Trouble being submissive

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4Hizcall

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I have to admit that I am head strong and stubborn at times. I believe it stems from my mom being so strict while I was growing up. I wasn't allowed to have a say in anything. Now that I'm away from home (going on 5 yrs now) I am having a really tough time taking advice from ppl. When I'm told things like 'You shouldn't do such and such' or 'You really need to do this' Something (rebellion I'm guessing) just rises up in me and I'm all like ... oh heck no. No one is gunna tell me what to do. I'm gunna do whatever I want... Now that I'm in my 20's, my issues with authority really bug me because I am a gentle natured person most of the time and I want to be a good example to the kids I take care of. Do you have any suggestions on how I can combat this behavior? I'm not asking to become someone's doormat but I do want to be more ... flexible? or less pig headed? Thanks
 
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Ugly

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This is often an issue of insecurity. Once you feel secure in yourself, you won't feel threatened by authority. And all advice should be weighed and considered before being taken anyways. I rarely accept advice from someone until i've had time to think it over.
 
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Stuey

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Aug 17, 2009
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Always consider advice, and be polite about it, but don't always take it.

I think it is natural when someone tells you "you should be doing this" - to rebel against it.
 
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cmarieh

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well, in order to get married and have a family being submissive is something you will have to learn. One way that might help is getting some counseling or some sort of that thing. I think every woman needs help from time to time to be submissive
 
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Relena7

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Don't think of it as being submissive then.
Think of it as learning to work better and politely with other people who like to communicate their needs and OPTIONAL suggestions for you. I know that sounds too easy, sorry if it does, lol. Just trying to help. :)


If someone asks nicely, I "submit" without even thinking about it, because I want to. I can have a stubborn rebellious side too... But it won't rear its ugly head as long as I avoid certain personalities that clash too much with mine.
 
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