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JimJimmers

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Your clarified analogy suggests that I'm being illogical by drawing an allegedly arbitrary line between X issue and Y issue, and that really isn't the case at all. Again, there's a clear distinction to be made between domestic issues in which women usually perform on the roughly same par as men and issues involving direct combat roles for women, or any other issue in which gender, again, has a compelling and legitimate influence on the issue in question. I never implied that you advocated traditional gender roles -- I'm only attempting to demonstrate why your analogy is too shallow to offer any serious, credible objections to my stance.

I don't believe women should be excluded from the draft, either -- but that's not to imply that we should automatically be potentially subject for direct infantry combat roles within the draft. Female tankers and airmen would be fine (assuming they don't have to face the same qualifications as infantry, but I have no clue whether they do or not), or even female snipers, but front-line infantry combat is another world entirely. Doubling the draft pool and increasing qualification standards would be fine for indirect combat or non-direct-infantry roles, but if they were applied to direct combat roles for infantry or infantry-oriented combat, women would clearly fall even further behind men at the expense of the State in the absence of an efficient, rigorous screening process that would only end up dumping boatloads upon boatloads of women into other areas of the military, anyway. What would be the point, especially given the fact that there's an ample amount of qualified, capable men that could handle hypothetically higher qualification and fitness standards better than women?

I wholeheartedly stand by the belief that purely elective participation in direct combat roles, especially those involving direct infantry combat, is the most sensible discourse. A draft for women with respect to indirect combat or support roles is fine, and increasing qualification standards for these roles is also fine -- but again, there's a clear distinction to be made between the genders in terms of physical endurance and prowess. Dealing with the masses of women that would inevitably struggle in direct infantry combat training places a superfluous burden on the State; screening out most, or at least a large fraction, of women for these roles would be little more than a headache for those responsible for transferring draftees to other candidacies within the military while simultaneously only negligibly boosting the overall force of capable, trained female infantry at the economic expense of the State.
"Female tankers and airmen would be fine (assuming they don't have to face the same qualifications as infantry, but I have no clue whether they do or not), or even female snipers, but front-line infantry combat is another world entirely."


I was actually just going to ask you that very question. Would you be okay with women being drafted as cooks, drivers, quartermasters, logistics, on-base medics, etc. Your answer is clearly yes, and that goes much farther in carrying your point.

I could debate your point about women performing "roughly on par with men" when someone's life could be on the line, but I'm not going to. I'm a feminist of sorts, I really just wanted to see where this discussion would lead.

Very small point, a sniper is indeed playing a "direct combat role in a military draft", but is not front lines infantry.


Anyway, how about that other thread? Are you game? :)
 
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I just think it's funny that the OP said
"If you are a woman in the United States seeking the same, private message me!"
and
" I am old fashioned, willing to be assertive and be the pursuer. "
in the same post. :D You clearly want to be pursued, which is fine.. hehe.
 

tourist

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You must've misunderstood me. To clarify, I'm not attempting to imply that exceptions shouldn't be made toward women that voluntarily pursue an occupation and have the qualifications to do so -- I'm really only pointing out that equality to its denoted logical extreme is arguably unjustifiable, specifically in reference to being forcibly pressed into a given scenario in light of discrepancies between genders that would drastically influence, or would otherwise be heavily contingent upon, a given circumstance.
What did you just say? I am not even sure what this thread is about anymore.
 
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What? You've specifically stated that you've apparently no interest in pursuing a discussion with "feminatzi taunters" here, and you've even bothered to emphasize the point. Naturally, I didn't bother to respond -- it'd be a waste of time to reply to a post without the possibility of being acknowledged, correct?

If anything, your infantile, laughably spiteful appeal to immunity is indicative of your own argumentative mediocrity, although your misconstrued, pointlessly convoluted gish gallop of a response to my post wouldn't stand up in any credible, formal debate. You haven't "refuted" anything -- in fact, you didn't even bother to directly address my primary thesis concerning the lack of evidence regarding contemporary feminist sentiments in particular as being the sole or primary destructive agent in marriages and families, and you have in fact clearly alluded to faith-based and incredulously outmoded argumentation in spite of claiming otherwise while opting to espouse some estranged, spiritually metaphysical line of thought with no credible empirical basis whatsoever. You've even lamented its demise in the latter part of your post. You're free to label it as legitimate philosophy all you'd like, but it's nevertheless based in one particular manifestation of religious faith.

With that, I'll ask whether you'd actually like me to respond to you, and whether you truly "mean it" this time around -- that is, unless you're only about to pathetically reiterate that you've "already schooled me" and that there's "no reason for me to respond" as a result while simultaneously proclaiming that you're not going to respond further to "feminatzis." Because, clearly, you "mean it" this time around. :rolleyes:

You should also probably consider spelling "feminazis" correctly in the future, Jethro. Just a little friendly advice. :eek:
Liza, you use a lot of unnecessary words to sound smart. All you have done is insult me in your words in an ad hominem attack. I did refute your claim, but not by simply contradicting the conclusion with my own conclusion (that is not good argumentation) but by exposing the lies of the premises upon which your conclusion is built on. And I would think that I know what is philosophy and what isn't, little girl, both of my BA and Masters degrees are in philosophy. My refutation of your claims is based on classical pre-enlightenment metaphysics and ethics; you say that I "clearly alluded to faith-based and incredulously outmoded argumentation." Please show me how my points are "faith based", and also show me how my line of reasoning is "outmoded" in your view. Just because you hold that a non-positivistic-empiricist line of thinking is "outmoded" does not make it so. Please respond to my point by point address of each of your premises that I took completely from your own line of reasoning. I will let common sense and the voice of reason (in the general public on this website) express who is closer to the truth in our reasoning. I have re posted my responses for the sake of convenience. Please address the actual content of what I have written. Note that it is not a valid argument to simply say "you are appealing to classical metaphysics and ethics therefore you are wrong." If you are going to write off thousands of years of philosophical history (prior to secular-enlightenment of the 18th century) you need to give a credible reason as to why this is so. I look forward to your astute philosophical analysis which I presume you have picked up in your highschool studies in public school.

Liza's own words will always be cited in bold. Liza is disagreeing with my thesis that “Contemporary feminism has"destroyed marriage and family life." She offers three premises in support of her argument against me that “there's no credible evidence to suggest that feminism in particular has "destroyed" anything from the perspective of mainstream political science.” I will treat the three premises that she uses successively and individually.

PREMISE I:
The first premise Liza's argument rests on is that any cultural phenomena [such as the breakdown of marriage and family] happens when “Social and cultural evolution progresses on behalf of a number of quantifiable variables, including society's political and economic climate, social liberalism and conservatism and the public sphere's reaction to these ideologies, the presence and proliferation of political countercultures, and the like.”


Liza's argument is as follows: The so called “destruction of marriage” is itself a phenomena that is found in the mix of history (it is a product of the coming together of various “quantifiable variables”). Accordingly, it is arbitrary to identify the historical feminism movement as the cause of the cultural phenomena of the breakdown of marriage and family, since “from the perspective of mainstream political science,” only a plurality of “quantifiable variables” can bring about such an occurance.


There is actually an embedded philosophy that is hidden in Liza's argument. It is my job as a philosopher to expose it for the common good :D Liza is presupposing a method of looking at reality as if nature itself is a mere conglomeration of empirical “quantifiable” parts (this is a peculiarly post-enlightenment modern-way of thinking developed by Sir Isaac Newton, Francis Bacon, and Rene Descartes amongst others). There is nothing wrong with modern science. This way of looking things that exist is fine when you need to figure out how to create a propulsion fuel that will send a rocket to the moon, or when you want to build a bridge or do any kind of utilitarian work involving mechanistic 'parts' that are empirically observable.


But when it is a question of studying the beauty and goodness of human nature, the modern mechanistic science of “quantifiable parts” reaches its limit. Masculinity and femininity is not just an empirical “phenomena” that happened to come to about by chance as a result impersonal forces. The beauty and goodness of manhood and womanhood speaks of another more robust and deeper manner of studying reality and nature (this is the way of western philosophy and Christian theology which used to hold prominence before the dawn of secular humanism following the “enlightenment.”) Main stream political science operates under the assumption that everything we can study in society is simply a product of forces that happen to come together (this is what Liza refers to when she mentions “society's political and economic climate, social liberalism and conservatism and the public sphere's reaction to these ideologies, the presence and proliferation of political countercultures, and the like”). Mainstream political science is incapable (on its own terms) of grasping the essence of Human Nature (and therefore what true femininity is) because it is constricted to operate within its own limited method of analyzing the world in terms of what is “quantifiable” as parts. Only a more profound and lucid way of looking at reality can realize that the proper goodness and beauty of “masculinity” and “femininity” within family life is not just the result a conglomeration of a plurality of worldly-based factors. The cause of the beauty of man and woman and of the goodness of the institute of marriage and the specific gender-roles that it involves is the result of FREEDOM. Only FREEDOM can create beauty and goodness. Quantifiable parts cannot cause beauty and goodness to come to exist out of nothing. A person who is FREE TO CREATE needs to be there to bestow order and purpose to whatever comes to exist as something meaningfull. (Christians and Jews understand this to be God in the original act of Creation). That quantifiable-wordly-phenomena cannot be the original-absolute source of goodness and beauty is evident to human reason regardless of whether or not one is speaking religiously. We do not need “religious faith” to know this, this is a rational point.


Contrary to what Liza is arguing, I hold that the break-down of marriage and family life is not just a occurrence that just so happened to come together from various economic and political factors operative in history in a general sense. Liza's claim that “there's no credible evidence to suggest that feminism in particular has "destroyed" anything from the perspective of mainstream political science” is correct only if we accept that the “perspective of mainstream political science” exhausts all true perspectives. I propose that Liza is wrong in thinking this way. It is reductive. It limits the study of human actions to modern sociology and modern political science (which is rooted in a purely empirical method of analysis). I answer that the break down of marriage and family life can only be caused by specific persons who are endowed with FREEDOM. The demise of marriage and family life is caused by all those who freely reject what is given to us as “femininity” and “masculinity” in its original beauty and goodness (and that is what secular feminism accomplishes).

(Response to Liza Continued)

PREMISE II


She writes: “Irrespective of one's religious preference, the philosophical concept of liberty and justice for all in any society that values equal rights should be upheld and respected in the highest degree... What women do with themselves within the context of this society is then up to the woman in particular, and that's exactly how it should be. Period.”


She is presupposing that the modern system of a democratic state is correct in placing all the emphasis on the fulfillment of the individual who is acting. This is a direct inheritance from the political philosophy of John Locke and Hobbes. It's logic is similar in as much as it bars out the relevance of the freedom of a person who lies BEYOND any worldly force, namely, the freedom of GOD who wills to create what is good and beautiful. It is certainly true that people [who themselves are free] are capable of deviating from the will of God, it is certainly true that every individual human being has the capacity to exercise his or her own freedom to do as they please: but that does not justify Liza's point that “What women do with themselves within the context of this society is then up to the woman in particular, and that's exactly how it should be. Period.” What if the women want to kill their own unborn children in the womb? What if women want to have success and a career more than they want to be a sacrificial presence for their family? When Liza says that “the philosophical concept of liberty and justice for all in any society that values equal rights should be upheld and respected in the highest degree”, she means the modern post-enlightenment concept of liberty developed in John Locke and Hobbes and applied in contemporary American constitutional-law. Liza apparently does not realize that the modern democratic forms of government and its accompanying language of “individual rights” is not fool-proof morally speaking. The “ individual freedom” of a democratic republic can error, and it does (it did when it made child-murder a recreational activity under the feminist guise of “a woman's right to choose” when the U.S. supreme court ruled in “Roe vs Wade” for example). Under the post-enlightenment “philosophical concept of liberty” that Liza is apparently so committed to, in the United States over 50 million innocent lives have been lost in the name of the feministic “right to choose.” Under the same “philosophical concept of liberty,” Marriage itself has been re-defined by the state so that homosexuality is no longer considered immoral by the vast majority of the public. Soon, the legalization of polygamy is likely to follow... I think both you (and modern secular-humanist democracy) are missing something from the equation, Liza. Goodness and beauty does not originate in human freedom, it originates in the intention of a Divine Creator. The lie of secular-feminism is that women can individually re-create for themselves what it means to be a good and beautiful woman-- even if to 'such and such' an individual it means murdering their own child so that they can have a lavish career. Again, my criticism of Liza's 2[SUP]nd[/SUP] premise is not simply a “religious” argument that owes its credibility to faith, my criticism is entirely based on reason, I have not quoted scripture once.

PREMISE III

Theology has nothing to do with the intrinsically social nature of the status of contemporary marriage and family structure. Theologians deal predominantly in spiritual matters pertaining to God and the nature of religious beliefs, not extrapolations from religious beliefs. Theology may offer an opinion on a given social matter, but it can't markedly associate anything without alluding to political science, demographics, or the like.”


Huh? Let me get this straight: The reality of God [if indeed the pagan philosophers Plato and Aristotle were right in positing through the use of their human reason that One God who orders the cosmos does exist] and the discipline which studies the link between God and the whole of nature (i.e. Theology) has nothing to do with the “intrinsically social nature of the status of contemporary marriage and family structure” as you say? I might be tempted to call your reasoning absurd, but I understand where you are coming from. It is important that anyone else who follows this thread understands as well. Lisa stated that “Theology may offer an opinion on a given social matter, but it can't markedly associate anything without alluding to political science, demographics, or the like.” This reveals that Liza is thoroughly taken in by the false secular-human ideology that wants to reduce everything to a purely human science, so that the transcendent and divine has no real relevance or importance to practical human civilization. In the old-world, before globalized atheism took affect in all modern world governments, Theology was considered the Queen of the sciences, so that any human affair (political, spiritual, domestic, whatever) found it's ultimate order and principle in the goodness and beauty of a Logos (Greek) or Ratio (Latin) which transcended the world: GOD. Today, contemporary western society may pay lip service to a “God” by having his name inscribed on our currency or perhaps having invoking his name at baseball games, but on the grand scale human freedom has ousted any transcendent cause from human affairs. Most evident of what I am saying is the current conditions of marriage and family life in America. People who think with Liza that “spiritual matters pertaining to God and the nature of religious beliefs” has nothing to do with the intrinsic identity of gender-roles and family structure certainly must have SOMETHING to do with the break down of marriage and family life in the culture. It has EVERYTHING to do with it.
 

tourist

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Liza, you use a lot of unnecessary words to sound smart. All you have done is insult me in your words in an ad hominem attack. I did refute your claim, but not by simply contradicting the conclusion with my own conclusion (that is not good argumentation) but by exposing the lies of the premises upon which your conclusion is built on. And I would think that I know what is philosophy and what isn't, little girl, both of my BA and Masters degrees are in philosophy. My refutation of your claims is based on classical pre-enlightenment metaphysics and ethics; you say that I "clearly alluded to faith-based and incredulously outmoded argumentation." Please show me how my points are "faith based", and also show me how my line of reasoning is "outmoded" in your view. Just because you hold that a non-positivistic-empiricist line of thinking is "outmoded" does not make it so. Please respond to my point by point address of each of your premises that I took completely from your own line of reasoning. I will let common sense and the voice of reason (in the general public on this website) express who is closer to the truth in our reasoning. I have re posted my responses for the sake of convenience. Please address the actual content of what I have written. Note that it is not a valid argument to simply say "you are appealing to classical metaphysics and ethics therefore you are wrong." If you are going to write off thousands of years of philosophical history (prior to secular-enlightenment of the 18th century) you need to give a credible reason as to why this is so. I look forward to your astute philosophical analysis which I presume you have picked up in your highschool studies in public school.

Liza's own words will always be cited in bold. Liza is disagreeing with my thesis that “Contemporary feminism has"destroyed marriage and family life." She offers three premises in support of her argument against me that “there's no credible evidence to suggest that feminism in particular has "destroyed" anything from the perspective of mainstream political science.” I will treat the three premises that she uses successively and individually.

PREMISE I:
The first premise Liza's argument rests on is that any cultural phenomena [such as the breakdown of marriage and family] happens when “Social and cultural evolution progresses on behalf of a number of quantifiable variables, including society's political and economic climate, social liberalism and conservatism and the public sphere's reaction to these ideologies, the presence and proliferation of political countercultures, and the like.”


Liza's argument is as follows: The so called “destruction of marriage” is itself a phenomena that is found in the mix of history (it is a product of the coming together of various “quantifiable variables”). Accordingly, it is arbitrary to identify the historical feminism movement as the cause of the cultural phenomena of the breakdown of marriage and family, since “from the perspective of mainstream political science,” only a plurality of “quantifiable variables” can bring about such an occurance.


There is actually an embedded philosophy that is hidden in Liza's argument. It is my job as a philosopher to expose it for the common good :D Liza is presupposing a method of looking at reality as if nature itself is a mere conglomeration of empirical “quantifiable” parts (this is a peculiarly post-enlightenment modern-way of thinking developed by Sir Isaac Newton, Francis Bacon, and Rene Descartes amongst others). There is nothing wrong with modern science. This way of looking things that exist is fine when you need to figure out how to create a propulsion fuel that will send a rocket to the moon, or when you want to build a bridge or do any kind of utilitarian work involving mechanistic 'parts' that are empirically observable.


But when it is a question of studying the beauty and goodness of human nature, the modern mechanistic science of “quantifiable parts” reaches its limit. Masculinity and femininity is not just an empirical “phenomena” that happened to come to about by chance as a result impersonal forces. The beauty and goodness of manhood and womanhood speaks of another more robust and deeper manner of studying reality and nature (this is the way of western philosophy and Christian theology which used to hold prominence before the dawn of secular humanism following the “enlightenment.”) Main stream political science operates under the assumption that everything we can study in society is simply a product of forces that happen to come together (this is what Liza refers to when she mentions “society's political and economic climate, social liberalism and conservatism and the public sphere's reaction to these ideologies, the presence and proliferation of political countercultures, and the like”). Mainstream political science is incapable (on its own terms) of grasping the essence of Human Nature (and therefore what true femininity is) because it is constricted to operate within its own limited method of analyzing the world in terms of what is “quantifiable” as parts. Only a more profound and lucid way of looking at reality can realize that the proper goodness and beauty of “masculinity” and “femininity” within family life is not just the result a conglomeration of a plurality of worldly-based factors. The cause of the beauty of man and woman and of the goodness of the institute of marriage and the specific gender-roles that it involves is the result of FREEDOM. Only FREEDOM can create beauty and goodness. Quantifiable parts cannot cause beauty and goodness to come to exist out of nothing. A person who is FREE TO CREATE needs to be there to bestow order and purpose to whatever comes to exist as something meaningfull. (Christians and Jews understand this to be God in the original act of Creation). That quantifiable-wordly-phenomena cannot be the original-absolute source of goodness and beauty is evident to human reason regardless of whether or not one is speaking religiously. We do not need “religious faith” to know this, this is a rational point.


Contrary to what Liza is arguing, I hold that the break-down of marriage and family life is not just a occurrence that just so happened to come together from various economic and political factors operative in history in a general sense. Liza's claim that “there's no credible evidence to suggest that feminism in particular has "destroyed" anything from the perspective of mainstream political science” is correct only if we accept that the “perspective of mainstream political science” exhausts all true perspectives. I propose that Liza is wrong in thinking this way. It is reductive. It limits the study of human actions to modern sociology and modern political science (which is rooted in a purely empirical method of analysis). I answer that the break down of marriage and family life can only be caused by specific persons who are endowed with FREEDOM. The demise of marriage and family life is caused by all those who freely reject what is given to us as “femininity” and “masculinity” in its original beauty and goodness (and that is what secular feminism accomplishes).

(Response to Liza Continued)

PREMISE II


She writes: “Irrespective of one's religious preference, the philosophical concept of liberty and justice for all in any society that values equal rights should be upheld and respected in the highest degree... What women do with themselves within the context of this society is then up to the woman in particular, and that's exactly how it should be. Period.”


She is presupposing that the modern system of a democratic state is correct in placing all the emphasis on the fulfillment of the individual who is acting. This is a direct inheritance from the political philosophy of John Locke and Hobbes. It's logic is similar in as much as it bars out the relevance of the freedom of a person who lies BEYOND any worldly force, namely, the freedom of GOD who wills to create what is good and beautiful. It is certainly true that people [who themselves are free] are capable of deviating from the will of God, it is certainly true that every individual human being has the capacity to exercise his or her own freedom to do as they please: but that does not justify Liza's point that “What women do with themselves within the context of this society is then up to the woman in particular, and that's exactly how it should be. Period.” What if the women want to kill their own unborn children in the womb? What if women want to have success and a career more than they want to be a sacrificial presence for their family? When Liza says that “the philosophical concept of liberty and justice for all in any society that values equal rights should be upheld and respected in the highest degree”, she means the modern post-enlightenment concept of liberty developed in John Locke and Hobbes and applied in contemporary American constitutional-law. Liza apparently does not realize that the modern democratic forms of government and its accompanying language of “individual rights” is not fool-proof morally speaking. The “ individual freedom” of a democratic republic can error, and it does (it did when it made child-murder a recreational activity under the feminist guise of “a woman's right to choose” when the U.S. supreme court ruled in “Roe vs Wade” for example). Under the post-enlightenment “philosophical concept of liberty” that Liza is apparently so committed to, in the United States over 50 million innocent lives have been lost in the name of the feministic “right to choose.” Under the same “philosophical concept of liberty,” Marriage itself has been re-defined by the state so that homosexuality is no longer considered immoral by the vast majority of the public. Soon, the legalization of polygamy is likely to follow... I think both you (and modern secular-humanist democracy) are missing something from the equation, Liza. Goodness and beauty does not originate in human freedom, it originates in the intention of a Divine Creator. The lie of secular-feminism is that women can individually re-create for themselves what it means to be a good and beautiful woman-- even if to 'such and such' an individual it means murdering their own child so that they can have a lavish career. Again, my criticism of Liza's 2[SUP]nd[/SUP] premise is not simply a “religious” argument that owes its credibility to faith, my criticism is entirely based on reason, I have not quoted scripture once.

PREMISE III

Theology has nothing to do with the intrinsically social nature of the status of contemporary marriage and family structure. Theologians deal predominantly in spiritual matters pertaining to God and the nature of religious beliefs, not extrapolations from religious beliefs. Theology may offer an opinion on a given social matter, but it can't markedly associate anything without alluding to political science, demographics, or the like.”


Huh? Let me get this straight: The reality of God [if indeed the pagan philosophers Plato and Aristotle were right in positing through the use of their human reason that One God who orders the cosmos does exist] and the discipline which studies the link between God and the whole of nature (i.e. Theology) has nothing to do with the “intrinsically social nature of the status of contemporary marriage and family structure” as you say? I might be tempted to call your reasoning absurd, but I understand where you are coming from. It is important that anyone else who follows this thread understands as well. Lisa stated that “Theology may offer an opinion on a given social matter, but it can't markedly associate anything without alluding to political science, demographics, or the like.” This reveals that Liza is thoroughly taken in by the false secular-human ideology that wants to reduce everything to a purely human science, so that the transcendent and divine has no real relevance or importance to practical human civilization. In the old-world, before globalized atheism took affect in all modern world governments, Theology was considered the Queen of the sciences, so that any human affair (political, spiritual, domestic, whatever) found it's ultimate order and principle in the goodness and beauty of a Logos (Greek) or Ratio (Latin) which transcended the world: GOD. Today, contemporary western society may pay lip service to a “God” by having his name inscribed on our currency or perhaps having invoking his name at baseball games, but on the grand scale human freedom has ousted any transcendent cause from human affairs. Most evident of what I am saying is the current conditions of marriage and family life in America. People who think with Liza that “spiritual matters pertaining to God and the nature of religious beliefs” has nothing to do with the intrinsic identity of gender-roles and family structure certainly must have SOMETHING to do with the break down of marriage and family life in the culture. It has EVERYTHING to do with it.
You use a lot of big words and seem to take forever to make a simple point. Very few can understand what you are saying and even fewer do not care, myself included. It seems as if you enjoy flaunting your "intelligence". That is my take on the situation, and I find you to be a bore who is full of himself.
 
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You use a lot of big words and seem to take forever to make a simple point. Very few can understand what you are saying and even fewer do not care, myself included. It seems as if you enjoy flaunting your "intelligence". That is my take on the situation, and I find you to be a bore who is full of himself.
First of all I was responding to Liza's attack (which I doubt you even read because you probably didn't understand the vocabulary words she used). Are you serious? You think I have used big words in what I have written? Wow.

You seriously do not care that a 19 year old girl is brainwashed by atheistic-ways of viewing the world? You do not care that as a result of this false atheistic way of thinking which girls like Liza espouse, millions of innocent babies are murdered through 'indifference' to the matter, and authentic love amongst married people is an anomaly?

With all due respect sir, it is due to indifferent people like you that evil thrives in the world. You go ahead and continue on posting for the sake of mindless entertainment and watch some more tv.

By the way Liza, there is one thing that I am in agreement with you on, I too am annoyed by bible thumping Christians who think that simply quoting the King James bible is adequate to address the presence of evil in the world. (I.e., Christians who think that salvation does not involve the exercise of the rational human faculty).
 
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I just think it's funny that the OP said andin the same post. :D You clearly want to be pursued, which is fine.. hehe.
Do you expect me to ask a woman to leave a response to my dating ad publicly? Or how else do you propose that I come to know whether someone is interested in my ad?
 
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IF he is trolling then why continue to feed into it? Wouldn't that make you or others just as guilty? If you don't respond to a troll they usually go away. I also never stated i had an interest in him whatsoever. I happen to be in a relationship. All I said was the behavior in this thread was a little bothersome
Not as a point of contention, but as a mere addendum, I want to add that the fact that I am not a neutered (w)ussified man who has accepted the stronghold of secular feminism does not equate to "troll". People use that word "troll" these days as liberally as the word "racist" is used.
 
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GIRLS AND WOMEN WHO ARE TO GET MARRIED YOU MUST BE LIKE A VIRTUOUS WOMAN IN PROVERBS 32 WHICH KING LEMUEL,THE PROPHECY THAT HIS MOTHER THOUGHT HIM , ABOUT IF NOT YOU,YOUR MARRIAGE WILL NOT LAST AND NOT BE ENJOYABLE!!!
AMEN to that!
 
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It isn't the OP's preferences we have a huge problem with (everyone is entitled to their own preference) so much as his adversarial and arrogant attitude. When someone writes that they are seeking a wife " who hasn't bought into the lie of secular feminism which has destroyed marriage and family life in America" they are asking for a philosophical debate and reaction. He could have phrased this in another way such as his ideal is a woman who finds great satisfaction in being a homemaker and caregiver. Many of us would still know we aren't that woman and aren't interested, but he would not have come across as saying that we are all outside of God's will and buying into a lie if we don't want that.

He also started his post by saying that he doesn't care about the ridicule he will face, but then has felt the need to argue with and in many cases insult those who have disagreed with him. Look at his response to my interpretation of his post. He had a choice in how to respond and could have responded by saying "cinder is right about one thing, her "clarifications" do not at all reflect my true heart or intent. This is what I want to be for my future wife:" and gone on to talk about his hopes and desires instead of pretty much attempting a character assassination on me. Most of his post is letting me know that a brainwashed feminist like me who would just shack up with a guy could never possibly understand his desire for a real commitment or a Christian marriage (just read some of my other posts if you want to know to what extent the cinder he describes exists only in his head).

No we have not been overly kind to the OP, but as I said in a previous post this is his second "if you want to be my wife please contact me" thread in less than a month and he comes across as so puffed up with knowledge that it is hard to take him seriously. For most of us this is either sad ( because he really has no clue how off-putting his attitude is), ridiculous, or trollish (he knows exactly how he is coming across and just wants to have a go at self confident women because he's bitter that no woman wants to be with him). If he wants to be taken seriously he needs to learn to engage with people in humility and on a relational level not just on an intellectual and argumentative level. All that said if you think he sounds like a wonderful guy and you want to be with him, all the best to both of you.
I'll have you know that I have gotten some very nice emails, some directly responding to my ad, and some simply complimenting my view on life, its good to know that not every young women is western civilization buys into the hell borne scourge of secular-feminism! :)
 
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It isn't the OP's preferences we have a huge problem with (everyone is entitled to their own preference) so much as his adversarial and arrogant attitude. When someone writes that they are seeking a wife " who hasn't bought into the lie of secular feminism which has destroyed marriage and family life in America" they are asking for a philosophical debate and reaction. He could have phrased this in another way such as his ideal is a woman who finds great satisfaction in being a homemaker and caregiver. Many of us would still know we aren't that woman and aren't interested, but he would not have come across as saying that we are all outside of God's will and buying into a lie if we don't want that.

He also started his post by saying that he doesn't care about the ridicule he will face, but then has felt the need to argue with and in many cases insult those who have disagreed with him. Look at his response to my interpretation of his post. He had a choice in how to respond and could have responded by saying "cinder is right about one thing, her "clarifications" do not at all reflect my true heart or intent. This is what I want to be for my future wife:" and gone on to talk about his hopes and desires instead of pretty much attempting a character assassination on me. Most of his post is letting me know that a brainwashed feminist like me who would just shack up with a guy could never possibly understand his desire for a real commitment or a Christian marriage (just read some of my other posts if you want to know to what extent the cinder he describes exists only in his head).

No we have not been overly kind to the OP, but as I said in a previous post this is his second "if you want to be my wife please contact me" thread in less than a month and he comes across as so puffed up with knowledge that it is hard to take him seriously. For most of us this is either sad ( because he really has no clue how off-putting his attitude is), ridiculous, or trollish (he knows exactly how he is coming across and just wants to have a go at self confident women because he's bitter that no woman wants to be with him). If he wants to be taken seriously he needs to learn to engage with people in humility and on a relational level not just on an intellectual and argumentative level. All that said if you think he sounds like a wonderful guy and you want to be with him, all the best to both of you.
I'll have you know that I have gotten some very nice emails, some directly responding to my ad, and some simply complimenting my view on life, its good to know that not every young women in western civilization buys into the hell-borne scourge of secular-feminism! :)
 

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First of all I was responding to Liza's attack (which I doubt you even read because you probably didn't understand the vocabulary words she used). Are you serious? You think I have used big words in what I have written? Wow.

You seriously do not care that a 19 year old girl is brainwashed by atheistic-ways of viewing the world? You do not care that as a result of this false atheistic way of thinking which girls like Liza espouse, millions of innocent babies are murdered through 'indifference' to the matter, and authentic love amongst married people is an anomaly?

With all due respect sir, it is due to indifferent people like you that evil thrives in the world. You go ahead and continue on posting for the sake of mindless entertainment and watch some more tv.

By the way Liza, there is one thing that I am in agreement with you on, I too am annoyed by bible thumping Christians who think that simply quoting the King James bible is adequate to address the presence of evil in the world. (I.e., Christians who think that salvation does not involve the exercise of the rational human faculty).
I did not say, or even implied that I am not sympathetic as to some of your more pertinent points you were trying to make. What I did say was that you would be more effective if you took a more concise approach to how you write.

Any words that are not in my vernacular I will simply look up in Webster's, provided I am so incline to do so.

If, in one of your salutations, was about your antipathy towards abortion, then I am in agreement with you. I believe that abortion is murder, plain and simple. I have always been pro-life, verse pro-death.

I do not watch TV.

With all due respect Sir, the problem is that you do not show respect or consideration to others who do not adhere and subscribe to your point of view.

In 25 words or less please explain how all of your posts are relevant to finding a Christian woman to marry?
 
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I did not say, or even implied that I am not sympathetic as to some of your more pertinent points you were trying to make. What I did say was that you would be more effective if you took a more concise approach to how you write.

Any words that are not in my vernacular I will simply look up in Webster's, provided I am so incline to do so.

If, in one of your salutations, was about your antipathy towards abortion, then I am in agreement with you. I believe that abortion is murder, plain and simple. I have always been pro-life, verse pro-death.

I do not watch TV.

With all due respect Sir, the problem is that you do not show respect or consideration to others who do not adhere and subscribe to your point of view.

In 25 words or less please explain how all of your posts are relevant to finding a Christian woman to marry?
I am responding to your request but I cannot limit it to 25 words. I will restate my point though without using philosophical argumentation. I was only pushed to use my philosophy because our 19 year old sister Liza challenged me with a philosophical argument. I would not have resulted to such meticulous explanation if I weren't challenged with a meticulous argument. You have to understand that philosophy is my profession. Imagine being a car mechanic and having a teenager tell you that you don't know about cars...

In a nut shell, the "virtue" of a woman is revealed in the relationship with Christ and his Church in divine revelation (the model of "bride" and "groom" in Ephesians chapter 5, and also the model seen between Adam and Eve before the Fall in the book of Genesis. Adam is definitely the head of the woman, and Christ is definitely the head of the Church). What a "good" and "beautiful" wife is implies certain ways of thinking and living that respects the truth of God's plan of "headship" revealed in scripture.

I say that "Secular-Feminism" is not just a matter of "social rights and privileges and status", it runs deeper than that. The foundation of secular-feminism is ultimately is a rejection of God's plan for what "masculinity" and "femininity" really is. The last thing that any feminist will ever agree to is that there is a right way, and a wrong way, to be a spouse. Many young Christian women today (whether they realize it or not) have been brainwashed by atheistic ways of thinking, so that authentic love in the truth God's plan is virtually impossible to live out with them.

I do not wish to marry a woman who is going to want to get her tubes tied, or who will want me to sterilize myself, or who will want to get an abortion, or who down the road file for a divorce simply because it is her "right" to. I do not want a woman who is going to love the worldly idea of "career success" more than the idea of raising children who fear God. There IS such a thing as "headship" in marriage. God said so:

"Being subject one to another, in the fear of Christ. Let women be subject to their husbands, as to the Lord: Because the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church. He is the saviour of his body. Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so also let the wives be to their husbands in all things. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ also loved the church, and delivered himself up for it" (Letter to the Ephesians, 5:23).

The man (Adam) was created to be the bread winner, to go out and dominate the earth. The woman (Eve) was created to be a source of maternal compassion. With Christianity, this does not change, human nature does not change. That is why St. Paul says "husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church", and "wives be submissive to your husbands". I am NOT saying that a man ought to be a TYRANT over his wife. I am saying that there is such a thing as "headship" in God's plan that creates an order and harmony in the dynamics between husband and wife. This order and harmony rests on mutual sacrifice on both the man and woman's part. Jesus Christ is the role model for what spousal love is supposed to look like. Both spouses ought to be willing to die to 'self' for the sake of their beloved, just like Christ was willing to die for his bride, the Church. The husband's sacrifice is colored by the unchangeable identity of what it means to be a "MAN". The woman's sacrifice is colored by the unchangeable identity of what it means to be a "WOMAN". Since the man was made from "the dust of the earth", he is closer to the earth, he is made to dominate the earth, thus his role as husband will look a certain way. The woman, being taken from the "rib" of Adam, is more refined in her human quality of love, she is more sensitive, her heart is deeper, her spirit is able to suffer from compassion in a way that stands out from the suffering of a man. Woman is made so that everything about her is made to be a gift of self to another (even in her flesh and blood, which creates new human beings in pregnancy). But both masculine and feminine qualities are not just 'physical' limited to DNA, it is a quality of the human soul that makes masculinity and femininity what it is. It is a quality that comes from the human capacity to LOVE, to choose to SACRIFICE. You better be sure that God made this quality, and this it is unchangeable throughout all of history.

It is impossible to disconnect the contemporary idea of a "woman's right to choose" (which is consonant with the suffrage movement that spawned Secular feminism) from the sins against love that plague marriage and family today. The lie of secular feminism is to tell women that it is by being independent and asserting their own individual right to choose anything and everything that they will bring glory to themselves. But this is a lie that comes from the pits of hell, it is the same logic of Lucifer when Satan chose to embrace his own way of doing things and exalt his own Freedom over God. God created man and woman to compliment one another, and there is an order established by God within this complementarity which rests on the headship of Christ. This is what many Christian woman (on this site and everywhere else I go) obviously do not get. They follow the lie of Satan which has them believe that it is by self assertion (and not sacrifice) that glory comes to the human condition.
 
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I did not say, or even implied that I am not sympathetic as to some of your more pertinent points you were trying to make. What I did say was that you would be more effective if you took a more concise approach to how you write.

Any words that are not in my vernacular I will simply look up in Webster's, provided I am so incline to do so.

If, in one of your salutations, was about your antipathy towards abortion, then I am in agreement with you. I believe that abortion is murder, plain and simple. I have always been pro-life, verse pro-death.

I do not watch TV.

With all due respect Sir, the problem is that you do not show respect or consideration to others who do not adhere and subscribe to your point of view.

In 25 words or less please explain how all of your posts are relevant to finding a Christian woman to marry?
I am responding to your request but I cannot limit it to 25 words. I will restate my point though without using philosophical argumentation. I was only pushed to use my philosophy because our 19 year old sister Liza challenged me with a philosophical argument. I would not have resulted to such meticulous explanation if I weren't challenged with a meticulous argument. You have to understand that philosophy is my profession. Imagine being a car mechanic and having a teenager tell you that you don't know about cars...

In a nut shell, the "virtue" of a woman is revealed in the relationship with Christ and his Church in divine revelation (the model of "bride" and "groom" in Ephesians chapter 5, and also the model seen between Adam and Eve before the Fall in the book of Genesis. Adam is definitely the head of the woman, and Christ is definitely the head of the Church). What a "good" and "beautiful" wife is implies certain ways of thinking and living that respects the truth of God's plan of "headship" revealed in scripture.

I say that "Secular-Feminism" is not just a matter of "social rights and privileges and status", it runs deeper than that. The foundation of secular-feminism is ultimately is a rejection of God's plan for what "masculinity" and "femininity" really is. The last thing that any feminist will ever agree to is that there is a right way, and a wrong way, to be a spouse. Many young Christian women today (whether they realize it or not) have been brainwashed by atheistic ways of thinking, so that authentic love in the truth God's plan is virtually impossible to live out with them.

I do not wish to marry a woman who is going to want to get her tubes tied, or who will want me to sterilize myself, or who will want to get an abortion, or who down the road file for a divorce simply because it is her "right" to. I do not want a woman who is going to love the worldly idea of "career success" more than the idea of raising children who fear God. There IS such a thing as "headship" in marriage. God said so:

"Being subject one to another, in the fear of Christ. Let women be subject to their husbands, as to the Lord: Because the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church. He is the saviour of his body. Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so also let the wives be to their husbands in all things. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ also loved the church, and delivered himself up for it" (Letter to the Ephesians, 5:23).

The man (Adam) was created to be the bread winner, to go out and dominate the earth. The woman (Eve) was created to be a source of maternal compassion. With Christianity, this does not change, human nature does not change. That is why St. Paul says "husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church", and "wives be submissive to your husbands". I am NOT saying that a man ought to be a TYRANT over his wife. I am saying that there is such a thing as "headship" in God's plan that creates an order and harmony in the dynamics between husband and wife. This order and harmony rests on mutual sacrifice on both the man and woman's part. Jesus Christ is the role model for what spousal love is supposed to look like. Both spouses ought to be willing to die to 'self' for the sake of their beloved, just like Christ was willing to die for his bride, the Church. The husband's sacrifice is colored by the unchangeable identity of what it means to be a "MAN". The woman's sacrifice is colored by the unchangeable identity of what it means to be a "WOMAN". Since the man was made from "the dust of the earth", he is closer to the earth, he is made to dominate the earth, thus his role as husband will look a certain way. The woman, being taken from the "rib" of Adam, is more refined in her human quality of love, she is more sensitive, her heart is deeper, her spirit is able to suffer from compassion in a way that stands out from the suffering of a man. Woman is made so that everything about her is made to be a gift of self to another (even in her flesh and blood, which creates new human beings in pregnancy). But both masculine and feminine qualities are not just 'physical' limited to DNA, it is a quality of the human soul that makes masculinity and femininity what it is. It is a quality that comes from the human capacity to LOVE, to choose to SACRIFICE. You better be sure that God made this quality, and this it is unchangeable throughout all of history.

It is impossible to disconnect the contemporary idea of a "woman's right to choose" (which is consonant with the suffrage movement that spawned Secular feminism) from the sins against love that plague marriage and family today. The lie of secular feminism is to tell women that it is by being independent and asserting their own individual right to choose anything and everything that they will bring glory to themselves. But this is a lie that comes from the pits of hell, it is the same logic of Lucifer when Satan chose to embrace his own way of doing things and exalt his own Freedom over God. God created man and woman to compliment one another, and there is an order established by God within this complementarity which rests on the headship of Christ. This is what many Christian woman (on this site and everywhere else I go) obviously do not get. They follow the lie of Satan which has them believe that it is by self assertion (and not sacrifice) that glory comes to the human condition.

P.S. I am astounded that the "opinion" that I have just expressed (and which I stated previously using philosophy) is rejected by so many so called "christians" on this website.
 
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Why do you wish to abandon? Is there something that I am saying that you feel is repulsive, or that detracts you? Is it the part where I say that feminism is evil and spawned from the pits of hell for engendering divorce, abortion, and promiscuity?
 

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Why do you wish to abandon? Is there something that I am saying that you feel is repulsive, or that detracts you? Is it the part where I say that feminism is evil and spawned from the pits of hell for engendering divorce, abortion, and promiscuity?
honestly, this thread was doomed by its very premise. as much as you'd like it to be, this website doesn't function as a dating website and you're attempting to make it behave as such. you seem to be incapable of recognizing that you want to be seen as a "guy who will be the pursuer" and espouse traditional roles. yet, you don't seem to realize you're (at least initially) asking for a woman to pursue you, which many traditional women simply don't want.

also, what you're asking is for the woman to chose you first, so that you can ascertain whether she's acceptable to you. do you see the problem with you calling yourself a pursuer? now, if you were doing this on christian mingle, you'd be able to operate with the assumption that the woman is already probably comfortable with such a notion. but you wanting women to PM you is tantamount to wanting her to ask you out, and for many women, we're not interested in such things. and certainly not some guy that we know nothing more than what his short ad and two photos afford.

respect the fact that we are all here for friendship and fellowship, not to read personal ads. thus your message doesn't come off as innovative or bold, or even creative but mostly aloof. in a sense, you're thumbing your nose to what the women (or most of them, anyway) are here for.

also, you have things to say, but only choose to say them in threads that you created to find a wife. the funny part is, if you put a fraction of the effort you've put into this thread elsewhere, integrating into the community and meeting others that way, you'd probably have a much warmer reception.

while i appreciate your desire and effort to debate the valid arguments against feminism, i find your attitude a bit off-putting. i'm typically one to offer others a rather wide berth, but you've consistently shown a hardness in your approach that shows a lack of gentleness in dealing with others.

as a woman, and a christian, i find that kind of callous insensitivity in dealing with others rather unattractive, especially considering you're asking for responses from women -- not a straight up, simple debate thread.


and because you asked, i'm going to continue further:

i hate all things that modern feminism has become. but i've also witnessed something of a backlash, which is men who seem incapable of recognizing an articulate, opinionated, godly woman of temerity and a feminist. whenever i hear a man show signs of this "ideology", plus an overt focus on being "old fashioned" and an overall lack of gentleness or sensitivity to others, it conjures notions of the stereotypical controlling male that we all unfortunately are aware of and try to avoid. i sincerely doubt i am the only woman who thinks this way.


please know, i'm not indicting you for being that person, nor am i trying to attack you. only for coming off that way online. and remember, you did ask, so i'm offering it as food for thought, and not to start a new tangential discussion. : )

good luck and God bless.

p.s. there is at least a couple threads on feminism. jump into those, or start a new one if you want to continue this debate. it' will make it a lot easier for others to locate the discussion and join in.

 
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