advice please about bfs bad habbit...

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Leilaii425

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Someone who understands that he's most likely doing it purely for sexual gratification, not because his girlfriend is unattractive or in some way not good enough.

ohhh yes, because women are going to see it that way
 
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Maddog

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ohhh yes, because women are going to see it that way
I don't see why they wouldn't...unless they've got some underlying problems with their security and self esteem.
 
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Leilaii425

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I don't see why they wouldn't...unless they've got some underlying problems with their security and self esteem.

You could never possibly understand because you are not a woman, and have never experienced that....... i have nothing furthur to add to any of this..
 
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Cako53

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Someone who understands that he's most likely doing it purely for sexual gratification, not because his girlfriend is unattractive or in some way not good enough.
I don't think you're exactly headed in the right direction with this one, you aren't helping her as it appears. The jist of it is I don't know many girls that would like to date someone who watches and most likely masturbates to other women. That right there in it self would be a huge turnoff. You guys are making it seem like pornography isn't a problem, well I'm sorry to break it to you, but it is a problem, a BIG one.
 
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Leilaii425

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I don't think you're exactly headed in the right direction with this one, you aren't helping her as it appears. The jist of it is I don't know many girls that would like to date someone who watches and most likely masturbates to other women. That right there in it self would be a huge turnoff. You guys are making it seem like pornography isn't a problem, well I'm sorry to break it to you, but it is a problem, a BIG one.

i like you........... your very smart!
 
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Leilaii425

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Thanks, it's first hand experiance though :S

better to speak from first hand experience then speak having no clue what your talking about.... your more relatable this way..
 
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Maddog

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The jist of it is I don't know many girls that would like to date someone who watches and most likely masturbates to other women.
Then they won't want to court most men.

You guys are making it seem like pornography isn't a problem, well I'm sorry to break it to you, but it is a problem, a BIG one.
I agree it's a problem, just that it is a misunderstood one.
 
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Cako53

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Then they won't want to court most men.


I agree it's a problem, just that it is a misunderstood one.
SO how would you consider it misunderstood?
 
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Maddog

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1. It is not abnormal for men to seek various means for their sexual gratification.

2. Sexual gratification is all it is, and that men who use porn will most likely still value their real-life girlfriend. In other words, I don't think women need to feel threatened or insecure about it.
 
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socperkins

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A porn addiction isn't entirely about getting aroused and then doing whatever. It's about seeing things you don't normally see, and that's the addictive part. I used to look at porn everyday just out of habit. I'd open up my browser and open up 4 tabs - Email, Facebook, News, Porn. Sometimes when I'm bored I'll open up a tab and think to myself "What website should I go to" and before I know it I've typed in half of the address to a porn site. It takes a lot of prayer and self control to break an addiction like this.
 
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Cako53

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1. It is not abnormal for men to seek various means for their sexual gratification.

2. Sexual gratification is all it is, and that men who use porn will most likely still value their real-life girlfriend. In other words, I don't think women need to feel threatened or insecure about it.
First off have you ever been addicted to porn?
Now for number 1: It might not be abnormal, but it is still a sin.
2: Porn ruins relationships, trust me. It's not the fact that they wont value their real-life girlfriend, it's the thoughts behind watching porn. Porn twists your mind. I still struggle with thoughts from porn. Thoughts that when you see a good looking girl walking down the street, she automatically presumes a sex pose for you.
 
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CIRBaptist

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#34
Dump him....maybe he'll wake up.
 
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Cako53

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A porn addiction isn't entirely about getting aroused and then doing whatever. It's about seeing things you don't normally see, and that's the addictive part. I used to look at porn everyday just out of habit. I'd open up my browser and open up 4 tabs - Email, Facebook, News, Porn. Sometimes when I'm bored I'll open up a tab and think to myself "What website should I go to" and before I know it I've typed in half of the address to a porn site. It takes a lot of prayer and self control to break an addiction like this.
thank you. it isnt an easy thing. I will still find myself about to type in an adress and I simply have to get up and walk away.
 
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Maddog

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First off have you ever been addicted to porn?
With respect, I'd rather not answer that question.

Now for number 1: It might not be abnormal, but it is still a sin.
Not in dispute.

2: Porn ruins relationships, trust me. It's not the fact that they wont value their real-life girlfriend, it's the thoughts behind watching porn. Porn twists your mind. I still struggle with thoughts from porn. Thoughts that when you see a good looking girl walking down the street, she automatically presumes a sex pose for you.
I understand that, but that's why I think the best thing for them is a real life, fulfilling relationship (in fact does not St Paul recommend this in chapter 7 of Corinthians?). Additionally, while his girlfreind should be concerned about him I don't think she need be troubled about her self image or other insecurity issues; in fact, I'd say that's the last thing he needs.
 
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Cako53

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I don't think that this is all related back to her self image though. Yes, it probably would effect it. But porn takes A LOT of love out of a relationship.
 
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become_the_generation

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I cant believe that some people are arguing that porn might be ok to an extent! What is this?!? Does the Bible not talk about fleeing from sexual immorality of any kind??? Yea, people are gonna stumble. People are gonna fall. I'm not saying they arent. But really, would God say "I guess I'll allow it to an extent?" I doubt it. Actually, I know He wouldnt. Porn is not ok! It destroys our minds, satan doesnt want us in healthy relationships! I dont care if you dont think that it should have an effect on women that you are dating or not, it does! And it has all the right to! But wow, still cant believe some people are actually saying it might be ok.
 
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Cako53

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I cant believe that some people are arguing that porn might be ok to an extent! What is this?!? Does the Bible not talk about fleeing from sexual immorality of any kind??? Yea, people are gonna stumble. People are gonna fall. I'm not saying they arent. But really, would God say "I guess I'll allow it to an extent?" I doubt it. Actually, I know He wouldnt. Porn is not ok! It destroys our minds, satan doesnt want us in healthy relationships! I dont care if you dont think that it should have an effect on women that you are dating or not, it does! And it has all the right to! But wow, still cant believe some people are actually saying it might be ok.
Thank you. this is a good video about how people are distorting, and making their sin seem okay. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNJ5oi1cw2I