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Bridget_Left_China

Bridget_Left_China

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Do you ever feel...that single people at church are sometimes treated like they are outcasts?

I am pretty sure I am the only single person at my church.. I used to hang out with a few younger couples that would all go to lunch together, but now they sorta keep away from me. (It's NOT because I stink. I make sure to put on a fresh coat of deodorant and everything! ;) ) It's extremely lonely on Sunday mornings. :(
 
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I don't only feel that way from just being single. I am new to the city and church that I am going to. I have been received with so much love and care, but it is like I don't get asked out to do anything with those who are going out to eat or anything. I just got a job that will prevent me from doing some events with the members and that is a real drag. I am praying about this. There was another job opportunity, but this was one I couldn't turn down and on my fourth day I was promoted.
I can understand where you are coming from. Just know that God is there for you and He will place those single folks in your life to communicate and enjoy time with. You might have to find some Christian Singles outside of your Church.
 
TigerScent777

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Bridget_Left_China said:
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Do you ever feel...that single people at church are sometimes treated like they are outcasts?

I am pretty sure I am the only single person at my church.. I used to hang out with a few younger couples that would all go to lunch together, but now they sorta keep away from me. (It's NOT because I stink. I make sure to put on a fresh coat of deodorant and everything! ;) ) It's extremely lonely on Sunday mornings. :(
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...I noticed something like that; as soon as you get involved with someone and become 'a couple', you seem to get treated differently and invited everywhere --- sometimes, single people might be seen as a potential threat to one of a couple; or a 'diversion' on some level...?? not sure - depends on the person/s...possibly...One church I was going to was nice tho but almost totally full of family and couples, friendly on a church gathering level had a lot of activities which on a group level were good to go to and socialize..., but its odd how that 'single person' thing seems to be an undercurrent still...The odd person who was single might drag you out to interact with them in some way...

(are you using the right brand of deodorant tho?? :) )
 
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secularhermit

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Are you left in China?

I´m left in Venezuela! (Ja! Ja!) :rolleyes:
 
maxwel

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Bridget_Left_China said:
Add in whatever ending you want to this sentence!


Do you ever feel...that single people at church are sometimes treated like they are outcasts?

I am pretty sure I am the only single person at my church.. I used to hang out with a few younger couples that would all go to lunch together, but now they sorta keep away from me. (It's NOT because I stink. I make sure to put on a fresh coat of deodorant and everything! ;) ) It's extremely lonely on Sunday mornings. :(
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Since we're friends -
if I had the time,
I would fly to wherever you are,
come to your church on Sunday morning,
and...
err...
sit really far away and stare at you, like everyone else.

Sorry... but apparently you're some kind of pariah.

: )
 
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Bridget_Left_China said:
Do you ever feel...that single people at church are sometimes treated like they are outcasts?
It's extremely lonely on Sunday mornings. :(
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Hey Red, I feel you. I don't feel like the only single person in my congregation...I *am* the only single person in my congregation. But I am no means an outcast, and I think part of that has to do with my age. I am also the only person between the age of 19 and 40. I'm kind of a novelty at my church: "Single, in your 30s, no kids?! They still make that model?"

The parents live vicariously through me, and the teens look to me as a survivor of young adulthood. It's kind of neat. God brought me to a church where I am very loved, and treated like family. He also brought me to a place with ZERO prospective mates. I honestly believe that is because He wants me focused on Him. It IS His house, after all.

Do you ever feel like no one understands the monotony of single life? Work, gym, sleep. Work, church, sleep. Wash, rinse, repeat. When I was attached, every day seemed different, even after five years. Now every day blurs into he next..."Do I go to church today? Did I go yesterday?"
 
rachelsedge

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If we're going with the Single theme...

Do you ever feel like people assume that if you are single, you MUST be looking for someone, righthere and rightnow?

Someone who goes to my church for Celebrate Recovery came through where I work the other week. I have never met her husband before; he does not come to CR. He was with her this time. After I had chatted with her for a bit, he asks, "Do you go on blind dates?" She shooed him away and said "Don't listen to him", but I was pretty taken aback and that someone I had never met instantly had someone they had in mind, I guess.

I appreciate their sentiment. My grandma and other members of my family do it, my friends do it, lots of people. It just gets a tad tiresome sometimes. :)
 
TigerScent777

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...it has to be the brand of deodorant U R using ...
 
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Bridget_Left_China said:
Add in whatever ending you want to this sentence!


Do you ever feel...that single people at church are sometimes treated like they are outcasts?

I am pretty sure I am the only single person at my church.. I used to hang out with a few younger couples that would all go to lunch together, but now they sorta keep away from me. (It's NOT because I stink. I make sure to put on a fresh coat of deodorant and everything! ;) ) It's extremely lonely on Sunday mornings. :(
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Most churches I attend have lotsa older, retired folks.
They like to make sure I'm well fed.
So I can't relate. :p
 
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Do you ever feel... That the concept of Christian dominionism/Christian reconstructionism/post-millenniumism is awesome, but if you were to adopt it as a biblical belief you'd really have to button down your walk with God so you would indeed be a influencer and changer of culture for the long term?
 
zeroturbulence

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Bridget_Left_China said:
Add in whatever ending you want to this sentence!


Do you ever feel...that single people at church are sometimes treated like they are outcasts?

I am pretty sure I am the only single person at my church.. I used to hang out with a few younger couples that would all go to lunch together, but now they sorta keep away from me. (It's NOT because I stink. I make sure to put on a fresh coat of deodorant and everything! ;) ) It's extremely lonely on Sunday mornings. :(
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Maybe they realized that their guys might find you a little too attractive, Bridget. ;D
 
Mo0448

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Do you ever feel that...people misunderstand your decision to live a more Christ-like life with being self-righteous or a snob?
 
jeremy1981

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As a single guy, I often feel like an outcast yeah. I genuinely believe that the stigma around singleness is a product of a victorian mentality; where to be godly mean't have a family. And yet, as we know, the bible encourages it in some cases.

I don't know the answer..., though I have decided to try and change my circumstances.
 
seoulsearch

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Bridget_Left_China said:
Add in whatever ending you want to this sentence!


Do you ever feel...that single people at church are sometimes treated like they are outcasts?

I am pretty sure I am the only single person at my church.. I used to hang out with a few younger couples that would all go to lunch together, but now they sorta keep away from me. (It's NOT because I stink. I make sure to put on a fresh coat of deodorant and everything! ;) ) It's extremely lonely on Sunday mornings. :(
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Aw, Bridget :(. I know how you feel, I always sit by myself as well. I'll go to the "Coffee and Donut Fellowship Hour" and no one sits at my table! Guess they know a troublemaker when they see one... heh. :)

If I were by your neck of the woods, I would definitely sit by you, Bridget. We could share Bibles, crayons, favorite Scripture bookmarks, get matching WWJSB (Who Would Jesus Sit By) wristbands, and swap from our collection of favorite Christian Slogan Pencil Toppers.

Why, I'd even let you share your deodorant with me.

Err... Wait a minute... None of this is coming out right. I think my well-wishes are taking a wrong turn here... (And much faster than I intended!) :)

"Do You Ever Feel... Like Someone At Church Is Stalking You?" (Instead of "The Roommate", this would be the Christian version... "The Pew Mate.")
 
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DuchessAimee

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Bridgey, I understand where you're coming from. My church is mostly married couples or older couples with teenagers. It's really annoying. There isn't even a small group or bible study for people who aren't old or married. I could drive over to SJ and go to church with you. Oh! Then we could go to the same restaurant as the "cool" young marrieds and stare at them. It will be awesome!



Floor Lamps!
 
dliz

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Bridget_Left_China said:
Add in whatever ending you want to this sentence!


Do you ever feel...that single people at church are sometimes treated like they are outcasts?

I am pretty sure I am the only single person at my church.. I used to hang out with a few younger couples that would all go to lunch together, but now they sorta keep away from me. (It's NOT because I stink. I make sure to put on a fresh coat of deodorant and everything! ;) ) It's extremely lonely on Sunday mornings. :(
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I'm feeling you, Bridget. It's not being single saddens me but going to church all alone. I don't feel such an outcast in my new church anymore because my cousin started going to church with me now and some of members started befriending me... I really want to join the prayer meeting and Bible study but my works prevent me to attend so. :( My only problem is that they only have one service so I have to go another church and sit down all alone in the bench and feeling like an alien.
 
acesneverwin

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Yes... It's always older people or families. They need family church in the morning for the old folks and families... and then a late night service, like 8, 9 or 10pm for singles, hookers and bums off the street...
 
shawntc

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Do you ever feel that no matter who you are around, ultimately too different to really relate? I often do.

Do you ever feel that although you may be greatly talented, you are still no use to your church - or anyone around you? I often do too.
 
TigerScent777

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1still_waters said:
Do you ever feel... That the concept of Christian dominionism/Christian reconstructionism/post-millenniumism is awesome, but if you were to adopt it as a biblical belief you'd really have to button down your walk with God so you would indeed be a influencer and changer of culture for the long term?
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I cannot see the idea of 'post-millenialism' lining up with scripture personally...
 
maxwel

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Do you ever feel that -

If you were in a relationship you wouldn't have any time to...
come to CC and chat with all of the crazy single people????

:)
 
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