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Important is different than famous.
There are different levels of importance.
I just want to be important to my friends. I don't want to be important to the world or be important in a more famous manner.
My friends tell me that they care about me and love me, but then they never contact me and they just ignore me.
I want them to try and make an effort to show me that I am important to them.
There are different levels of importance.
I just want to be important to my friends. I don't want to be important to the world or be important in a more famous manner.
My friends tell me that they care about me and love me, but then they never contact me and they just ignore me.
I want them to try and make an effort to show me that I am important to them.
I think we're important in our own right, and important to those who we help and those who value us, but there's different ways of measuring and not all really representative, I can also understand why people don't feel important or have reason to devalue themselves... I think it can become one of those self-fulfilling things.
How 'important' you are should be synonamous with how good you are, and you can change that in a heartbeat knowing the past is not who you are now.
How 'important' you are should be synonamous with how good you are, and you can change that in a heartbeat knowing the past is not who you are now.
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I wish this were an exaggeration, but its not. My mother calls me minimum 4 times a day. If i do not pick up my phone she will start obsessively calling me over and over and over and over again. If that doesnt work she then gets my dad to start calling me and texing me. If i still dont answer she just shows up at my front door in hysterics. My sister calls me at least twice to three times a day. Between my mom and my sister, i dont have time to do anything other than eat and sleep (and sometimes not even that because my mom and sister tag team me in the morning sometimes and start calling me at 7 am to see what im doing that day!) more or less think about being important to my family.
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i always feel important because i wake up each morning. and each morning that i do that i know i have a purpose for God. He has allowed me to live another day to spread his word and love others. so therefore we are all crucial to his plan each day that we are breathing. He affirms this many times in the Bible. so we dont need recognition from anyone on this earth. all we need is that awesome feeling when someone asks us about God or says "hey man can i come to church with you?" etc... God Bless and happy beginning of lent!
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I think these responses are interesting and am not sure if I asked the question right.
I want people to value me. I want to know that some of the things I do are important to at least some people because if they are not then why would should I be doing them. Whats the use of doing things that are of no value.
I think some of you may have thought I was asking who does things for recognition. Not what I am asking at all. That would be wrong. But it is nice to be recognized when you do things that help others lives or you may feel like its not worth it and quit.
I want people to value me. I want to know that some of the things I do are important to at least some people because if they are not then why would should I be doing them. Whats the use of doing things that are of no value.
I think some of you may have thought I was asking who does things for recognition. Not what I am asking at all. That would be wrong. But it is nice to be recognized when you do things that help others lives or you may feel like its not worth it and quit.
J
this question can actually be answered almost the exact same way.
matthew 6:33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
1 Corinthians 10:31 So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.
God knows your heart and why you do the things you do, it may upset some people but if it is to glorify God then you will be fine. you seem like a very caring person. just do your work for God and all else will follow. i will be praying that the Lord will show you his ways
God Bless
matthew 6:33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
1 Corinthians 10:31 So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.
God knows your heart and why you do the things you do, it may upset some people but if it is to glorify God then you will be fine. you seem like a very caring person. just do your work for God and all else will follow. i will be praying that the Lord will show you his ways
God Bless
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I think i'm important because God love me and tells me I'm uniquely made for His purpose. He writes us a love letter to our souls. we should be validated by His promise and Majesty.
YouTube - God's love letter
I'm going to let my light shine to all the world might see the Glory the Lord has wrought in my life.
YouTube - Newsboys (Shine)
God's validation is more important then anyone else in the entire universe.
YouTube - God's love letter
I'm going to let my light shine to all the world might see the Glory the Lord has wrought in my life.
YouTube - Newsboys (Shine)
God's validation is more important then anyone else in the entire universe.
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I barely have any of this in my life, but I know it's true- Your desire to be valued is important and meant to be filled, we don't only need God and God is not enough, we are meant to go together, people are meant to share their life, and in relationships in our life we're not meant to question whether they value and appreciate us BECAUSE= they're supposed to TELL us, and not just once, it's a "law" of relationship.
I'm very sorry you're feeling this way, I know how it feels too, it is very hard. No matter the how many people who are going through it and no matter how many people accept it in their life even a little, they should know deep down it's not right, I know that a lot because I think logically or something.
People have needs, and it's not wrong in any way in a very important perspective. But some people treat it like it's wrong and like you're just really broken. You are broken in another way, but we also simply have needs, and it doesn't make us broken, but a deeper kind of thing of missing something supposed to have, meant to have. Just like going to the doctor, or being unhealthy, an unhealthy person is more told they have needs, they're not told they're sick, but just needing. So know you have a need, everyone needs love, affirmation, to be appreciated, and to be valued is very important. Like me you don't even have to have it much at all, to know that that is true.
It is always good to hear from God personally about where you're at with self-identity stuff, He knows deep things and can give revelation of deeper thoughts below in hearts, and he likes to grow hearts, whenever struggling in a distressed way from the cores of value. I have experienced it a lot and it has grown me a ton, I still have forever to go but that's okay.
The world is full of wisdom about this stuff and even some hard conviction, but the green alive life-words to your own heart are what matters, I hate having to hear a bunch of people convicting everyone of their identity problems when that's not even where me and most are at I think, and they just keep saying it over and over when that's not enough, knowledge and conviction are very not always strong enough by themselves to take on bad stuff. And I think most us Christians (including me) rather like to put their emotional stuff in their air, than actually talk TO eachother and receive something in our heart. And when I have done that it is so real, whenever people do that it is always really cool, shakes personal planets.
God bless, take care <3
I'm very sorry you're feeling this way, I know how it feels too, it is very hard. No matter the how many people who are going through it and no matter how many people accept it in their life even a little, they should know deep down it's not right, I know that a lot because I think logically or something.
People have needs, and it's not wrong in any way in a very important perspective. But some people treat it like it's wrong and like you're just really broken. You are broken in another way, but we also simply have needs, and it doesn't make us broken, but a deeper kind of thing of missing something supposed to have, meant to have. Just like going to the doctor, or being unhealthy, an unhealthy person is more told they have needs, they're not told they're sick, but just needing. So know you have a need, everyone needs love, affirmation, to be appreciated, and to be valued is very important. Like me you don't even have to have it much at all, to know that that is true.
It is always good to hear from God personally about where you're at with self-identity stuff, He knows deep things and can give revelation of deeper thoughts below in hearts, and he likes to grow hearts, whenever struggling in a distressed way from the cores of value. I have experienced it a lot and it has grown me a ton, I still have forever to go but that's okay.
The world is full of wisdom about this stuff and even some hard conviction, but the green alive life-words to your own heart are what matters, I hate having to hear a bunch of people convicting everyone of their identity problems when that's not even where me and most are at I think, and they just keep saying it over and over when that's not enough, knowledge and conviction are very not always strong enough by themselves to take on bad stuff. And I think most us Christians (including me) rather like to put their emotional stuff in their air, than actually talk TO eachother and receive something in our heart. And when I have done that it is so real, whenever people do that it is always really cool, shakes personal planets
. God bless, take care <3
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Forgot to write-
I agreed with what you said-
"I want to know that some of the things I do are important to at least some people because if they are not then why would should I be doing them. Whats the use of doing things that are of no value."
It makes me sad but I get what you mean, you're right, they just need to appreciate/recognize you, without it you really really need it. If anyone thinks that's prideful, they strive for false humility and they think worth is a lot of laboring and that God is angry rather than doesn't leave people. Everybody's supposed to be appreciated.
I agreed with what you said-
"I want to know that some of the things I do are important to at least some people because if they are not then why would should I be doing them. Whats the use of doing things that are of no value."
It makes me sad but I get what you mean, you're right, they just need to appreciate/recognize you, without it you really really need it. If anyone thinks that's prideful, they strive for false humility and they think worth is a lot of laboring and that God is angry rather than doesn't leave people. Everybody's supposed to be appreciated.
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The best way to validate yourself and make yourself feel good about who you are is to help someone in need.
Donate food or money to the poor, the sick and the needy, help someone who's hurting with advice, volunteer at a church, hospital or homeless shelter, etc...
The best feeling we can have about ourselves comes when we give part of ourselves away to help someone else.
You will not only be making yourself feel better, but you will be gaining graces from the Lord:
34 “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the creation of the world. 35 For I was hungry, and you fed me. I was thirsty, and you gave me a drink. I was a stranger, and you invited me into your home. 36 I was naked, and you gave me clothing. I was sick, and you cared for me. I was in prison, and you visited me.’
37 “Then these righteous ones will reply, ‘Lord, when did we ever see you hungry and feed you? Or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38 Or a stranger and show you hospitality? Or naked and give you clothing? 39 When did we ever see you sick or in prison and visit you?’
40 “And the King will say, ‘I tell you the truth, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were doing it to me!’
Matthew 25:34-40 NLT
Donate food or money to the poor, the sick and the needy, help someone who's hurting with advice, volunteer at a church, hospital or homeless shelter, etc...
The best feeling we can have about ourselves comes when we give part of ourselves away to help someone else.
You will not only be making yourself feel better, but you will be gaining graces from the Lord:
34 “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the creation of the world. 35 For I was hungry, and you fed me. I was thirsty, and you gave me a drink. I was a stranger, and you invited me into your home. 36 I was naked, and you gave me clothing. I was sick, and you cared for me. I was in prison, and you visited me.’
37 “Then these righteous ones will reply, ‘Lord, when did we ever see you hungry and feed you? Or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38 Or a stranger and show you hospitality? Or naked and give you clothing? 39 When did we ever see you sick or in prison and visit you?’
40 “And the King will say, ‘I tell you the truth, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were doing it to me!’
Matthew 25:34-40 NLT
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