I just don't know.

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Foundation121

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Hey everybody, I am having girlfriend "Problems". I am in a relationship where I feel like I am putting so much into it but getting little. In the past there are hurts there, but she does not communicate to me what i have done, and when she does i feel attacked. I just dont feel like a Man anymore. I know that we are both human beings, but sometimes i really need my physical Touch, like holding hands Snuggling, and kisses. Often I get refused them. In no way Do i want to control her or make her feel like she has to do these things. I just feel drained and depressed. We have been dating for a year and a half now. Some advice on what to do. Like is this relationship dying? should i End it? or should i continue to fight?
 
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Roughsoul

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Fight till the end my man! No but for real you may be feeling like your putting in so much but it may not be what your girlfriend is needing. And according to you saying that in the past their are hurts, you must know she has been hurt but may be you cannot link your self to what has hurt her. And you must ask her whats the matter then she lets all her emotions go in your direction.

Well I am guessing their is a communication problem. And you defiantly did something that made her mad to the point she gets mad and does not even show affection toward you because you don't even know what you did. She probably thinks its obvious and then when you ask her, all her emotions are directed at you. You as a man and I would know probably panic at these raw emotions. Mostly because we as men do not handle raw emotion so easily. So when it hits us we tend to lose patience almost like wanting to say suck it up. And this may tend to you having a slight attitude without knowing it.

If speaking face to face is not working at the moment maybe try leaving something she likes, like flowers and a letter sincerely saying I am so sorry for what I have done to you, please help me understand how can I make you feel better. I want to know what I did to hurt you so bad so that I know where to begin help our relationship. I love you and do not want to see our relationship end. Please lets talk and work this out piece by piece. And if it ends up not being you thank goodness then start figuring how you need to be toward her emotions. Is she the type that needs a hug and shoulder to cry on or does she need her space. Be open to her feelings and except her emotions if you did something that seems small to you well let it go and say sorry, if it is not your fault say your SORRY, if its your fault and her fault SAY YOUR SORRY! Now if she accuses you of doing something really bad and you didn't then don't say sorry explain that you really have no clue what she talking about. Always be HONEST.

Its always easier to answer when you leave more details but I just threw out some possible things and maybe they will help. Also pray and always put God first. If God is first then everything will work toward the better threw him. May not be how you want it to work but God knows what is best. Good luck.
 
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