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No, no, no more running away, you stay here and learn. I know there being tough on you and they may seem even mean. But they well. Life is tough. Many of the people here are not going to sugar coat things for you or pacify you. You have to start facing life head on. I know you can do it because you have the power of God behind you.so hang around cc is a good place. You will learn a lot about people, something you will have to deal with the rest of your life. Don't hide from society,its not healthy. Oh yeah the guy thing he's on the way, you'll see.
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You're living in a very blessed and exciting time!! You are in the last days!! There is any number of reasons God would keep you from having a significant other at this point. Maybe because it's just not a good place to have a child and the temptations around us are out of this world. School is not a good place, everything is totally corrupted and God wants us to be innocent. Also, God isn't going to bring you a man that is only a Christian by mouth and not by heart.
Matthew 7:14 But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.
Paul said it is good to stay single!! And I know I know, it's hard and even embarrassing at times. I haven't had one date in the last 11 years of my life, and frankly, that boy didn't count. Otherwise I'd say 13 years. And I'm not going to settle for a man who does not love ME. I want love!! I'm 32 now. I'm not embarrassed about it anymore, though. It is my very awesome testimony!! I love sharing how long I've been single. It shocks people LOL, and it is a testament of my loyalty and belief in God Almighty.
1 Corinthians 7:8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.
Then again God may have somebody for you!! Don't lose hope and don't stop praying. You can move mountains with faith as small as a mustard seed!!
Luke 17:6 He replied, "If you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mulberry tree, 'Be uprooted and planted in the sea,' and it will obey you.
But God bless. Yall, it's REALLY easy to misinterpret other people's intentions over the internet. But God's words are flawless
Proverbs 30:5 "Every word of God is flawless; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him.
In the meantime, during this long wait and heavy trial, stay faithful to Him. Stay in His word. Fill yourself with His words, may your heart run over with them!! I'll be praying for you.
Job 23:12 I have not departed from the commands of his lips; I have treasured the words of his mouth more than my daily bread.
I love this song, it strengthens my faith and understanding. I hope it helps you too, sister ♥
Don't Make it Easy on Me
Don't Make It Easy - YouTube
Matthew 7:14 But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.
Paul said it is good to stay single!! And I know I know, it's hard and even embarrassing at times. I haven't had one date in the last 11 years of my life, and frankly, that boy didn't count. Otherwise I'd say 13 years. And I'm not going to settle for a man who does not love ME. I want love!! I'm 32 now. I'm not embarrassed about it anymore, though. It is my very awesome testimony!! I love sharing how long I've been single. It shocks people LOL, and it is a testament of my loyalty and belief in God Almighty.
1 Corinthians 7:8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.
Then again God may have somebody for you!! Don't lose hope and don't stop praying. You can move mountains with faith as small as a mustard seed!!
Luke 17:6 He replied, "If you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mulberry tree, 'Be uprooted and planted in the sea,' and it will obey you.
But God bless. Yall, it's REALLY easy to misinterpret other people's intentions over the internet. But God's words are flawless
Proverbs 30:5 "Every word of God is flawless; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him.
In the meantime, during this long wait and heavy trial, stay faithful to Him. Stay in His word. Fill yourself with His words, may your heart run over with them!! I'll be praying for you.
Job 23:12 I have not departed from the commands of his lips; I have treasured the words of his mouth more than my daily bread.
I love this song, it strengthens my faith and understanding. I hope it helps you too, sister ♥
Don't Make it Easy on Me
Don't Make It Easy - YouTube
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Well, Balletlover, so you don't drink or do drugs and you're a virgin and you're accountable for your own actions, and you're a follower of Christ and have honesty and integrity - so what is there to like exactly? Oh, and you stay fit and are humble - another couple of strikes.
The trouble with girls like you is you always seem to get all hurt over some loser - someone who TRULY doesn't deserve you - and then you think YOU"RE the one who's not desireable? Waaay wrong.
One a kind women sometimes have to wait around for the one of a kind guy. Not everybody's gonna do....
Oh, and you stay fit and are humble - another couple of strikes. The trouble with girls like you is you always seem to get all hurt over some loser - someone who TRULY doesn't deserve you - and then you think YOU"RE the one who's not desireable? Waaay wrong.
One a kind women sometimes have to wait around for the one of a kind guy. Not everybody's gonna do....
This is a difficult thing to answer, because from my experience I have found the church members in different congregations to have varying personalities. Sometimes I find church girls to be stuck up and judgmental, other times self-defeating, other times the guys are that way, etc. Many church girls in my circle have been taught that dating is wrong and it is more spiritual to get married young, which led to a mass 18-year old marriage fiasco, which I am not a proponent of at all. Within 5 years all but one were divorced. We are in a culture that says marry young, and it is all centered around feelings and/or experiences, instead of hard work. Love is not about you, it is about loving in an other-centered fashion. In order to be loved, you must love others first. CS Lewis I believe married in his 50's, and he is viewed as a somewhat modern spiritual giant. I have been in the battle of searching for love myself, and now that I'm 30 I feel like I'm getting out of shape and becoming less attractive; I have learned to just be content whether or not married, and I have also learned to not just jump into a relationship with someone who just "likes" me, because there are so many other details to consider,
I think your plight is a little misrepresented, and I'd like to show you how.
1. If you don't go out much that doesn't mean you're good. It just means you're boring.
2. If you want to have friends you have to be friendly. Not cold. Maybe people are mistaking your shyness for not caring? Or maybe there are too many women out there who are friendlier and are the easier catch.
3. A word of advice. Don't ever try to steal another person's significant other. What goes around comes around. And there is always a third or fourth person in every relationship trying to steal someone's significant other. It's old. And tiresome. And it's one of the downsides of having a relationship. If he's too dumb to understand that you're worth it, then best to avoid him. Also it might be that some good guys don't want you because your standards are set too low and they see this. Which makes them think you're ignorant and therefore would be unstable in a relationship. Some guys like women to have a little experience dating so they have realistic expectations about dating and don't get tired of one person too fast and want to see what other men are like because they've never experienced them yet.
4. Last of all, look at what God kept you from doing. You should be glad that you're not entangled with a man who's had premarital sex with a woman he'll never be able to forget. That would've been a lot of heart ache. Not to mention that, while you were good, you weren't looking for a good man. So what about the good men? Why lament your situation when there are plenty of good men out there that you're overlooking? Could it be that other people overlook you just as easily as you overlooked them?
I hope this hasn't been too hurtful. But it's just what I would think about you if I saw you portraying yourself as described in your post. So if there is another side to you, then great! But best to get rid of some of the qualities in this post. Because even if you are a good person you'd be even better for it.
1. If you don't go out much that doesn't mean you're good. It just means you're boring.
2. If you want to have friends you have to be friendly. Not cold. Maybe people are mistaking your shyness for not caring? Or maybe there are too many women out there who are friendlier and are the easier catch.
3. A word of advice. Don't ever try to steal another person's significant other. What goes around comes around. And there is always a third or fourth person in every relationship trying to steal someone's significant other. It's old. And tiresome. And it's one of the downsides of having a relationship. If he's too dumb to understand that you're worth it, then best to avoid him. Also it might be that some good guys don't want you because your standards are set too low and they see this. Which makes them think you're ignorant and therefore would be unstable in a relationship. Some guys like women to have a little experience dating so they have realistic expectations about dating and don't get tired of one person too fast and want to see what other men are like because they've never experienced them yet.
4. Last of all, look at what God kept you from doing. You should be glad that you're not entangled with a man who's had premarital sex with a woman he'll never be able to forget. That would've been a lot of heart ache. Not to mention that, while you were good, you weren't looking for a good man. So what about the good men? Why lament your situation when there are plenty of good men out there that you're overlooking? Could it be that other people overlook you just as easily as you overlooked them?
I hope this hasn't been too hurtful. But it's just what I would think about you if I saw you portraying yourself as described in your post. So if there is another side to you, then great! But best to get rid of some of the qualities in this post. Because even if you are a good person you'd be even better for it.
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Hmmm I'm always friend-zoned too... It's really weird! We're great catches. They're missing out.
I hate the phrase "good girl" or "bad girl". It makes it sound like people are 5 years old mentally when they say that. That is a term used to refer to your pets, not people. Why not refer to it as "I'm an intelligent person doing my best trying to live according to the laws of God". Now that kind of description would interest me.
I have problem talking with guys..I will turn burning red and that makes me want to die.I think I am hopeless.But I understand I can't go on like this.I am about to graduate and make a living.I believe LORD can help me overcome this fear.I want to find a guy who is also God's child.
I want to find a guy who is also God's child.
Balletlover, I'm glad you did not cut yourself. That is'nt an answer to your dilemma. It's simply avoiding the root cause of your problem..which is pretty much low self-esteem, from all the posts I've read so far. You cannot move forward into the future, UNTIL you let go of the past!! You're holding onto what happened when you were in school!! Learn from it, let it go, and move on. Or you will be stuck where you are right now forever. I know how it feels to have low self-esteem and shyness issues. I have them too. This guy you talked about--he was with someone else, and you knew that, so why try to ruin his relationship by showing him that you're better for him? You should have just let him go because he's not the one for you, obviously. I think its admirable that you are still a virgin. I was until I was 23, then I got raped. You're young, you have your entire life to live!! Dont be so desperate for a boyfriend right now. God will determine whether you find "HIS one" or not. Moral of my story: you cant move on until you let go and let God. P.S. Dont let Ugly bother you--he can be kind of blunt in his replies sometimes. LOL. p.p.s. Telling a room full of ppl on a public site that your gonna cut yourself...wont gain you any sympathy points. It will only invite more criticism from posters.
or not. Moral of my story: you cant move on until you let go and let God. P.S. Dont let Ugly bother you--he can be kind of blunt in his replies sometimes. LOL. p.p.s. Telling a room full of ppl on a public site that your gonna cut yourself...wont gain you any sympathy points. It will only invite more criticism from posters.
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Hi Balletlover,
I'm sure I am a little late with this reply but I figure I only live once and It would be worth it just to see if God has provided you with a boyfriend. If you are stills single, my advice would be to pray and fast over this issue and give it to God. The biggest blessings/breakthroughs of my entire life have been through prayer/fasting. I prayed right before I registered and wrote this. If you have a great man that you are happy with, then i'm happy for you.
I'm sure I am a little late with this reply but I figure I only live once and It would be worth it just to see if God has provided you with a boyfriend. If you are stills single, my advice would be to pray and fast over this issue and give it to God. The biggest blessings/breakthroughs of my entire life have been through prayer/fasting. I prayed right before I registered and wrote this. If you have a great man that you are happy with, then i'm happy for you.
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I can understand why you would be frustrated about this, who wouldn't? You sound like a good Christan girl just looking for a good christian guy and there's nothing wrong with that. Unfortunitly we are living in times that are making it harder for women to find "good guys". They are out there though, the fact that you are strong in your morals and your handling yourself like a Christian girl should is very commendable. I will say this though, I would focus less on finding a partner mainly because your feelings will just intensify the more your thinking about it. Focus on Jesus and have fun being single, you don't want to get to a point where your so desperate for a bf that you throw out some of your morals for a guy.
Many girls are going through the same thing, your definitely not alone. Look up Joseph Prince, I think you will really like him
Many girls are going through the same thing, your definitely not alone. Look up Joseph Prince, I think you will really like him