I'm in love with my friend...but he has a girlfriend already.

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Surrender

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What should I do...I'm in love with a good friend...But he has a girlfriend already...I need advices...I don't know if I should distance myself ...
So I would get over him faster ....But it would probably affect our friendship.
or
act as if I didn't mind, suffering in silent and keep our friendship as it is.

It may sounds childish but...It's been so long since I loved a guy...like...truly...So I don't even know what to do.
Thanks you.
 
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Richie_2uk

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well would it be fair if you had a boyfriend, and someone else who is in love with him and want him, instead of you? How would you feel? be honest. it would nt be right would it. but I understand that you not had someone in your life. But you cant go round falling in love with someone else's relationship. But if you are a Christian, then best thing for you to do, is rely on God more. let him be your match maker, let him find you the right one. listen to his will, and focus on him. God bless
 
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Surrender

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You're right..that's a good way to see this situation...in fact, I don't wan't to break their relationship...or to be awkward.
I'm not planning telling him...so I have to choose between keeping our friendship as it is right now (he's kind of my closest guy friend) or to put some distance. (but wouldn't it be more awkward?)...I have to trust God in any side of my life..
.That situation is difficult indeed. But I know his plan for my life is perfect.

Thanks for your advice
 
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Richie_2uk

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Surrender said:
You're right..that's a good way to see this situation...in fact, I don't wan't to break their relationship...or to be awkward.
I'm not planning telling him...so I have to choose between keeping our friendship as it is right now (he's kind of my closest guy friend) or to put some distance. (but wouldn't it be more awkward?)...I have to trust God in any side of my life..
.That situation is difficult indeed. But I know his plan for my life is perfect.

Thanks for your advice
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you will be matched perfect by God. just be patient and follow his will. you be blessed soon enough.
 
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joeanbu

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well said. God bless u .. I know its really painful though... Just keep smiling and keep praying .. I will pray for u too
 
TREX2008

TREX2008

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May 2, 2009
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take her out girlfriend. I got yo back. lol..


(just kidding. please dont hurt her.)
 
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Ecclesiastik

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Examine what the biblical definition of love is in the first place. A lot of young people tend to confuse love with lust.

1Corinthians 13;4-8
[SUP]4 [/SUP]Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. [SUP]5 [/SUP]It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. [SUP]6 [/SUP]Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. [SUP]7 [/SUP]It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love should not compromise your morals or make you have intense cravings for what you should not. This is more like lust- which is satanic in nature.
 
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misstee

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Continue to be a good friend to your friend, if you'll are ment to be.it'll be. Don't worry, pray. When the lord see fit to let you know wassup he will. I'm rooting for you! Everything will work out fine!!! Ps. The man chases the lady... & your worth it girl!
 
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