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Yeah, from time to time I struggle with depression, and I isolated myself from my high school friends a while ago. I didn't feel comfortable being around them anymore. I also used to stay in the house a lot too...
There's not much you can do about it except going out and getting busy. Praying helps too, but still if you're not leaving the house you need to change that. I'm currently taking college classes, even in the summer. I'm also thinking about volunteering at this summer camp I worked at last year. All that is just so I get out of the house. If you stay isolated for too long, you'll go crazy. I did, I started getting bad anxiety attacks while I would try to go to sleep.
And if you have friends from church go and see them!!! I currently have no friends at all, and I miss is. Plus, being by yourself won't do you much good.
PS: I heard that depression medication does help... I didn't feel comfortable taking them because of the side-effects, but people I know say that they've had no problems with them, so idk that's your call.
There's not much you can do about it except going out and getting busy. Praying helps too, but still if you're not leaving the house you need to change that. I'm currently taking college classes, even in the summer. I'm also thinking about volunteering at this summer camp I worked at last year. All that is just so I get out of the house. If you stay isolated for too long, you'll go crazy. I did, I started getting bad anxiety attacks while I would try to go to sleep.
And if you have friends from church go and see them!!! I currently have no friends at all, and I miss is. Plus, being by yourself won't do you much good.
PS: I heard that depression medication does help... I didn't feel comfortable taking them because of the side-effects, but people I know say that they've had no problems with them, so idk that's your call.
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I know exactly how you feel, I am in a situation where isolation is hard to escape. I have a best friend who walks with me every day. Just so we can get out of the house to clear our minds. It's true, if you stay in the house to long. Your thoughts drown you into anxiety and depression. I have one best friend, and she has been a life saver. Without her I would probebly go stur crazy everyday being as we only have one car in my family now. Depression is a real pain, but you just have to fight each step at a time with God. He really is there when no one else is there. Depression has kept me from school, church, friends, work, small groups, even just going out to the store. Depression has only done me one positive thing. That is it has helped me to completely depend on my Lord Jesus. It has brought a new level of my relationship with him. Don't give up, your not alone! Keep fighting in the strangth of Christ and you will see the sun shineing through the dark clouds before you know it. 
Hi. I think I know what you're going through. I feel depressed and isolated a lot and my feelings get hurt easily too and I know what its like when it seems like nobody even cares or notices. Its like the worst feeling in the world. Here are some scriptures that help me. Maybe they can help you too.
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
(Joshua 1:9)
I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.
(John 14:18 KJV)
Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.
(Psalm 42:5)
"Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven."
(Matthew 5:3)
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
(Psalm 147:3)
You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.
(Psalm 56:8)
It also helps to try and focus on the things you can be thankful for, and ask God to remove the darkness from your heart. I wish I could be of more help. God bless.
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
(Joshua 1:9)
I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.
(John 14:18 KJV)
Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.
(Psalm 42:5)
"Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven."
(Matthew 5:3)
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
(Psalm 147:3)
You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.
(Psalm 56:8)
It also helps to try and focus on the things you can be thankful for, and ask God to remove the darkness from your heart. I wish I could be of more help. God bless.
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I agree with zeroturbulence...I also often will feel the same way. Isolation is one of the big tools that the devil uses on the mind when one get's depressed,you start allowing yourself to be convinced that no one else can understand what you are feeling or going through & that worse yet..no one cares. It's such a poisoning lie! I encourage you in those times,really just cry out to God,pray,read his word & if there's no one around where you are that can talk or pray with you,then get yer' buns on CC. There's always people here that will pray with/for you,or maybe someone to just lend a listening ear. You are never alone. Just remember this depression and isolation you feel,Jesus took all that upon himself on the cross so that we wouldn't have to bear that burden or pain any longer. Cast down imaginations & every high thing that dare exalts itself against the knowledge of God...I know it's hard at times,but the more focus we place on Jesus & serving others,the less likely we are to be focused on ourselves. Much love & peace to you...stay strong!
I'm glad you shared this. I'm so lost in the loneliness that I can't quite see out of it anymore. I'm not even sure I want out of it anymore, honestly. God has followed me way down here and keeps reminding me that He's here even when i am like this, and I guess that it is important for me to be learning about that, but it gets really hard to see outside of the box that i'm in.
It gets hard to believe in anything or anyone else for that matter after awhile. And the lessons get tougher to learn and even more difficult to deal with without an outside perspective, but i'm not sure what's going on anymore to tell you the truth.
It gets hard to believe in anything or anyone else for that matter after awhile. And the lessons get tougher to learn and even more difficult to deal with without an outside perspective, but i'm not sure what's going on anymore to tell you the truth.
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I totally feel where yer' coming from jeremy. I am in a situation right now in my life that looks pretty bleak. The past year of my life alone has been one terrible thing after another...from my wife wanting a divorce,us having to sell our home,my Mom dying,me getting sick & almost dying from a blood infection,having to relocate twice because I could not find a place closer to where I work,money troubles..you name it. Talk about feeling like there's no end in sight of the pain & sadness. Even as a teen,I had tons of friends,girlfriends,played in bands...but always felt so alone. Sometimes even after I was saved. I felt like God wasn't there. I've never been one of those christians you hear about that gets all tingles & "sees" Jesus at the foot of their bed or has some grand revelation that they audibly heard the Lord speak to them. My entire walk has been based on the faith that God's word is true & he is not one that should lie. I know Jesus is real,because if he weren't I would have either committed suicide long ago or be dead due to the crowd I used to hang with. Just look at all the people in the bible that followed God...pretty much all of them had a tough time. I personally think that satan thrives on our depression & sadness...it's like a power we give him when we start to wallow in it. It's so hard not to sometimes when every single thing around you makes you feel as though God has forsaken you or that you see no end in sight to the pain. I don't know what God has for you to do in his kingdom jeremy,but I'm sure to whatever scale it is,the devil certainly does not want you to follow it. His goal is to isolate you & drag you down with him into his pit of misery & lies. He's jealous of what you & God have,because he knows what he gave up by choosing rebellion against God. He hates God & he hates you. I say... Hate him right back!!! Live for Jesus the best you know how...keep your focus on him. He's gonna see you & ME through this dude..if we just be still & know that he is God! Prayers & Peace to you bro.
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I think this is really prevalent in today's society. I've struggled with it as well. It's no wonder, though; when you go out to a restaurant and see a couple on a date, only for each individual to be on their phone, invested in who they're communicating with on the outside, rather than the person within immediate proximity. We seem to want to be connected with everyone on such an impersonal level.
Welcome to the forums, cagransee. I hope you never feel that loneliness or depression with the community here, and that it ebbs in your personal life too!
Welcome to the forums, cagransee.
I hope you never feel that loneliness or depression with the community here, and that it ebbs in your personal life too!
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Yes, I am currently going through the same situation. I broke up with my boyfriend because he wasn't really going in the same direction I am trying to go in. I feel so alone. we did everything together. I have a couple of good friends but it seems they are sometimes too busy or dealing with their own issues and I don't want to add to that. So I fill my time with working out, reading or talking to who will listen. I definitely do need to get back in church though because I know that is a good place to start when starting to feel this way....
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Yes, I know what it is, and it's like a deadly venom which silently destroys the soul from the inside... By definition, if the Lord said it's not good for the man to be alone, therefore it's good for the man to not be alone ! Unfortunately we live in a society which greatly promotes individualism. This is a machiavellian scheme from the ancient serpent to divide and conquer the whole world, even the elect if it was possible. The only way to get away from this is to counteract this machievellian scheme of individualism and division by the Spirit of Heaven ! In Heaven, there's no individualism at all ! All are one in the Lord's Holiness ! Our souls come from Heaven not from earth, and our souls thirst for this great Spirit of Unity, and not the spirit of division ! When humans are divided they're weak, but when they are united under the banner of Heaven, they are strong ! We, as true Christians, should set a good example of this to the whole world and be united as one body nurtured by the Victorious Spirit from Above !
I'm not sure if it was depression or what but I went through a very tough time a few years ago. It was hard to wake up in the morning. At this time I had no friends so there was isolation already. For me being at home alone seemed to have made it worse I noticed that when I went to places with people (church,ect) the sadness went away for a bit. Perhaps it may be best for you to go out with friends and maybe that will help. Prayer also helped me in this time, it felt good to get some things off my chest and I didn't really feel comfortable talking with anyone but God about these things, but if you feel comfortable talking with people, I also think this would be a good idea. I wish you the best here, God bless.
I'm not sure if it was depression or what but I went through a very tough time a few years ago. It was hard to wake up in the morning. At this time I had no friends so there was isolation already. For me being at home seemed to have made it worse I noticed that when I went to places with people there (church,ect) the sadness went away for a bit, even the 1-2 hour bus ride I went on to the church helped a lot, it got me out of the house and had me concentrate on other things, then being sad and worrying. Perhaps it may be best for you to go out with friends and maybe that will help. If your friends are busy when you are needing or wanting to go out, perhaps joining something else that will let you get out of the house a bit. (A social group, a sports team, maybe just going for a ride around town may help) Prayer also helped me in this time, it felt good to get some things off my chest and I didn't really feel comfortable talking with anyone but God about these things, but if you feel comfortable talking with people, I also think this would be a good idea. Perhaps reading the bible or going for a walk may help you out as well. I wish you the best here, God bless.
Sorry for the double post, I wanted to delete my first post on this thread but it did not let me. If possible can someone delete my post before this?
Sorry for the double post, I wanted to delete my first post on this thread but it did not let me. If possible can someone delete my post before this?
I can relate, its been almost two months since I've broken up with my girlfriend of three years, and it was tough in he beginning you do feel that you are alone and it can be a struggle, especially if you're like me and work a second shift and don't see your friends much to begin with. I do agree though taking time to keep your schedule busy and filled up is the best medicine in my case. I am glad I have found to have a sound support system in my siblings and such family can be great in a time like this! Sports, the Gym going for runs etc. get out there in nature and bask in the beauty of creation
God Bless!!
God Bless!!
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Don't let the enemy plant things in your head that discourage you from making connections with people. Don't feel like your not wanted, it can take time to make strong relationships. I've recently moved, I jump at the opportunity to go out with people that are Christians, I realize how important this is. It's great to have at least a night a week to go out and have fun with people. Gods made us to want to build and have good and healthy relationships. I know that having just one good friend can open the door to many. I recently had a Christian girl at work invite me to go out dancing, only knew her for a couple of days...I could have denied for a couple of reasons. Turned out to be a great night, and she is now a good friend. She knows the area which we live in very well..and she's introduced me to a lot of people. Go out with people and enjoy yourself! Pray also that God brings good Christian people your way.
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Yes I have depression. I struggle with it off and on. The worst was after I had my last child in 2012. Went through all that isolation and feeling alone wanting to be around people but not, feeling worthless, intrusive thoughts, nightmares, crying all the time, no energy....ect. I did take meds for postpartem but stopped after 6 months the side effects were nuts. I kept thinking the side effects are worse than the depression. I dont like to medicate. I'm sorry you feel this way. I wouldn't wish this hurt on anyone. My prayers are with you. And God is with you too. Hebrews 13:5 Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee
I've dealt with depression from the time I can remember. It can be very isolating and lonely, you're not sick on the outside but on the inside you feel miserable. I am better now, I have moments but they are few and far between. God sent me to a great counselor that worked with Veterans who have PTSD he helped me deal with many things that happened in my past and he gave me tools to deal with anxiety now. I also take medication.
I would recommend counseling to anyone. Ask around if one counselor doesn't feel right find another. You're not alone, prayers are with you.
I would recommend counseling to anyone. Ask around if one counselor doesn't feel right find another. You're not alone, prayers are with you.
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Realizing that I was suffering from depression is what brought me here for the first time just a few nights ago. I was feeling alone and scared like I do most nights. I found myself seeking solace in other ways that did not turn out very well. I wanted to feel connected, I wanted to matter to someone somehow. That desire was used against me and led me quickly down a slippery slope. When I discovered CC I knew I was on the right path here. I've been busy with work, and I have lots of friends to turn to, lots of family around me. But for some reason, every time my world stood still, I would cry. The pain would sneak up on me when my back was turned and whisper hurtful things into my ear. The last time this happened I prayed out loud in a way so intense and honest that I had never felt before. I prayed for Jesus to take the enemy away from me. I knew I was being lured away from him. I couldn't hear Him, I couldn't see Him, and I couldn't even pray to Him. I was debilitated. I thank the Lord for steering me in the right direction. I thank you all for coming out and being so honest. Prayers are with all of you. Now I know I am not alone here.
I've been going through this exact same problem, especially since I've moved into my own place. Maybe it was because before I lived on my own, I never cared how often I saw people/hung out with them because my family was always around, so I never really felt alone. I had always considered myself to be introverted, and I preferred spending time by myself. Now that I don't have my family around though, I find that I am much more lonely than I have ever been. I realized now that I've been reaching out to my friends, but I hadn't put any effort into maintaining the friendships and it's been harder to make plans and keep them.
Not only that but everyone has jobs now, they're married, have kids, or have moved away. There have been quite a few times in the past couple of months that I have cried to my fiancee about not having friends like I used to. Slowly, I've come to realize that the reason I'm having so many problems, is because I was used to being forced to see the same people every day. (a.k.a. High School) In that type of situation, it's so easy to maintain friendships with little effort because all of us are stuck in the same place for eight hours a day. Now that it's over though, all of those people have been thrown into a bigger pond with billions of people, choices of where to go and what to do, and instead of being a school of 900, (like my school) I was one lowly person in the billions.
The truth is, in the real world everyone is doing their own thing, and you have to make a big effort to be a part of their lives, unlike before where friends would come to you. Now you have to find them. People really don't care if you're lonely, shy, or introverted. They will pass you by for someone else who isn't because there are so many other choices. They don't care if you're talented, have a great personality, compassion, or a ton to offer. What they care about it convenience, because just like you, they're starting their lives and don't have time to make effort. Or maybe they want to, but don't know how and feel the way that you do.
Then, there is Facebook... But I won't even touch that subject. Although, I do believe everyone using Facebook will eventually completely demolish our social skills and the need to meet people in person, but eh.
Anyhow, I hope this helped you in some way.
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Hello to you all. I think depression is there and it is something we all have to face at least once in our lifetime. The problem is not that you feel it, the problem is when you let it change your life and, most important, to keep you away from the purpose God has for you. If you feel bad, like no one cares about you remember people is just people. We as humans are not perfect and we fail and we only care about ourselves, no matter how much we may love others. Try to dress up, if you feel bad wear bright colors, do your hair, nails, make up... small things like that can really help you to change your mood and open to the wonderful world out there. Take the good, reject the bad and don't let what others do or don't do affect you, because then you will be their slave and they have power over you. Remember that "a man who has friends must himself be friendly..." Proverbs 18.24 (NKJV)
So take the first step; do your part, stir yourself up and move on!!! God will do the rest!! Take heart!
So take the first step; do your part, stir yourself up and move on!!! God will do the rest!! Take heart!