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As for the last three, it depends on someone's motivation on whether or not I want to be flirted with. I'm pretty bad at being able to tell if someone's flirting with me, though. It hasn't happened enough and I really only can tell if it's super obvious. I don't know if I know how to flirt. I think so? That's probably a sign that I don't. Ha.
To address this, I recently read a quote that was something like "What kind of sad world do we live in when politeness is regarded as being flirted with?" Sometimes people can misread things, but what's sad is that our world can sometimes be so cut-throat and uncaring that when someone DOES care, we think it means something more.
I feel like I just wrote a book with this post, it seems long. And it's funny that I wrote such a long post on something I don't know much about.
To address this, I recently read a quote that was something like "What kind of sad world do we live in when politeness is regarded as being flirted with?" Sometimes people can misread things, but what's sad is that our world can sometimes be so cut-throat and uncaring that when someone DOES care, we think it means something more.
I feel like I just wrote a book with this post, it seems long. And it's funny that I wrote such a long post on something I don't know much about.
I've been told people flirt with me or that I've been flirting but it never really entered my mind as flirting because I thought you had to be attracted to a person to do that. I always just thought it was being friendly and caring about the other person.
I asked my husband about it and he told me that sometimes people misread friendliness for more. However, I don't think we should stop being nice to other people just because someone might misunderstand or that other people might misread it as flirting.
I don't know reading all these thread has started making me paranoid about having guy friends at all.
When I was younger I thought boys had cooties and it took me years to get over that idea and even begin to think about dating.
Now that I'm married I either think of them as older or younger brothers or uncles or nephews of some sort and I definitely wouldn't flirt with family, though I would through an egg at them.........so what would that be called?
aggravating them? lol
mmmmm.....
I always thought flirting was like being romantic: holding hands, leaving flowers where the other person could find them. surprising them with a picnic lunch, massages, watching shooting stars under an open night sky, all those unspoken things that say "I love you" without uttering a sound.
I guess when you listen to someone without being distracted, without looking around the room for someone 'better" to talk to and truly focus on what that other person is saying. You are telling them that they matter, that you care. My pastor told us Jesus had that ability to make whoever He was talking to know that they were special and worth listening to. He loved them and truly saw them as they were: faults and all and still loved them enough to heal them. I guess sometimes when you try to show that kind of love to others, that agape love, people sometimes mistaken it for the romantic/carnal love between a man and a woman?
I don't know I'm some what bothered by the thought............hmmm...sorry, I'm rambling.
