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iTOREtheSKY

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I am all for the man asking a woman out..making the 1st move. I am also just as ok if she asked me out,as what pers did tonight with the man she likes.

I have always been of the mindset of "friends first"...even well before I was saved. I never was the type of guy who felt "rejected" if a girl I like only wanted to be "friends". In my mind all that meant was,"I don't think of you in a romantic sense but I do in fact enjoy you,and who you are & still want to spend time with you." So for me,even if I liked said girl in a kiss kiss let's hold hands & do romantic things way,I could never in fact reach that level of intimacy truly with her unless we had that friendship connection prior.

I'm not sure if it was how my Mom raised me,or just how God designed me...but I have never been into the whole rush into a relationship thing,just for the sake of having one. I wasn't overly promiscuous when I certainly had the chances to be that way in my younger years. I looked the part of the typical guy...long hair...drummer...played in bands..went to parties...hung with many unsavory people along the way,kinda always said what was on my mind,so many assumed I was a "certain type" of person. Even as a Christian I kinda got labeled as being non-traditional. But in much of my early Christian yeas it was,He's too "edgy" to be a good Christian man,and yet not "worldy" enough to give in to how they view dating & relationships.

I guess what I'm getting at is that I think two people being friends (male & female) being best friends...getting to know one another is foundational for ME. I don't want to date or marry a woman who is not my friend first...or not still my best friend during our marriage. I'm not judging people who go about it differently than me one bit,so I hope I'm not coming across as such. Everyone needs to do what works best for them. God knows what our hearts desire & as long as we trust him...even in our awkwardness,shyness,or insecurities He's looking out for us,and rooting for us to meet the right person that just "gets us". :)
 
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Shouryu

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Jullianna said:
Does anyone else hear a milkshake calling me?
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I do not. But I do find it ironic that a milkshake should be calling you, since it is, invariably, YOUR milkshake that calls all the boys to the yard.
 
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GreenNnice

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iTOREtheSKY said:
I am all for the man asking a woman out..making the 1st move. I am also just as ok if she asked me out,as what pers did tonight with the man she likes.

I have always been of the mindset of "friends first"...even well before I was saved. I never was the type of guy who felt "rejected" if a girl I like only wanted to be "friends". In my mind all that meant was,"I don't think of you in a romantic sense but I do in fact enjoy you,and who you are & still want to spend time with you." So for me,even if I liked said girl in a kiss kiss let's hold hands & do romantic things way,I could never in fact reach that level of intimacy truly with her unless we had that friendship connection prior.

I'm not sure if it was how my Mom raised me,or just how God designed me...but I have never been into the whole rush into a relationship thing,just for the sake of having one. I wasn't overly promiscuous when I certainly had the chances to be that way in my younger years. I looked the part of the typical guy...long hair...drummer...played in bands..went to parties...hung with many unsavory people along the way,kinda always said what was on my mind,so many assumed I was a "certain type" of person. Even as a Christian I kinda got labeled as being non-traditional. But in much of my early Christian yeas it was,He's too "edgy" to be a good Christian man,and yet not "worldy" enough to give in to how they view dating & relationships.

I guess what I'm getting at is that I think two people being friends (male & female) being best friends...getting to know one another is foundational for ME. I don't want to date or marry a woman who is not my friend first...or not still my best friend during our marriage. I'm not judging people who go about it differently than me one bit,so I hope I'm not coming across as such. Everyone needs to do what works best for them. God knows what our hearts desire & as long as we trust him...even in our awkwardness,shyness,or insecurities He's looking out for us,and rooting for us to meet the right person that just "gets us". :)
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Yeah, some guys have no clue of a girl's clues, and, will never get a clue, so, go ahead, ask them out. :)

The Lord leads :)

Good for you, pickynicky, that's just the Lord's confirmation, then, that it was an OK thing to ask that guy out for java.
 
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Ever feel like you're too busy for your own good ? Me too sometimes .
 
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GreenNnice

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Oranges , little satsuma kind, they really do have so much more robust flavor when I eat them peel and all, such a 'zest' to the taste. Well, that and finding out catsup smothering hard-boiled eggs is the way to go, for me, anyway.
 
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Shouryu

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I do appreciate the various remarks welcoming me back; I don't mean to ignore them. Thank you. You make a brother feel loved.

I might also add that it's especially touching (and maybe even a little flattering) when a sister who is particularly Godly goes out of her way to let me know that I am missed. You make me blush. ^_^
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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I know many of you pray for me & have been,concerning my recent financial setback. I need a few extra well wishes & thoughts from peeps today. Basically that thing's go smoothly & without major incident. That if I do get my eviction notice today,that I am truly getting the 7 days needed to vacate. I have to not only deal with my credit union concerning the check that I received over the weekend that was made out with the wrong 1st name and then I have to go talk to the manager of the building & tell him I don't have the 2K. I think he'll be "ok" but he starts to get an attitude if he feels like the owner is attacking him for not doing his job,thus he takes it out on tenants...me. Then it's off to work,and I will be telling them that I need to be taken off the schedule. (I wasn't due to be laid off until at least the very end of Feb).

So I don't have a solid plan in place yet. The guy I commute to work with says he wants to talk to me about something I mentioned concerning him driving me to NY within the next week. I have a friend there whom I haven't seen in at least 13 or more years & we've always kept in touch,so I would be staying with him for a few weeks at least.
Anyways,I don't really know what's all happening. I just know that my life is about to get a bit more crazy.
Funny that it's coming upon my 1 year anniversary of 2 kinda major thing's in my life. As of Feb 1st I will have been a member of CC for a year. As of Feb 2nd I will have been divorced for 2 years. Strange thing about all this mess,is somewhere in it all I kinda am at peace...a bit scared at moments,but for the most part just chill.

I know many of you have got yer' own personal thing's happening...some with even tougher situations than I can ever imagine having to cope with. I know that I don't have a huge amount of encouragement to offer you,and I don't even have some amazing testimony to share & say "Hey look...this awesome miracle happened for me,and it can happen for you too!"
I wish I did. The thing is...even though right now I feel pretty much like a failure being in such a stupid situation with kinda being broke and having to leave where I live on these terms...the positive flip side is that I will finally be leaving Maine. This is a very good thing. I will ( more than likely) be at least heading back to a place for a short time,where I at least have friends & some people I know. NY is not my final destination...it's a fueling stop along the way.

I guess what I'm fumbling to try & say is this. God is still good. Whatever any of us are having to deal with. Money,physical stuff...or even emotional/mental distress. God is still with us in it all. He's doing stuff for us we prolly don't even realize half the time,or else are so blinded by what we see,that we just don't see Him any longer.
I have no idea,short term what I am doing. I do however know where I need to be,and where I am headed. I am certain of that! My timing isn't always God's. That's cool. Difficult in & of my flesh,but cool. I may not be on quite as much in the coming month obviously due to "life stuff",but yeah...I'll be around. Thanks again to all those who have kept me in prayer. Ya'll rock! :cool:
 
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just_monicat

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i'm so sorry you're having to struggle with so much right now. you will certainly be in my prayers. i know that He has wonderful plans to bring good into your life and use you to encourage others.

i'm also reminded of what i was reading this morning:

"for this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison..."
2 corinthians 4:17
 
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Sounds like you have some what of a plan Jim. I'm glad you'll be closer to friends. I'm praying for you.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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just_monicat said:
i'm so sorry you're having to struggle with so much right now. you will certainly be in my prayers. i know that He has wonderful plans to bring good into your life and use you to encourage others.

i'm also reminded of what i was reading this morning:

"for this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison..."
2 corinthians 4:17
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That's awesome & thank you! Kinda been feeling that as of late too. Hence changing my av last night & signature. I sometimes have to remind myself that this is all just temporary & not to give into fear or worry.
 
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Fenner said:
Sounds like you have some what of a plan Jim. I'm glad you'll be closer to friends. I'm praying for you.
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that avatar is too funny! it reminds me of what i used to do with the baby pigs. they're the best for dressing up, and they'll let you lay them on their backs in a baby carriage.

not long ago, my aunt mailed me a photo that she took of me at 6 or 7 with a baby pig wrapped in a baby blanket and i'm apparently singing to the poor thing.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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Something strangely inside me has always wanted to own a pig & a cow. I have no idea why. A friend of mine who's father was a farmer had cows,and I remember always enjoying going to the barn to pet them. They always seemed so chill & friendly. I'm sure there are mean cows out there,but I dunno...they just seem like really sweet animals. I never had any interest in pigs until I watched the movie Babe...then I was sorta hooked. lol But see..I sort of want my pig to talk like he did...AND I want him to have the voice of the woman who did his voice in the movie. (I forget her name,but she's the same person who does the voice of Dexter in the cartoon "Dexter's Laboratory")
Ok...feeling I shared waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay tooooooooooo much this morning. *slowly backs out of thread*
 
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Eating some toast while coffee is brewing. :) I usually try to stay away from coffee anymore, but this is a day that is just too cold to go without. lol
 
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just_monicat said:
that avatar is too funny! it reminds me of what i used to do with the baby pigs. they're the best for dressing up, and they'll let you lay them on their backs in a baby carriage.

not long ago, my aunt mailed me a photo that she took of me at 6 or 7 with a baby pig wrapped in a baby blanket and i'm apparently singing to the poor thing.
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We had a cat growing up and she had kittens. I dressed them up. It's a girl thing, it's a cute little baby we're dressing it up,lol.
 
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persNickety

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I am taking tomorrow off work for an appointment. Sleeeeeping in. Considering taking holidays next month just so I can sleep in during the week.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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persNickety said:
I am taking tomorrow off work for an appointment. Sleeeeeping in. Considering taking holidays next month just so I can sleep in during the week.
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You sound like me :p. I just got off work, I plan on sleeping a solid 10 when I finally do crash....getting up, taking care of a few things I've had to put off, and back to the pillow
 
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iTOREtheSKY said:
Something strangely inside me has always wanted to own a pig & a cow. I have no idea why. A friend of mine who's father was a farmer had cows,and I remember always enjoying going to the barn to pet them. They always seemed so chill & friendly. I'm sure there are mean cows out there,but I dunno...they just seem like really sweet animals. I never had any interest in pigs until I watched the movie Babe...then I was sorta hooked. lol But see..I sort of want my pig to talk like he did...AND I want him to have the voice of the woman who did his voice in the movie. (I forget her name,but she's the same person who does the voice of Dexter in the cartoon "Dexter's Laboratory")
Ok...feeling I shared waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay tooooooooooo much this morning. *slowly backs out of thread*
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I love that movie, bahhrraaammeuuuu.. It was sad when Ma the sheep died. I loved the little mice that would talk in between the scenes. I also loved the evil kitty, mwaahahahha.. Ferdinand is also awesome.



[video=youtube_share;U1v_Ed4QFC4]http://youtu.be/U1v_Ed4QFC4[/video]
 
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persNickety

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I wish I had one day during the week in which I worked the evening shift instead of morning. I feel like I need that day to sleep a solid 9 hours during the week to get my energy back for the rest of the week.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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persNickety said:
I wish I had one day during the week in which I worked the evening shift instead of morning. I feel like I need that day to sleep a solid 9 hours during the week to get my energy back for the rest of the week.
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I work night shift all the time, I love it. Go in at midnight, get off at 8ish in the morning. I would commit suicide if I had to get up at 5 or 6 am and go to work 5 days a week
 
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