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Jullianna

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So, here's the thing.....eventually I would like to remarry, but I don't like to date. Not a fan of the dating process. I don't like sitting down to dinner with someone I don't know well or answering a bunch of questions from some sort of mental checklist. Makes me feel like I'm in a pageant and need to give some sort of stock beauty queen answers....ugh. This is why I normally only date people I already know. :)

Does that even make sense to anyone?
 
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Catlynn

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Jullianna said:
So, here's the thing.....eventually I would like to remarry, but I don't like to date. Not a fan of the dating process. I don't like sitting down to dinner with someone I don't know well or answering a bunch of questions from some sort of mental checklist. Makes me feel like I'm in a pageant and need to give some sort of stock beauty queen answers....ugh. This is why I normally only date people I already know. :)

Does that even make sense to anyone?
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Toooootally. I think, now that you say it, that might be why I don't date either. :/ It's just a really awkward, uncomfortable situation. I'd much prefer just hanging out with friends or something.
 
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It makes absolute perfect sense to me. =)


I'm with you 100%.


If a date feels like a Job Interview, there is something really wrong.


But to tie it into the other thread, its hard to "Get to know someone" with Marriage in mind. And I feel like that is what a lot of our culture (Christian Culture) expects us to do.



Also if you weren't friends before being romantically involved, how do you expect to be friends after, or eve when you are married and all the love chemicals are worn off.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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Makes complete sense.
 
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If I have any "first date" types of questions for a girl...
I'm going to ask them all, in some unassuming way, LONG before I ever ask a girl out.

I don't like going out with anyone I don't already know.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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To quote Danny Glover from the Lethal Weapon films,but w/out the curse word.... lol "I'm gettin' too old for this S***!" lol
 
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piper27

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eeek!! that sounds so frightening!! I cannot eat without a bit ....well you know, landing on the shirt!! Dating sounds horrible; its been a looooong time!! I was on a ferry today -- hiked in to a whale- rubbing beach, and I actually thought ' wouldn't it be nice to just meet someone here? already has the same interests etc. Someone that 'gets' you without the interview...'
Interesting that you brought this up today.
I like it. !!
PS: I'd like to marry again someday too. Its scary being in a position I never thought I'd be in.
So, as a caveat, 'I don't want to be divorced',....it sounds a little desperate, and I am not. :)
 
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zaoman32

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I've never been one for just random dating just for whatever reason. I don't plan on marrying someone I don't consider my best friend.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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zaoman32 said:
I've never been one for just random dating just for whatever reason. I don't plan on marrying someone I don't consider my best friend.
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...and a hush fell across the CC forums,as every woman's heart just went pitter patter & let out a dreamy sigh.
 
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In my life, I have loved only two women. Both of them were very dear friends to me before we moved our relationship to the romantic level.

On the other hand, my roommate and close friend just married someone he dated for two years in March...and they met on eHarmony. And they really are a perfect match. Had never met each other prior to dating via eHarmony, probably would have never met otherwise. To each, their own. *shrug*
 
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iTOREtheSKY said:
...and a hush fell across the CC forums,as every woman's heart just went pitter patter & let out a dreamy sigh.
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....but confusion overtook the hush as every woman's heart realized that it was Zao that made the comment, and not Tintin...
What to do? What to do?
 
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Powemm

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I totally get you on this ... there's a guy who has asked me out a few times .. I don't even know you I'm thinking ..
I was slightly blunt and I wasn't trying to sound ugly but I said "well isn't that interesting , what is this super flavor flave of the month pick for you? I mean it came out before I realized what I even said .. I'm not into dating .. I'm no good at it and sorry , but I don't share either ..I mean seriously? to see if we mesh?..how about you find out who I am before you try and put me in your pocket of dum dum sucker bunch ... I don't know what came over me.. It just hacked me off...
The whole let me see what kind of glove you are and if I really want to buy and invest in you makes me sick and I'm not the nicest chick about it ... I don't blame god if he keeps me single forever .. I really don't ... Sigh ..
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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Powemm said:
I totally get you on this ... there's a guy who has asked me out a few times .. I don't even know you I'm thinking ..
I was slightly blunt and I wasn't trying to sound ugly but I said "well isn't that interesting , what is this super flavor flave of the month pick for you? I mean it came out before I realized what I even said .. I'm not into dating .. I'm no good at it and sorry , but I don't share either ..I mean seriously? to see if we mesh?..how about you find out who I am before you try and put me in your pocket of dum dum sucker bunch ... I don't know what came over me.. It just hacked me off...
The whole let me see what kind of glove you are and if I really want to buy and invest in you makes me sick and I'm not the nicest chick about it ... I don't blame god if he keeps me single forever .. I really don't ... Sigh ..
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Don't sigh...I told you..God's got yer' man all set for you..stop whining. LOL BTW..I like yer' story with the steak knife best!
 
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Jullianna said:
So, here's the thing.....eventually I would like to remarry, but I don't like to date. Not a fan of the dating process. I don't like sitting down to dinner with someone I don't know well or answering a bunch of questions from some sort of mental checklist. Makes me feel like I'm in a pageant and need to give some sort of stock beauty queen answers....ugh. This is why I normally only date people I already know. :)

Does that even make sense to anyone?
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Yes, which is why i don't believe in random dating. Its a horrible feeling and why subject myself to it? I'll stick with my old way of doing things. Go slow, take time to get to know them as a friend and avoid the awkward 'dating' process, for both of us. That way, when (if) we start dating, we already are comfortable and close and can bypass the awkward stages and go straight to the good stuff, hahaha.
 
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Ugly

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zaoman32 said:
I've never been one for just random dating just for whatever reason. I don't plan on marrying someone I don't consider my best friend.
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Hey! You stole my line! Identity thief! He's not the REAL Ugly, he's an imposter! Quick, where's Jullianna to bust this imposter?
 
zeroturbulence

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Jullianna said:
So, here's the thing.....eventually I would like to remarry, but I don't like to date. Not a fan of the dating process. I don't like sitting down to dinner with someone I don't know well or answering a bunch of questions from some sort of mental checklist. Makes me feel like I'm in a pageant and need to give some sort of stock beauty queen answers....ugh. This is why I normally only date people I already know. :)

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Yes, it does. Its different for me though because in my case years can go by before I date someone new. Maybe you are just dating too frequently. I'm not saying to wait years, but maybe whatever time off you are taking now is not long enough. Anyway, there are many people out there that can't even get a date so maybe it might be better to just be thankful for having dated at all. God bless.
 
DuchessAimee

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I've never randomly dated someone. We've always been friends first, but I'm not opposed to going out with someone I don't really know. It depends on the person, situation, and the holy spirit's leading.
 
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Jullianna

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zeroturbulence said:
Yes, it does. Its different for me though because in my case years can go by before I date someone new. Maybe you are just dating too frequently. I'm not saying to wait years, but maybe whatever time off you are taking now is not long enough. Anyway, there are many people out there that can't even get a date so maybe it might be better to just be thankful for having dated at all. God bless.
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I did date a lot for awhile, but it was always the same so I stopped a couple of years ago. So empty and predictable. Dinner with list of stuff he wants to say to impress me while he waits for me to say something to impress him.

LOVE your signature, Gabe :)
 
zeroturbulence

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Jullianna said:
I did date a lot for awhile, but it was always the same so I stopped a couple of years ago. So empty and predictable. Dinner with list of stuff he wants to say to impress me while he waits for me to say something to impress him.

LOVE your signature, Gabe :)
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Thank you :) I think it definitely applies to you.
 
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