, that's fine, you just ask another 100 people.

I've never asked 100 people out in my life either.

Apparently I'm boring.