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(Seoulsearch, you are so going down. I don't have a day job, so I can start threads all day long!)
Growing up, there were two tables at family events - the kids' table and the adults' table. So all of my cousins and I could eat and talk about kid things, without annoying our parents too much. And then of course, you assume that when you grow up, you'll move to the adults table.
For some of my single friends, they got to move to the adults table once the other siblings or cousins started having families. In my family (although there's not really tables anymore - usually just paper plates and gathering in the living room at family functions), my cousins are almost all married and have kids. My aunt has started to lump my sister and I into the same category as THEIR kids. She'll say stuff like "ok, girls, get in the picture, I want a picture of all the grandkids!" So it's me, my sister who's two years older, and a bunch of toddlers and babies.
How about you? As a single adult, where do you fall in your family's hierarchy? Are you still at the proverbial kids table until you get married? Have you moved up by default since others have gotten married? Or is your family as... ahem.. unique.. as mine?
(By the way, I'm older than my aunt's youngest son, who is also not married, but he's not considered a 'grandkid'. Of course, this is the same woman who's been telling my mom for years that she's not really part of the family because she married into it...)
Growing up, there were two tables at family events - the kids' table and the adults' table. So all of my cousins and I could eat and talk about kid things, without annoying our parents too much. And then of course, you assume that when you grow up, you'll move to the adults table.
For some of my single friends, they got to move to the adults table once the other siblings or cousins started having families. In my family (although there's not really tables anymore - usually just paper plates and gathering in the living room at family functions), my cousins are almost all married and have kids. My aunt has started to lump my sister and I into the same category as THEIR kids. She'll say stuff like "ok, girls, get in the picture, I want a picture of all the grandkids!" So it's me, my sister who's two years older, and a bunch of toddlers and babies.
How about you? As a single adult, where do you fall in your family's hierarchy? Are you still at the proverbial kids table until you get married? Have you moved up by default since others have gotten married? Or is your family as... ahem.. unique.. as mine?
(By the way, I'm older than my aunt's youngest son, who is also not married, but he's not considered a 'grandkid'. Of course, this is the same woman who's been telling my mom for years that she's not really part of the family because she married into it...)