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Drine

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So.., my question is :

1) is it ok to stiil keeping your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend pictures (just so you can remember the person) if you already in a relation ship; like engage? specially if you still kinda like your ex??

2) is it ok to still be friend with them on FB or myspace or any type of online cuomunity?

3) is it ok to keep in touch with them (by any type of connection)?

Anyone can help me with this?? Thank You and Jesus Bless you.....
 
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I'm friends with mine, still meet each other during social events of shared friends. I'm not in another relationship however and would understand tensions that could arise from jealousy or accusations of clinging to the past when you should be looking at your current relationship.

1) Dodgy, safe answer is no. Other answer is, if you don't consider it a big deal, why bother explicitly deleting them. Personally I value all memories, and if they are not productive to a relationship, I would box them and put them in the depths of the attic, preferably in a generic box and not well archived.
2) Yes
3) Yes, but don't hide it and be ready to consider the feelings of your current bf. What I will say, is when any friendship occurs with a spouse, we want to be able to say they are a friend of both of us. If say I kept in touch with my ex, it wouldn't be for supportive reasons when she's in a relationship, such reasons seem like attacks and should be treated as such unless you are approved by their bf/gf... unless its something to be genuinely concerned about (beatings etc).

my 4 cents :)
p.s. by 'yes', it doesn't mean you 'should'.
 
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annie123

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I dont know... for me ... I think if I find my husband having all these pictures and memories, I would ask him, for what does he still want the memories for... for we are now together! My personal opinion, I dont like it. But some people will have different reasons for keeping them!
 
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xJoe

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First of all if your engaged it's unfaithful. Let me ask you, would you want your Husband to do that? Before you ask anything to someone ask yourself if you would be ok if your Husband does it. and you should check this with your Husband. If your Husband gives you a ok then go for it. But honestly any relationship that become sexual most likely you shouldn't keep. Would you want your Husband to talk to a ex he did sexual things with? Put that in mind with every question. Check with him and you will know your answer. WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO HOLD ON in the first place? why would you want to keep those old memorys? My opinion. Don't bring something into a marriage that could potentially destroy it.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Drine said:
So.., my question is :

1) is it ok to stiil keeping your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend pictures (just so you can remember the person) if you already in a relation ship; like engage? specially if you still kinda like your ex??

2) is it ok to still be friend with them on FB or myspace or any type of online cuomunity?

3) is it ok to keep in touch with them (by any type of connection)?

Anyone can help me with this?? Thank You and Jesus Bless you.....
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No, i wouldnt keep any pictures of your ex boyfriend. Cut them all up and glue them to the windshield of his car.

2) Yes be friends with him in any online community, that way you can publicly tell everyone he has severe halatosis.

3) Yes definently keep in touch. Keep his phone number, call him every two days and when he answers start breathing really loud or crying hysterically.... then hang up.
 
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