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the_broken_hearted

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Hey dudes..and dudettes. I'm in a bit of emotional turmoil here, and would appreciate any advice. I know it isn't really my place to question God, but as of late I'm starting to notice that I'm "different". To put it bluntly, I feel like a man trapped in a womans body. I know what my anatomy says (woman), but everything else just feels wrong. I have horrible manners, and don't mind belching and breaking wind in public, I call guys "bro" and "dude", my language most of the time is questionable, when I used to drink it was always the strong stuff - no girly crap, I went through the police academy and lived with 18 men and fit right in, I'm sporty and am really competitive, my emotions are not unstable as that of a womans, and it would seem that for some reason or another my sexual orientation has changed. It's really hard to explain exactly how I feel..But I feel like a dude. And I shouldn't know what that feels like, cus I'm a girl. And I feel like I can't shake this. I'm not sure exactly what to do at this point.. Do I trust this feeling? Do I force myself out of it by going shopping, and getting my hair done? I have no idea. I need some ideas!
 
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surrender2God

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God is not the author of confusion. The devil comes to steal, kill, and destroy and if you give into it you will be giving satan dominion over you and your life. Jesus came that you might have life and have it more abundantly. John 10:10. Pray, pray,pray! Give yourself totally to God and he will direct your path.
 
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What was your upbringing like? Were you the only girl in the house? Lots of brothers? Very close to your mother?
A lot of times people who are like this get this way because their upbringing. I've seen a few posts on here from men claiming they feel too effeminate. So far they all verified they spent more time around girls than guys growing up. Not to mention some people have a personality or maybe even physical reason for being this way. Perhaps you have an excess of testosterone? Perhaps go to the doctors and have it tested to see if it falls within normal levels for a woman.
I'd say those are going to be the 2 most common reasons for a person who has those feelings.
 
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the_broken_hearted

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Ugly said:
What was your upbringing like? Were you the only girl in the house? Lots of brothers? Very close to your mother?
A lot of times people who are like this get this way because their upbringing. I've seen a few posts on here from men claiming they feel too effeminate. So far they all verified they spent more time around girls than guys growing up. Not to mention some people have a personality or maybe even physical reason for being this way. Perhaps you have an excess of testosterone? Perhaps go to the doctors and have it tested to see if it falls within normal levels for a woman.
I'd say those are going to be the 2 most common reasons for a person who has those feelings.
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Well, I was put up for adoption as soon as I was born. Biologically I have 2 brothers and they are twins, and I've never met any of my biological family. With my adoptive family, I am an only child. I've never really been close to either of my parents. And from the ages of 3 to 13, my best friend was my neighbor, and he is male. I wasn't raised a girly girl, but wasn't super boyish either. It was kind of the middle of the road. I've considered the testosterone thoery before, but have yet to act on it. I am way competitve, and don't mind wrestling around, and even enjoy a good fist fight now and then. Thanks for the input.
 
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wolfywolfs

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the_broken_hearted said:
Hey dudes..and dudettes. I'm in a bit of emotional turmoil here, and would appreciate any advice. I know it isn't really my place to question God, but as of late I'm starting to notice that I'm "different". To put it bluntly, I feel like a man trapped in a womans body. I know what my anatomy says (woman), but everything else just feels wrong. I have horrible manners, and don't mind belching and breaking wind in public, I call guys "bro" and "dude", my language most of the time is questionable, when I used to drink it was always the strong stuff - no girly crap, I went through the police academy and lived with 18 men and fit right in, I'm sporty and am really competitive, my emotions are not unstable as that of a womans, and it would seem that for some reason or another my sexual orientation has changed. It's really hard to explain exactly how I feel..But I feel like a dude. And I shouldn't know what that feels like, cus I'm a girl. And I feel like I can't shake this. I'm not sure exactly what to do at this point.. Do I trust this feeling? Do I force myself out of it by going shopping, and getting my hair done? I have no idea. I need some ideas!
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i like you want to go out and get a beer or better whiskey
 
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wolfywolfs

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surrender2God said:
God is not the author of confusion. The devil comes to steal, kill, and destroy and if you give into it you will be giving satan dominion over you and your life. Jesus came that you might have life and have it more abundantly. John 10:10. Pray, pray,pray! Give yourself totally to God and he will direct your path.
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i thought the devil had no real powers
 
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