really? REALLY?

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triple-seven

triple-seven

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I have read so many threads on here of young people that are struggling, and how hard it is to hold on to their virginity at age 17 or 18, or 20.

To everyone who thinks it's impossible, I'm going to set the record straight. I'm a 31 year old male, and I have dated a lot of women. Some were models, one was a supermodel, some went to my church, some were sweet, some were crazy, but all were beautiful. Let me put it this way, I can pick out the most beautiful women in a crowd at any given place or any given event, (and as long as she's not married) I can get her phone number. I'm not saying this to boast, I'm simply setting up my point. Here it is...are you ready? I'm still a VIRGIN. So don't tell me it's not possible. What's my secret? I pray the Lord's prayer when I feel tempted. "Lord lead me not into temptation" (for the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak) On top of all this, my testosterone levels are through the roof! So if you think I'm not tempted as much as you are, you're wrong. Sure there are days when I want to cut my balls off. But if you look to the Lord He can help you.
The more parties you go to, the more people you flirt with, make out with etc., the more porn you look at, and the more you masturbate, the more you are strengthening your flesh and killing your spirit. And the more likely you are to start having sex. Stop feeding lust. It's like a drug.

And here's my second point. I'm still waiting to find a woman of noble character. And it's not until you give up the hunt, and turn your eyes to the Lord and tell Him you want what He wants, that He will reward you. I've wasted a lot of time trying to take matters into my own hands.

For the record, I'm no better than you are, I just know that the Lord is MIGHTY TO SAVE. And I want you to realize that too. Also, don't let regret set in because when you do, you'll give up all together. (Though a righteous man falls seven times, he rises again.) the Lord bless you and strengthen you brothers and sisters!
 
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I've not seen few if any who have said it was impossible. Merely difficult.
Also, some people have better control over certain areas than others. So because this is an area you've been able to push through on doesn't mean others won't have a worse time. You may mean well, but your tone comes across as preaching down at people and a bit boastful.
 
JesusChica1991

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I'm with Ugly. I've never seen anyone say it's impossible unless you can show proof on here. Yes, it is difficult...i hear that as well..and just from my personal testimony...but, i've never heard anyone say it's impossible.
 
triple-seven

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triple-seven said:
I have read so many threads on here of young people that are struggling, and how hard it is to hold on to their virginity at age 17 or 18, or 20.

To everyone who thinks it's impossible, I'm going to set the record straight. I'm a 31 year old male, and I have dated a lot of women. Some were models, one was a supermodel, some went to my church, some were sweet, some were crazy, but all were beautiful. Let me put it this way, I can pick out the most beautiful women in a crowd at any given place or any given event, (and as long as she's not married) I can get her phone number. I'm not saying this to boast, I'm simply setting up my point. Here it is...are you ready? I'm still a VIRGIN. So don't tell me it's not possible. What's my secret? I pray the Lord's prayer when I feel tempted. "Lord lead me not into temptation" (for the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak) On top of all this, my testosterone levels are through the roof! So if you think I'm not tempted as much as you are, you're wrong. Sure there are days when I want to cut my balls off. But if you look to the Lord He can help you.
The more parties you go to, the more people you flirt with, make out with etc., the more porn you look at, and the more you masturbate, the more you are strengthening your flesh and killing your spirit. And the more likely you are to start having sex. Stop feeding lust. It's like a drug.

And here's my second point. I'm still waiting to find a woman of noble character. And it's not until you give up the hunt, and turn your eyes to the Lord and tell Him you want what He wants, that He will reward you. I've wasted a lot of time trying to take matters into my own hands.

For the record, I'm no better than you are, I just know that the Lord is MIGHTY TO SAVE. And I want you to realize that too. Also, don't let regret set in because when you do, you'll give up all together. (Though a righteous man falls seven times, he rises again.) the Lord bless you and strengthen you brothers and sisters!
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First of all, I'm not boasting. What I said is to my shame, not pride. Secondly, I struggle just as much as others and I did not say I didn't. Just because someone gives in to something that doesn't mean they struggle more. It means they give up more easily. If I could reword what I originally said, I would. I know it was blunt. My point was this: "Without a relationship with Jesus, I mean a real one, you are going to fall. It is written: love (desire) the Lord with all your heart and all your soul, mind and strength. Focus on that and you will find victory, brothers and sisters. The real issue isn't sex, it's losing your love for Jesus. When you are in the Spirit and in love you could care less about sex. God is All in All. Let Him be. And lastly, (ugly) you gotta stop doing that thing with your eye, it's freaking me out lol
 
mystdancer50

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Looking back, I'm like, "Psh, it wasn't so difficult to wait." But, when I was a raging hormonal mess, being pulled one way and yanked the other, wanting to fit in and belong and feeling like an outcast inside and outside of church, yeah, it was difficult to deal with it all.

I think that if the church would start to be real with these youth, actually address the issues of sex and purity and whatnot, rather than assuming they all know and will stay pure just because they're in youth meeting once a week, then we could possibly start helping these teens deal with the pressures that they face, rather than assuming it will pass. For some people it doesn't pass.

I had to learn to put away the things that whet that lust appetite in me. But I learned that through my relationship with God and I learned it in my late twenties. What if we could teach it to youth now in a reverent and relevant way? It is only by the sheer grace and attention of God that I have waited, though now I could wait forever and be fine with it, but back when it didn't feel that way, He alone has kept me pure. And, I will say, He alone keeps me pure now. Both seasons, though, required an obedient response from me. That is what we need to reveal to our youth. Purity doesn't just happen and neither does sex. It is all from choices we make.

And therein lies but a small part of my ministry, Radical Purity, God's Way. :)
 
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