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i dont want to be gay but its hard not to.. what do i do? i dont want to talk to my parents or anyone i know about it becaus ei dont want them to know.. 
help please...
help please...
If you are in Christ you would have received the Spirit of God and from that point on you should have been convicted regarding these desires, as well as the rest of the sinful nature. You also now have two natures, the old sinful nature and the new man in Christ which would have begun once you received Christ.
Scripture states that those who are truly in Christ will not be able to continue living according to the sinful nature and that because the Spirit of God dwells in them and His word remains in them (1 John 3:9). If the Spirit of God is truly in you, then you will continue to be convicted of these desires, while at the same time your flesh, the old nature, will want to remain in control.
One thing is for sure is that, you cannot continue in it and that because willfully living according to the sinful nature leads to death. For as scripture says:
"Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life."
Never give into the sinful nature by compromising, as so many are doing today saying "God loves me just as I am." God does love us, but He requires repentance, which is a change of mind, a turning from the sinful nature with God. Because you are in Christ, if indeed you are in Christ, you must continue to resist these desires, just as with any sin, and continue to pray that God will take those desires away and deliver you from this.
The powers of darkness are also behind influencing you with these desires and that because they know that if they can keep you living according to that life style that it leads to death. It is going to be a battle, but if you continue in prayer and continue to fight against it, to resist it, God will deliver you from it.
Think about this, if homosexuality was normal, you wouldn't have a problem talking to your parents or anyone else about it. The same goes for all of the world who are fighting so hard to make this life style acceptable, for it was normal it wouldn't even be an issue.
Just keep in mind that willfully continuing in sexual immorality of any kind leads to death whether believer or unbeliever, as the scripture above that was written to the Galatian believers attests to.
I, as well as others here, will pray for your deliverance from these sexually immoral desires.
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I don't have the sage wisdom of a teenager who has never walked in these shoes. Frankly I don't have the sage wisdom of anyone who has had to walk in these shoes. All I have to offer is what's on my heart.
Many gays I've talked to have sincerely wanted to stop being gay. They've prayed, confessed, rebuked, the whole deal, and you know what, nothing changed. I've heard the heartbreak in their voice. So those who are going to act like it will just go away insta like, maybe back down, slow down, and understand that's probably the exception to the rule. These are hurting people, and let's be careful of saying and doing things that will put them further into despair.
These are bruised reeds, and we can't crush them or damage them further. We need to find the proper balance between truth, grace, and patience, and frankly some of the sages are messing up gravely and putting these people into further despair. So stop it.
I don't know the answer and solution to this, but I do know the solution isn't to always act like the solution is just an insta snap solution, and the solution probably involves patience, love, and Godly understanding.
Many gays I've talked to have sincerely wanted to stop being gay. They've prayed, confessed, rebuked, the whole deal, and you know what, nothing changed. I've heard the heartbreak in their voice. So those who are going to act like it will just go away insta like, maybe back down, slow down, and understand that's probably the exception to the rule. These are hurting people, and let's be careful of saying and doing things that will put them further into despair.
These are bruised reeds, and we can't crush them or damage them further. We need to find the proper balance between truth, grace, and patience, and frankly some of the sages are messing up gravely and putting these people into further despair. So stop it.
I don't know the answer and solution to this, but I do know the solution isn't to always act like the solution is just an insta snap solution, and the solution probably involves patience, love, and Godly understanding.