I am seeking to meet a Christian Woman to Marry... (USA)

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tourist

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With the disclaimer that I am in one of those moods and this post is for entertainment purposes only and in no way do I believe it to reflect the true heart or intent of the OP:

My clarifications are in blue:

If you are a woman in the United States seeking the same, private message me! I am a philosophy/theology grad student (I've spent a lot of time getting my head filled with theories of how everything should be) aiming to be a teacher (you would therefore be the learner and I'll teach you everything you need to know about how things are supposed to be). I am old fashioned (and if I had any PR skills or tact at all I would have changed this to traditional), willing to be assertive and be the pursuer.(that's why I asked any interested female to pm ME rather than finding ones I might be interested in) As far as the type of person I am seeking, perhaps someone who hasn't bought into the lie of secular feminism which has destroyed marriage and family life in America (I want a woman who wants to stay home, make babies, cook and clean)? Someone witty (make me laugh), athletic (chubby, unattractive ladies need not apply), non-prudish (I say I'm old fashioned but I want to go pretty far before the wedding)... a folky-guitar singer? Okay I shouldn't be so specific (but I'm still looking for my perfect match and I really am this picky), but the first for sure! I am not seeking an internet quickie-bride (I won't marry you just because you pm me), I desire to get to know and befriend a young woman in real life (that's why I'm looking on the internet) to see if the Lord might bless the relationship with a lifelong vocation (being married to me will be a lot of work) mirroring the nuptial (UNBREAKABLE) union between Christ and the Church (I'm a theology major, I'm going to overspiritualize everything, use big words you can't understand, and oh I don't believe in divorce).
In my estimation you knocked one out of the park in your response and superior to my lame reply. Well done!
 

tourist

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The OP is intelligent in his opening remarks but unfortunately his words lacks warmth and sensitivity. Seems a bit condescending as well. I retract my earlier posts to this thread. This guy does not have a clue.
 

tourist

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This guy seems to be writing his theist on how to kill the romance in a relationship. I prefer an old-fashion love letter myself but that is just me.
 
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Just to say this, out of context: "This will be my last post in response to any of the pro-feminatzi taunters, and I mean it... I am responding to Liza at length, as she is the only one who has offered a coherent line or argumentation."

It sounded like giving up! :)

I´d like to encourage you, but THAT is for girls, solely.

I wish there were a device to share live life experiences, but there´s not.

You´ll find her (otherwise they or she will).

But don´t view her as pro-feminist (She is and all would be).

I could be involved in the macho men movement, but i know how those have ended up: Loneliness + isolation.

Cheer up! You are young, friend.
 
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This guy seems to be writing his theist on how to kill the romance in a relationship. I prefer an old-fashion love letter myself but that is just me.
I saw myself in him. I like his ways (I walked all over it) but he will find out that´s not the way to be approached.

Aren´t girls telling him so?
 
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The OP is intelligent in his opening remarks but unfortunately his words lacks warmth and sensitivity. Seems a bit condescending as well. I retract my earlier posts to this thread. This guy does not have a clue.
You are right, tourist, but he needed it his try. ;)
 

just_monicat

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Of course it was fueled by bitterness bro, if you read the nuance of my long winded comments that I inserted inbetween her blue text, I have identified some possible causes behind that bitterness. The philosophers Frederick Nietzsche and Max Scheler called that kind of bitterness "ressentiment," they said that it arises in someone as a non-cognitive-emotion when a positive value that ought to exist in that person's conscience is absent. Cinder may not be aware of it, but even as a Christian lady she is affected by the ideology of feminism. This ideology robs women of a sense of what ought to be rightly valued in masculinity and femininity, and the result is a bitterness that they may or may not realize is there.

i'm sorry, i have to call baloney on this. you can cite nietzsche and scheler, use jargon and offer solid theory, but that doesn't make it true. it makes you one prone to assumption on the basis of nothing more than what was a late-night attempt at humor (albeit, at your expense).

but that's because 've gotten to know cinder well enough to recognize that for what it was.

but you don't know cinder at all, nor me, nor anyone else here. if you had come and integrated into the community of people and utilized this place in the spirit for which it was intended (friendship and fellowship) you'd know us well enough to assign our character and ideology flaws more accurately. : )

whether you choose to accept this or not, coming here to do a "drive-by personal ad" is seldom going to be treated with the serious intention you hoped for.

and despite your statement that you could "care less" about advice and ridicule (your words, not mine) you've proven that you're certainly not apathetic about feedback, and probably looking for a debate of some kind.

or maybe that's your "default setting".

also, i wanted to say i've enjoyed reading much of what you shared. while i don't agree with 100% of what you shared, we probably agree more than disagree, and think you'd make a welcome addition to this community.

if you're serious about looking for a wife online and wish to use cc for your purposes, i think you'd be more successful by trying an approach that is more laid back, and focused on getting to know other ladies. there are a lot of godly women (and men) here, but i sincerely doubt that the woman you think you're looking for is going to take this seriously. and i mean that in the very nicest of ways.

or take it to christian mingle. : )

but it's not fair for you to be disappointed when YOU come here, post something that you already know (and been informed of) isn't an accepted (or even welcome) practice, and others don't take this seriously.
 
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JesusLives

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I'm too old to say anything but Good Luck in your search.

Been there done that.
 
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Theology has nothing to do with the intrinsically social nature of the status of contemporary marriage and family structure. Theologians deal predominantly in spiritual matters pertaining to God and the nature of religious beliefs, not extrapolations from religious beliefs. Theology may offer an opinion on a given social matter, but it can't markedly associate anything without alluding to political science, demographics, or the like.
UUuuuffff!

I wish SOMEONE read Hosea book, at least.

He took back his promiscous wife "home" and SOMEONE said that: "Theology has nothing to do with the intrinsically social nature of the status of contemporary marriage and family structure. "

I need new glasses!

I´m getting BLIND. :cool:


PS

What about SAMSON and Delilah?

There are several cases in the Bible I READ. :)
 
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Thank you MAN!

Because OF YOU I have received a PRESENT from PENSACOLA...


Phhhsss! (I kept it just form me)
 

JesusLives

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hahaha!

Can we make a new group for "retired" ones?

haahahah!
Now if his request had been retired looking to stay home or travel using all christian moral standards I would have hopped on that in a hot minute. I so want to take a road trip and have no one to travel with it's killing me.
 

posthuman

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I desire to get to know and befriend a young woman in real life to see if the Lord might bless the relationship with a lifelong vocation mirroring the nuptial (UNBREAKABLE) union between Christ and the Church.

this is touching, and fills me with thankfulness for the wonderful woman the Lord gave me as my own wife!

may God soon grant you your desires in Him :)
 
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I can't really understand anything you're trying to say, secularhermit.
 
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SabbieWabbie

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I love it! Women are usually the ones that do not date "chubby" guys but that's ok. If a man feels the same it's just not right!
Absolutely NOTHING wrong with your preference. It's just hypocrisy that he expects her to be athletic but not go to the gym while he expects her to pop out a ton of babies.
 
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I really could care less for the ridicule this post may elicit, and I am not asking for anyone's advice on making this post either...

If you are a woman in the United States seeking the same, private message me! I am a philosophy/theology grad student aiming to be a teacher. I am old fashioned, willing to be assertive and be the pursuer. As far as the type of person I am seeking, perhaps someone who hasn't bought into the lie of secular feminism which has destroyed marriage and family life in America? Someone witty, athletic, non-prudish... a folky-guitar singer? Okay I shouldn't be so specific, but the first for sure! I am not seeking an internet quickie-bride, I desire to get to know and befriend a young woman in real life to see if the Lord might bless the relationship with a lifelong vocation mirroring the nuptial (UNBREAKABLE) union between Christ and the Church.

When I first joined this site my motives were that of your own. God has led me to a beautiful woman and we are currently exchanging letters. Only time will tell how it plays out but the person that I am writing to is always in my thoughts and on my heart. Only time will tell whether she is a keeper or not as I am allowing God to direct me in this most special relationship. What ever happens will be God's will and desire for both of our lives. This is my prayer for the both of us.

May God be with you in your pursuit. Life can be an adventure for those brave enough to allow God to direct their paths. I would caution you to allow God to make the selection for you as to your future wife, one that is suitable for you and satisfies your hopes and desires as well as her own. You have cast your line upon the waters and must now patiently wait for that special woman to take a nibble.

Please take the time also during the chase and allow God for you to respond also to those that He may send your way. This site is full of lonely people who are hurting deep inside and they are worthy of consideration and respect.
This is probably the most mature and constructive response that I have received on this site, if only more of the women who are my age would have your wisdom, good sir!!
 
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SabbieWabbie

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She took one sentence that I wrote out of context, and interpreted in a way that contradicts the whole of what I did say. Anyone can do that, you go ahead and take notes, buddy ;)

(I want a woman who wants to stay home, make babies, cook and clean)?
Yes! Exactly! The one part where you're spot on! I also qualified that statement though, adding the dimension of friendship and love. If you are ridiculing me for this point, would you rather have me be complacent with a woman who will rarely be home, who will employ abortion and or artificial contraception to inhibit making babies so she can keep her career, who will hardly be able to cook a friggin hard-boiled egg, and who will hire servants to clean since she will have been working all day after having dumped off the one or two children we did conceive at day care?? Of course you would. For this is what secular feminism is all about :)

I assume this is what you are saying I took out of context?
Well no, you only gave two options: Either she stayed home and had babies and cooked and cleaned or you would have to accept a women who employs abortion. Which insinuates that if she doesn't cook and clean she must be the latter.

And I wasn't the one who said notes, I wouldn't be that silly you obviously expect to be teaching and the woman to take notes. You can take it, you can leave it. It's your choice.

It's just a suggestion to let go of the pride because in all of this you seem to have made it about YOU, Marriage never was about you, It's about God. Marriage, Children, Families-lock, stock and barrel is for our Lord, to bring Him praise.I don't recall you saying anything about her loving the Lord and serving Him, it was all about serving YOU. God will not bring this amazing woman you picture into your life if you have so much pride, it's like giving hard candy to a kid with no teeth, only a cruel mother would do that.

As you have this list, she too has a list and what she is looking for might be what God needs to work on with you first. You really could be holding up your own destiny. Ask God to make you just as amazing for her as you expect her to be for you. Don't take offence to this, I am not saying there is anything wrong with you. The right kind of Godly women deserves the right kind of Godly man.
 
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I can't really understand anything you're trying to say, secularhermit.
Ok!

You said this: "Theology has nothing to do with the intrinsically social nature of the status of contemporary marriage and family structure."

I tried to say this: "Have you read Hosea Book?"

Hos 1:2 When the LORD first spoke through Hosea, the LORD said to Hosea, "Go, take to yourself a wife of whoredom and have children of whoredom, for the land commits great whoredom by forsaking the LORD." (this goes more and more, inside the Bible)

I will not try to repeat what the Bible teaches contradicting "the social nature and the status of present day of the family..

The past is the same today!

Sodoma and Gomorrah is the same today.

Just tried to tell you that theology serves to KNOW human race, from the past, from today, and tomorrow.

And excuse me if I´m so dull and clumsy to explain nothig I can´t.

It was not my intention to get you upset.
 
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Using these sad images of a "society" God showed Hosea the way to redeem broken families (and I´m glad I´m not a man like Hosea was).

God said: "Go again, love a woman who is loved by another man and is an adulteress, even as the LORD loves the children of Israel, though they turn to other gods and love cakes of raisins." (Hos 3:1)

I think there is more SOCIAL psychology here than in Bob Dobson´s books.

:)
 
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"...it was all about serving YOU..."

That is a woman worth of godly attention. :)