Para sa single filipina ladies: Fun fun question lang

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gideon007

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ganda nyan hon ah... sana may counter din para sa mga guys...ahahahaha
 
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odette

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#43
I am just curious. What do Filipina women want in a man?

I ask because I know we are culturally sooo different from our foreign sisters and in the singles forum, their posts may not neessarily represent our sentiments, or do they?

Give me 3 if you may
Hi girls! I have many! But my top three would be, Responsible, caring and nice. :)
 
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fellowsheep

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I believe this not the place to discuss that if ever it should be discussed. I believe Christians either American/Filipino had one thing in common, all are one in Christ.

Just want to share this, recovering Biblical womanhood: [video=youtube;9kQ5v_tEAEw]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9kQ5v_tEAEw[/video]
 
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nettie

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#45
I am just curious. What do Filipina women want in a man?

I ask because I know we are culturally sooo different from our foreign sisters and in the singles forum, their posts may not neessarily represent our sentiments, or do they?

Give me 3 if you may
Wooopss... Sorry late na ako nakapagpost...
Hmm...
1. Believer ;)
2. Conservative :D
3. May Sense of Humor :)

Yun.. At sobrang agree ako sa nabasa ko from previous post na for singles... "Don't settle for less than God's best."... lagi to minemention sa church. ^__^
 
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UpstateNYChristianBro

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Oh boy! I am gonna have to get it translated or get my gf to translate them all. However, my girlfriend is.. not like other Filipinas. The others I have met are...sadly that they seem to make excuses like one I met said she has eye problems and can not afford insurance and needed me to pay her 150 dollars.. Something was off. Another tried to force me to join her cult.. Really! And a few others seem so insisting to come to America. I know that song before because when I was in Central America, 2 ladies I have dated.. First one kept her mouth shut but then she broke up with me because I am "too old" for her. We were only like 5 years difference! She was 5 years younger complaining about my hair. That is why. And guess what!? She married an American who HAS white hair like mine! That was merely about 1 year after the break up.

For her, she looked familiar when I saw her back yard. Quickly I recalled it was her in a "mail order bride" catalog I had just a few short years before I met her. And yes, I remembered she was from Central America.. got the connection!

The other was very very pushy wanted to marry me and move to America and I was like whoa.. and because I was there on missions, not to visit her! She did not even show up for the welcome back from the road trip party in San Jose, CR after 7 country tour on the road with 6 other missionaries. Also she was unable to have children and I told her I wanted children. She kept trying to distract me from that with kisses and hugs.

Then she asked me for money to be send down to buy her ticket to come here to NYS (USA) and I said no because of the way she was treating me.

Now, I know how the games work with some women so I apologize and I am only telling the truth.

MY fiance is different. She never spoke of wanting to come here. Never asked me for money, she has her own house in Marikina and she has her 3 dogs and 3 cats.. she love animals and nature. She is very independent woman. Very much so for a Filipina by her standards. Very different. She does want to have children. She also appears very different than many Filipinas because I can see her face is different than many Filipinas.. She is partial Spanish (pure Latina on her mom's side) and her father was Filipino. Her hair is brown instead of black, etc. Never mind the looks but the inside she is different.

She is awesome! Attentive yet independent. Smart and managed money herself. Has degree and educated. She invest in various of investments. She is established. No offense and I understand how hard it is with women in the Philippines with employment, desire to have better life and taken care of. I totally understand that. The 2 women in Costa Rica I dated were wealthier than many poor people yet I am "wealthier" than those two.

Economy runs different.

Yes, I do and I am sure many men are also want females to be nice, sweet, honest, has respect for husband and many follow Christian doctrine that the man is the head of the house, etc. That is what my fiance is doing. Only I make final decision. She propose things and we talk about it and I make final decisions. Only I felt comfortable.

To answer the question, it is different for everyone who is the right person for relationship and marriage. My advice is, please do not act too desperate or you can get turned off. Men sometimes can see desperate in wrong way and then go down different path than they are supposed to. You know what I mean? Do NOT ask for money. There are some scammers in the Phils that are making bad names for the Filipinas. So, please don't ask. But DO talk about how tough life you are going through. If he does not understand how tough life is, then invite him to visit you and you show him how tough life is. If you actually lives in that kind of neighborhood, please do show him and he will realize how hard it is for you to live.

Please DO talk to him about investments and your goals but do not say you want to come to America. It is getting MORE difficult to get in because thanks to many illegals entered the country. And I am sorry to say that Americans are getting fed up with foreigners coming in both as illegal and legal taking jobs away.

Have you ever thought of inviting him to LIVE in Phils or any Asian/South Pacific Rim nations and marry you there instead of in US? I found out its bit easier to wed in Phils than to wed in US and your future husband can be an Expat. I am planning on that to become an Expat. It is cheaper to live there than in US right now. For an American (Canadian or European) living in Phils is far cheaper. Cheaper healthcare, cheaper housing, cheaper food, etc. in the Phils. And he still can take care of you. Especially you have children or family you want to stay with. Homesickness is common for Filipinas in the US. Men tend to be bit stronger.

Hey, because your future husbands are Christians, it would be great he come and work in the field for Jesus Christ as missionary, pastors, church workers, etc helping the poor there. Such as those in Angeles City red light district. Witness them to Christ with your husbands!

Your treasures are worth more and permanently in Heaven than on earth. I could write a book on this to help ladies of the East. God bless!
 
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jer2911

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#47
I want in a man: I loved a man:

I wanted him to want God, I loved him to love God
I wanted him to want me, I loved him to love me
I wanted him to want himself, I loved him to love himself.
... and the rest will follow.
 
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Aya2011

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#48
Can I make it four? OK just 3. LOL.

1. A servant of God (plus pogi points kung Pastor sya)
2. Boy next door ang dating but not too cute. (Hnd maxadong gwapo. May pagkaGeek pero cutiepie ang dating. Eeeehh!)
3. 5'4" - 5'6" ang height. Not into tall guys.
 
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I want in a man: I loved a man:

I wanted him to want God, I loved him to love God
I wanted him to want me, I loved him to love me
I wanted him to want himself, I loved him to love himself.
... and the rest will follow.
I hope she follows too. A holding of hearts and hands makes the difference to WALK TOGETHER (Amos 3:3)
 
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Can I make it four? OK just 3. LOL.

1. A servant of God (plus pogi points kung Pastor sya)
2. Boy next door ang dating but not too cute. (Hnd maxadong gwapo. May pagkaGeek pero cutiepie ang dating. Eeeehh!)
3. 5'4" - 5'6" ang height. Not into tall guys.
Ha! Ha! :)

I'm too old for a young lady "next door", the other side of the world. :)
 
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#51
I realized I may be being exclusive, para sa mga kalalakihan you may chip in what YOU THINK, filipino women want in a man. :) let's see if pareho!
I also have liked being exclusive. Here, the other side of the world, ladies seemed to be (too) inclusive.

The only reason I see to be inclusive is:

When a couple have their children.
When it is needed to share with the in-laws...

But emotionally i find it disturbing, mostly if I see a lady has too many friends around (when married) and she oftens tends to talk too much about a masculine friend she has as "too special".

Just a tip I have learned first hand. :)
 
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#52
Sa akin so simple lang .... :)
1. God fearing
2. Not selfish
3. He loves you unconditionally.
Just for your record:

Once number 3 is YOUR condition, you yourself are being conditional or over-conditional. Like if we were using a funnel just for us, to receive.
 
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#53
First, strong in the Lord.. spirit-empowered leader
second, family oriented...
and lastly but indeed very important is... FAITHFUL! :D
Hi! When I read THE 1ST LINE I thought: "What if I tell her "Hi! I'm Sanson"? He! He!

Samson wasn't family oriented (somewhat "lusty" instead) and I'm happy he recovered to be faithful till his last breath. He is an interesting character to study in the O.T. :)
 
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#54
Yes! I knew from Paoli... Thanks! I knew it from the internet. , no matter the age, because when I come back again, my spirit will be my mind.


Oo! Salamat! Alam ko ito mula sa internet. , Hindi mahalaga ang edad, dahil kapag dumating ako pabalik muli, ang aking kaluluwa ay magiging aking isip.
 
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hehehehehe.. yeah i know.. I would be hypocrite if I won't say I also wanted a good looking guy but what I realize is that, the heart towards God is what really matters. God told David that he was a man after his own heart not because David was good looking which he was as described in the bible but because his heart really matters to God, he was a worshiper and a servant of God. Looks fades but a heart that worship and serves God does not.

Ill end this with this verses. Its when Samuel is about to anoint God's replacement for Saul as King..

1 Samuel 16:6-7
When they arrived, Samuel saw Eliab and thought, “Surely the Lord’s anointed stands here before the Lord.”
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
Thanks for your being honest. You gave me an idea I'm going to post later on, and I will post on here, to let people know.

One single thing: We have no bullet-proof-jackets for our hearts. David sinned, even being after God's heart, and I agree with you that THAT IS WHAT MATTERS MOST, but that is not to count on too much. Uriah, the faithful soldier of David, never learned his wife cheated on him (And that gave me some release after being sad, because he underwent that sin, against his knowing it or wanting). Beauty, and also our sinning hearts, are to be watched and cared of.
 
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Raeann

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#56
Here is mine (actually i have many things looking for a guy but these three are very important for me.)

1. A true christian guy who will respect me and treat me like a lady
2. Somebody who will be my overall companion in life (like a bff)
3. Hardworking, responsible and family-oriented guy.
 
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The moment ladies hear their loved ones saying: "¡Sí, mi amor! ... Lo que tú digas". Take that as a warm warning: We are not that submissive as expected.
 
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Oh boy! I am gonna have to get it translated or get my gf to translate them all. However, my girlfriend is.. not like other Filipinas. The others I have met are...sadly that they seem to make excuses like one I met said she has eye problems and can not afford insurance and needed me to pay her 150 dollars.. Something was off. Another tried to force me to join her cult.. Really! And a few others seem so insisting to come to America. I know that song before because when I was in Central America, 2 ladies I have dated.. First one kept her mouth shut but then she broke up with me because I am "too old" for her. We were only like 5 years difference! She was 5 years younger complaining about my hair. That is why. And guess what!? She married an American who HAS white hair like mine! That was merely about 1 year after the break up.

For her, she looked familiar when I saw her back yard. Quickly I recalled it was her in a "mail order bride" catalog I had just a few short years before I met her. And yes, I remembered she was from Central America.. got the connection!

The other was very very pushy wanted to marry me and move to America and I was like whoa.. and because I was there on missions, not to visit her! She did not even show up for the welcome back from the road trip party in San Jose, CR after 7 country tour on the road with 6 other missionaries. Also she was unable to have children and I told her I wanted children. She kept trying to distract me from that with kisses and hugs.

Then she asked me for money to be send down to buy her ticket to come here to NYS (USA) and I said no because of the way she was treating me.

Now, I know how the games work with some women so I apologize and I am only telling the truth.

MY fiance is different. She never spoke of wanting to come here. Never asked me for money, she has her own house in Marikina and she has her 3 dogs and 3 cats.. she love animals and nature. She is very independent woman. Very much so for a Filipina by her standards. Very different. She does want to have children. She also appears very different than many Filipinas because I can see her face is different than many Filipinas.. She is partial Spanish (pure Latina on her mom's side) and her father was Filipino. Her hair is brown instead of black, etc. Never mind the looks but the inside she is different.

She is awesome! Attentive yet independent. Smart and managed money herself. Has degree and educated. She invest in various of investments. She is established. No offense and I understand how hard it is with women in the Philippines with employment, desire to have better life and taken care of. I totally understand that. The 2 women in Costa Rica I dated were wealthier than many poor people yet I am "wealthier" than those two.

Economy runs different.

Yes, I do and I am sure many men are also want females to be nice, sweet, honest, has respect for husband and many follow Christian doctrine that the man is the head of the house, etc. That is what my fiance is doing. Only I make final decision. She propose things and we talk about it and I make final decisions. Only I felt comfortable.

To answer the question, it is different for everyone who is the right person for relationship and marriage. My advice is, please do not act too desperate or you can get turned off. Men sometimes can see desperate in wrong way and then go down different path than they are supposed to. You know what I mean? Do NOT ask for money. There are some scammers in the Phils that are making bad names for the Filipinas. So, please don't ask. But DO talk about how tough life you are going through. If he does not understand how tough life is, then invite him to visit you and you show him how tough life is. If you actually lives in that kind of neighborhood, please do show him and he will realize how hard it is for you to live.

Please DO talk to him about investments and your goals but do not say you want to come to America. It is getting MORE difficult to get in because thanks to many illegals entered the country. And I am sorry to say that Americans are getting fed up with foreigners coming in both as illegal and legal taking jobs away.

Have you ever thought of inviting him to LIVE in Phils or any Asian/South Pacific Rim nations and marry you there instead of in US? I found out its bit easier to wed in Phils than to wed in US and your future husband can be an Expat. I am planning on that to become an Expat. It is cheaper to live there than in US right now. For an American (Canadian or European) living in Phils is far cheaper. Cheaper healthcare, cheaper housing, cheaper food, etc. in the Phils. And he still can take care of you. Especially you have children or family you want to stay with. Homesickness is common for Filipinas in the US. Men tend to be bit stronger.

Hey, because your future husbands are Christians, it would be great he come and work in the field for Jesus Christ as missionary, pastors, church workers, etc helping the poor there. Such as those in Angeles City red light district. Witness them to Christ with your husbands!

Your treasures are worth more and permanently in Heaven than on earth. I could write a book on this to help ladies of the East. God bless!
I understand you are praiseing what´s good to praise and, at the same time, I wondered how much of this serves to crack you down or another man....

As I have seen here, 1st hand, many latina ladies are looking after a wealthy man, rather than physically healthy (which is a concern for SCAMMERS and ladies, several countries) who also considered what would they gain getting into a relationship.

I have felt, with dislike, that many American have seen Asian ladies as scammers. I´m also aware there are scammers and organ traffickers all over this sinng world (I could be one of them). And, when telling this truth someone would feel scared, but this is the same world we´ve lived from the beginng, except we cannot look at our faces neither our hidden hearts.

I have heard of several sad stories I will not tell... I like those that never end.
 
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UpstateNYChristianBro

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I hope this serves to help us shape ideas: How To Find Your Soulmate In 3 Easy Steps | Caitlin Muir

Talagang gusto mo rin pumunta. Ay mas mainam Ang ilang mga bagay, kung subukan mong maging mas mahusay. Pagbati!

(Just using and App)
That book sounds ok but.. one of the steps does bother me. Not going into that. This is how and why my previous marriage failed because of the first step saying not to have such requirements. I had to give that all up just to get married to someone and she was totally opposite of whom I was seeking for and I am divorced now. It was my mistake. Not happy with that.