If it had not been for good communication and humility my marriage most likely would have ended on several occasions. Every time I went to God truly broken and ready to listen, He opened my eyes allowing me to see how we shared much of the blame. Don't give up. I heard a marriage councilor say that a man needs to feel respected by his wife and a wife needs to feel loved by her husband. One won't happen without the other so who goes first? He stated, "I always tell them the more mature person should go first." Women want men to fight for them, that they mean something to them. Don't let her down. If you want her, fight to win! May God's Spirit of reconciliation be upon you both. I ask this in the name of Jesus.