I really love her

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KisDawn

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I met a woman online and well we are dating I can't help but think if we were in the same country (we are separated by an ocean) it'd just be the two of us. We are so much alike and I can trust her with everything. We both have boyfriends and me being so far away I know I can't take care of her it just really sucks. I'm ok with her having a boyfriend and she's ok with me having one and both guys know about it. I really do like my boyfriend but I think he loves me more then I love him. I've always kept men at a distance from me because of reasons, and well on a emotional level really only feel safe with other woman. I don't know what to do.
 
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Planetshaker

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honestly, it sounds like an incredibly messed up and complicated situation uve gotten urself into.
No judgements but are you gay? or bi sexual? Just wondering whether your confused about that at the moment or whether you just want to be loved so turn to whatever relationship you can - been there.
I think maybe you need to work out where your heart is and whether these relationships your in are worth it or are just detructive for you.
I'm not sure whether your a christian or not or whether your at a point where you believe in God, but since this is a christian site i'm guessing your atleast curious.
I'll be praying for you and your situation and i'd be happy to have a chat with you if u need someone to just listen or talk to.
Hope things work out,
God bless
xo
 
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KisDawn

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I'm bi I find both men and women attractive. I don't know where exactly I fall on the continuum of sexuality for me it depends on the person. I really to be honest didn't go out looking for a relationship it just happened that now I'm in two of them. It just really sucks when someone you love is so far away.

Also thanks. <3
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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KisDawn said:
I met a woman online and well we are dating I can't help but think if we were in the same country (we are separated by an ocean) it'd just be the two of us. We are so much alike and I can trust her with everything. We both have boyfriends and me being so far away I know I can't take care of her it just really sucks. I'm ok with her having a boyfriend and she's ok with me having one and both guys know about it. I really do like my boyfriend but I think he loves me more then I love him. I've always kept men at a distance from me because of reasons, and well on a emotional level really only feel safe with other woman. I don't know what to do.
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What a dilemma you are in. Im sure this must be causing you a lot of pain. What is it you think this woman can give you or do for you that your boyfriend cant? It strikes me as odd, your boyfriend is totally ok with you being in love with a woman and him, and why are you even still with him if your so in love with this woman?
 
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KisDawn

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The way things happened I was in a relationship long distance with a guy who ended up being well someone who now I have learned my lesson to never do that again. So when we were having issues that was when I became involved with her, so we both had bfs to start off with. She was like my sanity and really helped me. It wasn't until after that mess I started to date my bf, and he knew I was with her from the start. It's weird how like things can be so not complicated and then complicated has a way of finding you. XD
 
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beta7

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hi kissdawn,
i really dont think it's okay to pursue a relationship with another girl. you were not designed by God to be that way. the Bible reads in Romans 1 : 21Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. 22Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,
23And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things.
24Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:
25Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.
26For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
27And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
28And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;
29Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
30Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
31Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
32Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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KisDawn said:
The way things happened I was in a relationship long distance with a guy who ended up being well someone who now I have learned my lesson to never do that again. So when we were having issues that was when I became involved with her, so we both had bfs to start off with. She was like my sanity and really helped me. It wasn't until after that mess I started to date my bf, and he knew I was with her from the start. It's weird how like things can be so not complicated and then complicated has a way of finding you. XD
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I actually totally get what your saying.
 
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KisDawn

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beta7 I don't just lust after her, just wanting someone for sex although nice to start out with isn't good for the long term. Since most of a relationship with a person is out of the bedroom. ;) I mostly want to hug her to be there for her a warm embrace when bad things happen to her, to enjoy the times when good things happen. That's what I want in my deepest of feelings, to make her feel no matter what she is loved, and that I will always be there for her. It really has little to do with sex. (if that were the case I would have found someone a lot closer to home.)

NodMyHeadLikeYeah Thank you. <3
 
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