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I am a 33 year old married woman with four kids. I met my husband in college and we got married shortly after graduating because I found out I was pregnant. He is a really nice, laid back, easy going guy-especially with the kids. I have been blessed to be a stay at home mom for the past 3 years after giving birth to twins. I have never felt a connection to my husband. I have never felt that he was truly the one for me. When we first met, I really didn't want to be with him but decided to give it a try because he was a really nice guy and I kinda felt "obligated". Throughout my entire marriage, I have always had thoughts about my first love. I was 13 when we met and he was 17. After HS, we both managed to stay in touch with one another off and on. The last time I talked to him was in 1999- the year I got pregnant with my daughter.After that, we kind of lost contact with each other as I moved several times and so did he. I married my husband in 2000. From this point on, I tried to focus on my marriage and kids and enjoy life but I always felt something was missing. I would always end up thinking about my first love and wondering how things would have been if we were together. Well, about 6 months ago, my first love contacted me via classmates.com and we got a chance to reunite. I found out that he's been married just as long as I have and he has a 14 year old daughter. I told him that I still loved him and he told me that he felt the same way. We both agreed that we couldn't be together because of our situations. I have met up with him a couple of times and we've kissed but nothing else. I have become emotionally attached to him and I really really want to be with him. I'm at the point now, where I have mentally checked out of my marriage. I have no feelings for my husband. I think abouit my first love daily. He is the first thing that's on my mind when I wake up and the last thing before I go to sleep. Lately, he's been kind of distant from me and told me that he wanted to continue to be friends and that he could not communicate with me that much. In the beginning we would text each other all day-literally! Now I haven't heard from him in over a week and I am about to lose my mind. He will not talk to me. He will not respond to any of my emails. He will not answer my calls. He just went cold turkey on me. I am devastated because I have been knowing this guy for 20 plus years and never would have imagined that he would treat me this way. I know that my husband knows that there is something wrong. He's now depressed because I am depressed and I don't talk to him or have sex with him anymore. I told my husband that he deserves better and that he should move on with his life. I want my first love. I don't know why he refuses to communicate with me. But I have been praying to GOD that he sends him back into my life. I really believe that he is my soulmate. I can't get him off of my mind. I really need someone that I can talk to help get me through this. I have left out alot of details because this has been going on for 6 months and I didn't want to make this post too long. But i would appreciate any feedback.