You are an annoying hot mess!

[CatHerder]

OK - admittedly not the most positive sounding thread title

Do you have an ultra high-pitched giggle? - - - scratch yourself in public? - - - wear blue glittery eye shadow? (most women do not like their men doing this, I have learned) - - - habitually late? - - - cuss? - - - give unsolicited advice? - - - dress like a slob? - - - say "like" after every other word?

If you are so inclined, this thread is for you to share your annoying quality - that little or big character flaw or bothersome quirk that a significant other may find endearing while dating, but excruciatingly annoying after 20+ years.

1. What quality do you have that could potentially drive your friends or a special someone crazy over a long period of time?

2. Is this something you feel you need to work on, or is it something that other people simply need to accept about you?

3. Do you think this has created a barrier in regards to cultivating relationships?

4. Has God convicted you of this? Are you seeking to make improvements in this area? Would you like prayer support in this area?

 

[CatHerder]

1. What quality do you have that could potentially drive your friends or a special someone crazy over a long period of time?
I'm not always the best listener with my kids. I am with stuff I see as important, but I honestly do not care about "Adventure Time" cartoons.

2. Is this something you feel you need to work on, or is it something that other people simply need to accept about you?
I understand that it can be frustrating. I do not like it when I am talking to someone who has their attention divided.

3. Do you think this has created a barrier in regards to cultivating relationships?
Sometimes when I am driving and have to merge in heavy traffic, I tell my kids I can't really listen to them right now. They understand. If I give my kids a task while cooking, their attention is divided too, so this slows the conversation down to a speed where I can multitask without them feeling neglected, and making dinner together is always a plus.

4. Has God convicted you of this? Are you seeking to make improvements in this area? Would you like prayer support in this area?
I've been told I am a good listener, so I feel convicted when I do not display this to those who are most important to me..

 

[JimJimmers]

I'm so handsome as to be unapproachable. That is my biggest problem. My ex said it was pride, but what does she know?

 

[Jullianna]

Some things that tend to annoy people about me: I don't like to talk much. I am extremely driven. I don't like phones. I am a serious neat freak. I don't know if I want to change.

 

[MissCris]

1. I drive my husband insane because I have a TERRIBLE memory for important things that he needs me to do since he's at work all day...and since I'm like, you know, supposed to be responsible too. Bills and pulling weeds and setting things out for dinner and calling people back and...gosh, I forget everything. I've done this my whole life.

2. It's something that I constantly work on, because it's really a pain in the butt and we end up having to do a lot more work sometimes than if I'd just remembered to do whatever it was...
But, it's also something my husband is learning to accept about me. Been married 8 years, and we both know that I will probably never manage to remember ALL of that stuff ALL of the time...mostly, he's just happy if I can at least remember before bill collectors start calling and I'm like "Ohhhh no, yeh...I forgot about that bill...a lot."

3. It used to be something we fought about all the time, so that was definitely a major barrier in our relationship. We're both learning to deal with it in a way that doesn't (usually) involve yelling.

4. I'd say God has convicted me in this, yes. Sooo many times. I'm always trying to do better with it, and I can go along for a while doing great, and then...my brain gets derailed. Doesn't really take all that much...
Sure, if people have a minute and happen to remember I said all this, I wouldn't mind some prayers

 

[BananaPie]

Do you have an ultra high-pitched giggle? Nope.
scratch yourself in public? Nope.
wear blue glittery eye shadow? Nope.
habitually late? Nope.
- - - cuss? Not.
give unsolicited advice? Nope.
dress like a slob? Nope.
say "like" after every other word? Like Bingo!

LOL.

 

[lil_christian]

1. I drive my husband insane because I have a TERRIBLE memory for important things that he needs me to do since he's at work all day...and since I'm like, you know, supposed to be responsible too. Bills and pulling weeds and setting things out for dinner and calling people back and...gosh, I forget everything. I've done this my whole life.

[snip]
Sure, if people have a minute and happen to remember I said all this, I wouldn't mind some prayers

I SO RELATE, MissCris. My mom will tell me "This is important!! *gives job to do*" and I'm like, "Okay! I won't forget!" and then 3 minutes later, "What was it that I'm not supposed to forget?? " but I can remember certain things from 3-5 years ago.

It's almost like as soon as it becomes priority, my brain decides it's not important enough for me to remember it. So it gets tossed in a little bin to be forgotten. At least until you're yelled at about not doing the thing you JUST now remember since they brought it up. >.<

Another thing: At times, when I'm offline, I like to talk TOO much. I end up interrupting people at times. I hate it. I really do. I'm working on it. I really am. But sometimes it's almost like a thing in my brain says "SPIT IT OUT NOW!" and then I do. Then I end up looking like a jerk. Which I'm REALLY not...I can be really nice and polite. I am nice and polite. I say my pleases and thank yous and nice to meet yous and mean it. But you don't know that if you don't know me or if you're not a part of my family.

I've been convicted about it and as I said, I am working on it. I'll be quick to listen, slow to speak (if I can remember how I was going to reply), and slow to anger. Heck I might sticky note that on my mirror, slow to speak bolded and underlined 5 times. haha

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

I have ADD... bad, i've been taking medicine for it since i was in middle school. With that being said. I'm very messy, and i never put anything back in it's original place because i can never remember where it's original place was to begin with. I have a hard time focusing, i'm very antsy. I start on one thing then start to think about all the other things i should do so i have like 5 things left half done because i can't stay on task to complete them. I'd rather eat and watch t.v. than talk.

With the exception of that last one i can't really help these things. I have learned a few tricks over the years to help me remember certain things. All the things i mentioned really really annoy me so i know there bound to annoy the other person.

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

1. What quality do you have that could potentially drive your friends or a special someone crazy over a long period of time?My sarcasm and joking around too much.

2. Is this something you feel you need to work on, or is it something that other people simply need to accept about you?
I feel I need a balance. I need to not be so cutting in my speech at times or make demented jokes about everything. It's strange because there are times I am very serious,and then people think I'm angry because I am not joking & laughing about everything. I ask God to balance me out or bring people in my life to help smooth out my rough edges. I also feel like people will just have to accept me. That I'm a work in progress & if that's not ok,then I guess they don't have to be around me.

3. Do you think this has created a barrier in regards to cultivating relationships?
Almost certainly it has. I love to have a good laugh,be demented...but I've also used these things as a wall to protect myself,and I know that's not God's desire for me.

4. Has God convicted you of this? Are you seeking to make improvements in this area? Would you like prayer support in this area?
Yes,God has many times. I do try to catch myself when I feel it's getting too much. Thankfully I also have someone in my life now that I think will show me when I'm getting out of hand. I've given her that permission as my friend,and I feel safe & trusting enough with her to know that what she says to me is out of love & not judgement. I would never turn down prayer if that's what the Lord puts on your heart to do for me. If so,then I will thank you in advance.

 

[zeroturbulence]

1. I fall in love too easily

2. no

3. what relationship!

4. are you calling God a convict?!

5.

 

[Donkeyfish07]

I like to spend at least 50% of my time by myself. People take that as a personal slight when I decline invitations to do stuff.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I have ADD... bad, i've been taking medicine for it since i was in middle school. With that being said. I'm very messy, and i never put anything back in it's original place because i can never remember where it's original place was to begin with. I have a hard time focusing, i'm very antsy. I start on one thing then start to think about all the other things i should do so i have like 5 things left half done because i can't stay on task to complete them. I'd rather eat and watch t.v. than talk.

With the exception of that last one i can't really help these things. I have learned a few tricks over the years to help me remember certain things. All the things i mentioned really really annoy me so i know there bound to annoy the other person.

I wouldn't mind any of that, Nod. To me those are a plus, not a minus! (except maybe for the messy part, but that's what maids are for! )

 

[jerusalem]

i think i may be unique to the point of ridiculous in most people's eyes. i'm using the word unique by way of being kind to myself and not wanting to convey a sense of self pity. i don't feel sorry for myself i am simply aware that i'm annoyingly strange to a lot of people. i have looked into this and have discovered that my differences are valid traits but i am in the minority in most areas of my life. my personality profile for example puts me at less than 1 percent of the population

 

[ijustwanttheTruth]

i'm a hot mess???? tell me tell me something i don't know.
ohhhh mah goodness. where do i begin.

i checklist. i'm a bit obsessive compulsive. before i go anywhere out of the house, i have to recite in my head everything that i have in my hands to make sure that is all i need for the outing. in addition to this. i need to survey my living quarters. (be it bedroom, kitchen, or the whole house depending on how frequently i use the room)

i look at every surface to make sure there's nothing out of it's normal place.
i scan.
and if- God forbid- anyone INTERRUPTS my checklist process. it can go from the 2-4 minute process it originally was, to a strange constipated 15 minute stress meltdown of me not remembering where i was in my checklist- having to start over, but feeling the time crunch and the rush of trying to do it fast, and thus...i cannot complete it rightfully.

i do checklists when i leave my car. when i leave my house. when i leave my workplace.
my ex boyfriend STILL teases me about the time he interrupted my checklist and i took 20 minutes to make sure that the frozen vegetables were in the freezer where they belonged.

i do not feel convicted about how messed up i am.
but any place in my life i am able to improve upon, i will try.

this is only one of my many issues. i mention it bc it is likely one of the most comical/ disturbing.

i'm not a normal person. i have never ever claimed to be a normal person. i know that whoever chooses me, will have their hands full.
but they will know every ounce of that handful right up front before they choose me. i am an open book. i keep no secrets.
love me as i am or don't love me at all.

 

[dyingeveryday]

Extremely organized in an ocd way. I talk a lot. I burst into song at random. I have a catalog of useless musical knowledge in my head and if you say something I will reference some song that goes with what is happening and just start singing. I think way to much and I talk while I'm thinking. I look at every angle and drive people nuts. If you say something to me, unless joking, I will want to know what you mean. So if you say something it needs to mean something or I will analyze it to death. But I can turn these things off. Like I said, If I'm hanging out chill'n I don't worry about things so much. All of these things can be good and can be bad. I have been convicted on the over thinking. When walking with God, worldly knowledge does you know good really. Rationalizing things will not do any good because God works in ways that defy logic. I need to be obedient. My relationship is great though because we balance out well. She bursts into song often we start to sing the same song. The only thing she doesn't like to do is think on things as much as I do. So that gets annoying. I'm learning to just keep it in my head. This was an 8 part question right? I don't follow rules very well. I can but I don't like to. So this is what you get.

 

[ijustwanttheTruth]

sometimes? when people refuse to cooperate with me? ie: i ask them to explain what they meant by something (remembrance brought to you by dyingeveryday)
and they won't do it? i throw mini tantrums and behave in passive aggressive and controlling methods until they comply with my voiced desires as to what i believe are my 'rights' whenever i feel my rights are being violated, i will stop at no end to right the right...so to speak.
i can be as stubborn as an ox. it doesn't really benefit me in the longrun but it makes people more careful around me about what they say or are not willing to say. if people like to play games or keep secrets or be cryptic? ie: say something and then not explain it to me...

the friendship will die within 24 hours. i don't do secrets. i am completely open and i expect people to be the same way with me.

 

[Fenner]

I tend to be so awesome it makes others jealous.

I hear from my husband that I worry to much, but then I hear from others that I'm very laid back. So I'd say my split personality drives people crazy.

 

[CatHerder]

I snore.

loudly.

I feel well-rested when I get up, so I think I am getting quality sleep. I don't think it's as bad as it was fifteen pounds ago. Being single, I don't know if it matters that much.

 

[blueorchidjd]

1. What quality do you have that could potentially drive your friends or a special someone crazy over a long period of time?
I am very messy and clumsy lol.

2. Is this something you feel you need to work on, or is it something that other people simply need to accept about you?
I am currently working on it, but I still will most likely spill coffee on myself, the carpet, or in the car.
3. Do you think this has created a barrier in regards to cultivating relationships?
Not really lol.
4. Has God convicted you of this? Are you seeking to make improvements in this area? Would you like prayer support in this area
Sorta. Yes, Shore.

 

[yac11]

I have been told I am too literal. I don't think this should be annoying.

I love to discuss things to death. Doesn't everyone.

I love to talk and talk, but about important issues. Not the weather or what we are going to eat!!!!

But God as shown me that I need to be still, and realize that we are all very different so I am showing more respect.

But really, why can't everyone I know be just like me.