B
So I find myself in a very difficult situation with no one I can turn to for help! I am hoping some of you can give me some advice and encouragement on the matter. You see I go to a church that is very multicultural and I love it! Recently one of the boys from India has taken interest in me. A very long story short we went on two dates so far and chat every day. But I was starting to wonder if he liked me or just thought of me as a friend as the initial flirting had sorta died away. I asked God to give me the opportunity to tell him how I feel and he did. At first the guy didn't tell me how he felt back and he was going to leave it at that, but he felt bad cause he knew he had hurt me (this was all through text by the way).
When he told me the truth everything started to make sense, but you will now see my problem! Truth is he really likes me too but he is afraid. There are two other Indian guys at my church that he is close friends with and a married couple with two young children that are like his second family. He told me that one of these friends and the wife from this couple would not approve. I asked if it was because I am not indian and he said yes, but mostly because they believe church is for coming to worship God (which yes it very much is) and not somewhere where you develop feelings for someone.
This I disagree with, how else would you find someone who loves the Lord as much as you? Not saying church should be viewed as a christian dating organization lol, just saying that if two people fell for each other through church that should be a blessing!
So basically I have made a promise that I will tell no one. I have to just say that we are really good friends, and we are just that we both have feelings for each other. He is a wonderful guy, and I really don't want to lose him, but I don't know what I should do. What are the chances that those two would change their mind? I should mention that I am also friends with these two people and they have known me longer then he has. It's really hard knowing I can't tell anyone, even my roomate who knows the whole story up until now. I guess what I am asking is for, other then encouragement, is advice on wether or not to move on. I feel like if we are such good friends but like each other things are bound to progress wether he wants them to or not.
Also the morning before I found all this out I went to my roomates church. I met a guy there who seemed interested in me. He is going home for a few weeks so I have some time to sort things out. I don't know if I should pursue him or if I should stick it out for the other guy. Like I said I really care about the Indian guy and I have only just met this other one. What do I do guys???
When he told me the truth everything started to make sense, but you will now see my problem! Truth is he really likes me too but he is afraid. There are two other Indian guys at my church that he is close friends with and a married couple with two young children that are like his second family. He told me that one of these friends and the wife from this couple would not approve. I asked if it was because I am not indian and he said yes, but mostly because they believe church is for coming to worship God (which yes it very much is) and not somewhere where you develop feelings for someone.
This I disagree with, how else would you find someone who loves the Lord as much as you? Not saying church should be viewed as a christian dating organization lol, just saying that if two people fell for each other through church that should be a blessing!
So basically I have made a promise that I will tell no one. I have to just say that we are really good friends, and we are just that we both have feelings for each other. He is a wonderful guy, and I really don't want to lose him, but I don't know what I should do. What are the chances that those two would change their mind? I should mention that I am also friends with these two people and they have known me longer then he has. It's really hard knowing I can't tell anyone, even my roomate who knows the whole story up until now. I guess what I am asking is for, other then encouragement, is advice on wether or not to move on. I feel like if we are such good friends but like each other things are bound to progress wether he wants them to or not.
Also the morning before I found all this out I went to my roomates church. I met a guy there who seemed interested in me. He is going home for a few weeks so I have some time to sort things out. I don't know if I should pursue him or if I should stick it out for the other guy. Like I said I really care about the Indian guy and I have only just met this other one. What do I do guys???