If A Woman Isn't Married By Age 50, Will She Be Alone Forever?
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Its not worth worrying about, things have a way of working out, what will be will be. Focus on what you need to do in life , be positive, and a light to the world. And ask the big man for help in your heartfelt daily prayers. Socialise and be honest and upfront about what you seek in a life long partner. Its easy , there are much harder things in life .
I'm thinking many of these men you mentioned are looking for younger women for children, as you mentioned. They are getting up in years and haven't married for whatever reason, and are wanting to marry a young woman who still wants a family. I'm finding this to be the case. I am close to being finished raising my two kids, and I poured my heart and soul into raising them. The thought of starting over again is frankly just exhausting to think about. I'm sure my thoughts could change if the right guy showed up of course. (For you, too.) But anyway, many men my age or slightly older are still wanting to start families.
Another is that they feel younger women will respect them more, won't challenge them, will be more pliable and submissive. Whether this is the case or not, I don't know. There could be some self-esteem issues there for men that they are trying to compensate for by finding a much younger wife.
Another is that they feel younger women will respect them more, won't challenge them, will be more pliable and submissive. Whether this is the case or not, I don't know. There could be some self-esteem issues there for men that they are trying to compensate for by finding a much younger wife.
My mom got married again nearly two years ago after being married in a tumultuous abusive relationship for 37 years and she has NEVER been happier! She is 63 and he is 67 and its amazing to see them together being so crazy in love, and especially for my mom to have the marriage and love that she never experienced with my other step dad. (My mom was not in a relationship with my biological father and married the father who raised me when she was pregnant with me) They are like two teenagers, really LOL
hi,yes u r making a stereotype and probably will be proven wrong,u just need 2 get your eyes off of the situation and turn then totally and truly 2 the solution,Jesus.He doesnt run out of anything amen.Matt 6:33 says seek Gods Kingdom and its righteousness,all these things will be added unto u.I met my wife im\n India doing misssionary work.I was not looking,she was my interpeter as I preached,now as she is Gods child,he has given her 2 me as a treasure=wife.When married she was 41,I was 45.Just truly get busy 4 God ,he will get busy 4 u.When he brings the right one 4 u,it will leave u in awe of him.But u must be truly ministry minded and so must he.Truly not talking ,but walking a walk before God.Christ centered relationship then only will it work.Be blessed and I will pray 4 u.stop looking 4 a guy look unto God.
Seoulsearch, as far as your comment about men liking younger women MUCH younger, I would not say that ALL men are like that but I have recently talked to one man who is 60 say that the women his age that he has met don't have anything interesting to talk about and they don't take care of themselves. He says that he knows its not really 'right' to seek out company with younger women who are considerably younger but they have life and eagerness to them at least (and he is very young at heart) I am not saying there are not women out there who are older and not attractive and no matter how well we take care of ourselves we are never quite going to be the same as we were when we were 20. He wasn't saying that he wanted a woman with plastic surgery but he does have a point?? And even with my friends and I, we are shocked at how many guys in our age group (at least that we have met in recent years) are just boring (and don't take care of themselves either) and just seem to have 'lived it all' and want to just play it low key and sit at home and read and well, does that make them attractive or fun to hang out with? No! I am not looking to date anyone though, friendship is enough for me right now but I think this is a legitimate issue that cannot be denied by anyone. And no, if you state on your profile that you are not looking for an older man, they should respect that - that's ridiculous!!
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Awesome story, Fenner. Thank you for a glimmer of hope!
I guess all I have to do now is sit and wait. *grins* I can see my autobiography now... "I Found Love... At Shady Pines Retirement Home."
Just kidding!! Loved your story!!
I guess all I have to do now is sit and wait. *grins* I can see my autobiography now... "I Found Love... At Shady Pines Retirement Home."
Just kidding!! Loved your story!!
Ha ha! You're not kidding, actually when I worked at a retirement home there were a couple of love stories there too, the residence. It was nice to see people can find love and companionship at any age.
...well, I'm not really a beilever in the phrase 'doomed/alone forever', and otherwise...relationships happen no matter what age you are...seriously.
Anyway, Idk...I never really thought too much about age, personally, apart from what would be too big a gap. I mean...there is a level of maturity and depth you find in older generations (probably why most of my friends are quite older than I am...among other reasons), but I imagine there are plenty of all kinds out there.
What gets me is that there seem to very few younger men, older women couples...I mean, why is it acceptable one way and not the other? Anyway...
I will say that though I'm still young*ish, I do regret the loss of not know my future lover (should I have one), in her youth. I'll never know her grade school, college, or maybe even young 20s life. A lot of moments, that I, personally, am sad to have lost. All the same, my hope, if one comes along, is that we'll share all our future (and then present) moments together, treasuring the time we have. Anyway, that was kind of a soap box...I think the summary as, I'd date older or younger, no biggie. ^_~
Anyway, Idk...I never really thought too much about age, personally, apart from what would be too big a gap. I mean...there is a level of maturity and depth you find in older generations (probably why most of my friends are quite older than I am...among other reasons), but I imagine there are plenty of all kinds out there.
What gets me is that there seem to very few younger men, older women couples...I mean, why is it acceptable one way and not the other? Anyway...
I will say that though I'm still young*ish, I do regret the loss of not know my future lover (should I have one), in her youth. I'll never know her grade school, college, or maybe even young 20s life. A lot of moments, that I, personally, am sad to have lost. All the same, my hope, if one comes along, is that we'll share all our future (and then present) moments together, treasuring the time we have. Anyway, that was kind of a soap box...I think the summary as, I'd date older or younger, no biggie. ^_~
Sorry for my late reply... life has been extra busy lately.
I really meant for this thread to be a general discussion and not focused on my own datability, or lack there of!
Wise, sometimes being with someone is a different kind of pain. I know the pain of being alone for a long time and also the pain of falling in love with someone, making that promise of forever... and then learning that he fell in love with someone else, left for her, and fulfilled all the promises he had made to someone else instead of you. So, it's kind of a toss-up. I often what's worse, the pain of not having known or the pain of being married to the only love of your life and watching him leave to marry someone else. It's ALL painful, believe me.
Tore--I'm a terrible dancer. But if we were ever in the same proximity, how about grabbing lunch sometime? My treat. I'm sure you'd have me laughing my buns off about something!
I really meant for this thread to be a general discussion and not focused on my own datability, or lack there of!
Wise, sometimes being with someone is a different kind of pain. I know the pain of being alone for a long time and also the pain of falling in love with someone, making that promise of forever... and then learning that he fell in love with someone else, left for her, and fulfilled all the promises he had made to someone else instead of you. So, it's kind of a toss-up. I often what's worse, the pain of not having known or the pain of being married to the only love of your life and watching him leave to marry someone else. It's ALL painful, believe me.
Tore--I'm a terrible dancer
. But if we were ever in the same proximity, how about grabbing lunch sometime? My treat. I'm sure you'd have me laughing my buns off about something! 
The word of God says... Judge not by appearance but judge rightouesly... This applies to many things or as others put it... preferences. This means we should'nt judge by race.. or prefer by race. We shouldn't judge by weight, height... or anything else physical.
In the book of Samuel it says... mankind looks at the appearance but God looks at the heart... repeating the same lesson.
If men and women choose there own way.. go figure that you won't be satisified. You'll just be in ongoing craving...
I think the idea of "preferences" is a very vague idea which can easily allow a worldy viewpoint into things. Preferences are okay among certian things but not everything. Like, can someone say, "I prefer rape and murder". Its that persons preference.... should it be okay? Of course not, hence I'm saying preferences is a vague word that can allow sinful and evil ideas as acceptable. And I think prefering people of a certian race, age, weight is sinful because of the above verses. "Judge not by appearance but Judge rightouesly." If we are not judging rightouesly than I think its sinful.
I'd say judge by maturity instead... by behavior... by the heart.
In the book of Samuel it says... mankind looks at the appearance but God looks at the heart... repeating the same lesson.
If men and women choose there own way.. go figure that you won't be satisified. You'll just be in ongoing craving...
I think the idea of "preferences" is a very vague idea which can easily allow a worldy viewpoint into things. Preferences are okay among certian things but not everything. Like, can someone say, "I prefer rape and murder". Its that persons preference.... should it be okay? Of course not, hence I'm saying preferences is a vague word that can allow sinful and evil ideas as acceptable. And I think prefering people of a certian race, age, weight is sinful because of the above verses. "Judge not by appearance but Judge rightouesly." If we are not judging rightouesly than I think its sinful.
I'd say judge by maturity instead... by behavior... by the heart.
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