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Boston_Laura

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I used to be a Christian....but then I lost my faith when I went to a church and I was completely ignored....


Lately I've been think about death a lot...and God....and religion...

I've asked for help once on here already and got only two responses....

Please help! I need good Christian friends to help guide me!
 
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What exactly is it you need help with? I'm very sorry that you were ignored in a church, that's so sad. Two responses on here? with how many thousands and thousands of chatters or more? *sigh* well I'm here if you need to talk. Not sure I can help, but I will at least put forth an effort, and ask God to take over, to use the Holy Spirit to guide, move, and speak too me. God bless you, and praise Him for giving you thoughts and questions that are apparently leading you back to the right path hallelujah!
 
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Hey Boston_Laura! I'm sorry to hear about what you went through and what you are going through. Feel free to send me a pm anytime. I would like to ask the same question Stand_up_4_God asked and that is what do you need help with? Is there a certain situation? If you are looking for God to reveal Himself to you---HE will!!! He is a rewarder of those who seek Him! Hebrews 11:6. Trust me I am a living proof of that Scripture. Hope this helps. God bless you and I'll be praying for you!

--Kate
 
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Be encouraged, there is a God who loves you beyond what you can think or imagine! He is right there beside you when you feel alone or even overlooked.

Christians should be the happiest people we know, and the friendliest... most loving...most caring. But sometimes this is not true. Forgive others, for they know not what they are doing. Understand that Jesus felt rejected too - by the ones who should have loved him most. When you feel sad, he feels sadness too. When you feel pain, he desires to bring his comfort. Continue to search for God and you will find him. He says that all who seek him, will find him. Know that you are never, ever, alone. Even in the quietest moments, Jesus is right there beside of you, cheering you on! Never give up, and never give in. Don't listen to the voices in your head that tell you your life doesn't count for much. The enemy never has anything nice to say.

You are beautiful, blessed, and treasured by God. He is holding your hand right now, and walking you through this time. Can you feel His presence? Call on his name, and rest, knowing that the King of all Creation thinks you are incredible, brilliant, funny, and talented! And remember that HE is like the air we breathe, sometimes we can't see him, sometimes we can't feel him, but he is always there - ALWAYS!

There are many lessons to be learned in times of solitude. Most of them are not easy, but know that he is using every circumstance to mold and perfect your life. He is creating a beautiful sculpture, and sometimes the chiseling hurts. But in the end, your life will be a beautiful display of his splendor. Will you trust Him?
 
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Boston_Laura

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Thank you both so much! I honestly have tears in my eyes.

I am just so confused. I don't mean to offend anybody...but I just don't know if I believe in God.

Sometimes I get these thoughts in my head, and I'll think maybe they're from God...and then I stop myself and think that I'm imagining things.

I'm just so confused....I want to believe in God....but I don't know If I ever did wholeheartedly to begin with. :(
 
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Boston_Laura

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OneHolyFire said:
Be encouraged, there is a God who loves you beyond what you can think or imagine! He is right there beside you when you feel alone or even overlooked.

Christians should be the happiest people we know, and the friendliest... most loving...most caring. But sometimes this is not true. Forgive others, for they know not what they are doing. Understand that Jesus felt rejected too - by the ones who should have loved him most. When you feel sad, he feels sadness too. When you feel pain, he desires to bring his comfort. Continue to search for God and you will find him. He says that all who seek him, will find him. Know that you are never, ever, alone. Even in the quietest moments, Jesus is right there beside of you, cheering you on! Never give up, and never give in. Don't listen to the voices in your head that tell you your life doesn't count for much. The enemy never has anything nice to say.

You are beautiful, blessed, and treasured by God. He is holding your hand right now, and walking you through this time. Can you feel His presence? Call on his name, and rest, knowing that the King of all Creation thinks you are incredible, brilliant, funny, and talented! And remember that HE is like the air we breathe, sometimes we can't see him, sometimes we can't feel him, but he is always there - ALWAYS!

There are many lessons to be learned in times of solitude. Most of them are not easy, but know that he is using every circumstance to mold and perfect your life. He is creating a beautiful sculpture, and sometimes the chiseling hurts. But in the end, your life will be a beautiful display of his splendor. Will you trust Him?
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After reading this, I just can't stop crying. I'm so confused. &Something that's funny, I'm listening to pandora and a song called "hallelujah" came on right when I started reading what you all wrote.

Please pray for me.

I've asked him into my heart time and time again, and then I push him out...I feel betrayed.

Especially because I feel the nicer I am to people, the worse I am treated, which makes me want to be cold-hearted. Thank you all so much for taking the time to talk to me.
 
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I personally am not offended, I understand that we all have had points in life of confusing just like what you have. We aren't here to judge you or anything. Maybe, and this is just a guess...maybe God is telling you things, but then the enemy tempts you to say it's not of God.Sadly the reality is, the nicer you are to others, they do seem to hurt you more huh? Well if someone's truly of the Lord,they won't hurt you!We're to show compassion and everything towards one another. I'll pray for you dear, and don't worry, I'm not offended, I totally understand.

In fact....I found out this morning, exactly a month until my birthday, the man I love with all I have in me. his doctor told him he's dieing...now I just can't seem to accept that. I say they're wrong, why do I say that? because they are NOT the greatest healer and physician there is, has ever been, or ever will be, for that's God! So while I'm hurting more than I think I ever have in life,I'm trying to stay positive...I cried soooo much and so hard this morning when I found out...I begged God please don't take him, take me, please God you can't do this to us, don't take him please...and so on. Throughout the day though, God has brought me great comfort...I'm going to stand strong and firm upon God's word and promises and be there for,with, and by this man's side through everything, either way it turns out. I'll pray for him,love him all the same,treasure and cherish the time we do have together no matter how little or long it may be.

I felt like "God how could You allow this? why? He's such a wonderful man of Yours, and yet this is happening? why? we have hopes of so much together! we have such a special,wonderful, true thing between us, what most only dream of, we have! Don't do this please God don't do this or allow it.'' I felt somewhat...well I wouldn't say ''betrayed'' but I felt what words can't even begin to express, and the mind and heart just can't even begin to grasp the concept and understanding and everything of.

Anyhow, so sorry this turned out so long, I'll be praying for you, God is STILL on the throne, STILL working,STILL healing, STILL doing everything! He will work this out for you. God bless!
 
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Boston_Laura

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You're such a strong and beautiful person.

I am so sorry to read that, and I really wish I could say something comforting, but I can't think of anything. I have a lump in my throat and I just feel like crying and yelling.

I hope that everything is okay, I hope the doctors are wrong, and I hope that you and your guy have many wonderful, blessed, precious years together.
 
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It's honestly okay. We know the power of God. We trust in Him. Don't cry, it's fine really. It was only mentioned as encouragement. He told me a while back he wants to marry and have a family together...I believe so long as it's God's will, that will happen! No need to cry or yell or anything, we're doing okay. As well as can be expected anyhow. We just need time to let reality set in. You're going to be fine.God will give you the faith, strength, and everything He has given me and so many more. There's so many here stronger than I am. At the same time, it's not us that is strong, but the Lord whom is. Honestly, while I can't remember what it's called he has, I think they're VERY wrong. I don't believe it's going to kill him. They just don't want to do their job I think. I know that whatever happens is God's will. Just as with you, God's will shall be done. I've faced many hard times in life, as we all have,so God will deliver us from ALL things. He will deliver you so cheer up! Cry tears of joy, and rejoice! He's with you, He knows your pain, He knows your confusion, He loves you anyways, He isn't angry with you, and He won't leave you!
 
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Boston_Laura

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Thank you so much. I just really don't know where to start. =/
 
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My suggestion: Start by being totally open and honest with God. He already knows your heart, and everything about you. We can't hide anything from or deny things to God as He knows it already. So just talk with Him how you would an average everyday person. tell Him your concerns, frustrations,confusions, etc. Ask Him to Help with your unbelief/confusion, to stop satan in his tracks and everything. that's just an idea for a starting place.
 
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Lyndies

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Why did you become a Christian? Was it because you had an encounter with God?...I mean, when was the moment that He became real to you?

I would encourage you to remeber why you came to God in the first place. It's easy to forget sometimes when we don't feel Him all the time or when things aren't going as well as we hoped with Him. You could keep a journal for God moments and look back on them when you are having these moments of doubt.

And don't worry about offending--I think everyone has doubts at some point in their walk with God. It's not a bad thing at all. :]

Plus, we walk by faith and not by sight. I always heard this, but it became real to me very recently. First semetser of this past year, I was at my best with God. I was having real encounters with Him almost daily where I could hear Him speak to me. And then I went home for Christmas break and kind of left Him at school. When I went back for second semester, it was harder than ever to get back into my relationship with Him because I couldn't feel Him anymore. I got really depressed and discouraged about everything to the point where I felt like I was suffocating everyday.

Then one day, I cried out, "Where are You, God?! You promised not to ever leave me!" And He gently reminded me that I needed to have faith that He was with me even if I could not see. I had been faithful when I could feel Him, but I needed to learn to be faithful when I couldn't, too.

I'd say to keep crying out to Him, keep praising Him for never leaving or ignoring you (because He really doesn't), and read your Bible. Reading His Word, will give you faith...it's one of His promises.

Hope that helps. If you ever need to talk, please feel free. I'd be more than happy. :]
 
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Bytez8888

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I think you will be surprised how many people are willing to listen to your story and try to walk with you through all of this. The hardest part is not just realizing that you need help, its asking for it. A big step for you was to ask, and you did it! You have to seek God, he wants to be with you. But you need to open your heart and truly seek him. Pray a lot too, sometimes it will feel funny, but God is listening. I pray out loud, helps me keep my focus and it feels like more of a conversation to me. Ill be praying for you.

Zach
 
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Boston_Laura said:
I used to be a Christian....but then I lost my faith when I went to a church and I was completely ignored....


Lately I've been think about death a lot...and God....and religion...

I've asked for help once on here already and got only two responses....

Please help! I need good Christian friends to help guide me!
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So Jesus told them this story: “If a man has a hundred sheep and one of them gets lost, what will he do? Won’t he leave the ninety-nine others in the wilderness and go to search for the one that is lost until he finds it? And when he has found it, he will joyfully carry it home on his shoulders. When he arrives, he will call together his friends and neighbors, saying, ‘Rejoice with me because I have found my lost sheep.’ In the same way, there is more joy in heaven over one lost sinner who repents and returns to God than over ninety-nine others who are righteous and haven’t strayed away!

Luke 15:3-7 NLT
 
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