Facebook: Good or Bad Experiences

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J-Kay-2

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Facebook: What effect has it had on your life ?
What do you think of it ?
Have you tried using Facebook and left ? Why ?

 

blue_ladybug

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Facebook: What effect has it had on your life ?
What do you think of it ?
Have you tried using Facebook and left ? Why ?

J-Kay-2, I personally have never used FB, and never will. I know it can be a great way to stay in touch with people, but alot of personal stuff gets posted on there. Stuff that no one cares about, such as whether or not a person cant choose between eating spaghetti or linguine..LOL. My personal opinion is that FB is completely and utterly ridiculous and should be outlawed!! LOL JK!! :)
 
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J-Kay-2

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I will start with my own thoughts to my Thread.
I liked it when I started. I was encouraged by my daughter to
get my computer to start with. Oh, we can keep in touch and......

I have been on, off, on..... I have discovered through observation,
people are into numbers. You know, like 1000 friends. Good gosh
100 is impossible to keep up with. I have around 65 and I don't
get to them.

I have found it helpful when urgent prayer requests come in.
It is awesome way to keep informed regarding the person in need
of prayer. We can keep track of their health, improving or not.

As for friendship, I see more bragging and it is nice to use it
for Congratulating, or sending Birthday or Anniversary wishes.
I think one has to be social butterfly to really get the full benefit of
its purpose.

I,personally was very upset with it when I saw what my relatives
(leaving relationship unmentioned) were really like. Those things
that cause embarrassment to a family if you are Christian. But, I
learned to stay friend, but not allow it to show on my Timeline. I
don't even want to know bad things, so I ignore them. Those I
have seen, get prayed over.

I have been able to use it for Christian witnessing. And I like to
have comments from Mike Huckabee and John McTernan on mine.
Hopefully some wisdom gets spread around.

I think it has its good points for social announcements.
I also like the photo sections so we can keep up on the growth of
our family and our friends family as well.

All in all... it is there for now... But if it were to be removed I
wouldn't be disappointed. That is how I see it..... J~K~2
 
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J-Kay-2

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J-Kay-2, I personally have never used FB, and never will. I know it can be a great way to stay in touch with people, but alot of personal stuff gets posted on there. Stuff that no one cares about, such as whether or not a person cant choose between eating spaghetti or linguine..LOL. My personal opinion is that FB is completely and utterly ridiculous and should be outlawed!! LOL JK!! :)
So very true, Ladybug..... One thing I have learned to just click
on 'unfollow' those I don't care to see posting silly things.... I was
writing while your were... LOL.....
 

JesusLives

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It does help me keep in touch with family and friends....But some of the posts.....wow...I think - I don't think I would have posted that but then I guess some don't care what they put out there. I try and be careful what I post as I don't want something to come back and haunt me... Plus I don't think people need to know everything about me some things are just private.
 
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J-Kay-2

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It does help me keep in touch with family and friends....But some of the posts.....wow...I think - I don't think I would have posted that but then I guess some don't care what they put out there. I try and be careful what I post as I don't want something to come back and haunt me... Plus I don't think people need to know everything about me some things are just private.
Amen... Even if we do private message, I delete them after.
Same here with my messages. I just feel nothing is safe.
 
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I had it since 2009 but deleted it within this past month because of conflicts with my mom. From what I have seen and experienced, it has divided families along with friendships being broken. I know for a fact when I had my Facebook, my mom would get mad when I would block her from seeing some of my posts because she would get overly concerned. Then she would do the guilt trips because I blocked her. It brought a whole mess. Eventually, I thought it would solve all my problems if I simply added my close friends from there to Skype. However, now she thinks I have blocked her on Facebook still. It is what it is. Personally for me though, I have experienced negative situations.
 
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Wingless

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I think I'm kinda getting tired of FB. I have a lot if my family on it and a few friends that I haven't put on the ignore lust, but for the most part 90% of the things on FB just frustrate me lol. Also, I never realized how often people have babies until I got a Facebook account.
 

MartyrNdaMaKn

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No bad experiences for me to speak of, never had a Facebook, I find it a waste of time and I prefer to stay drama free.
 

Toska

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I don't use facebook very much at all. I mainly use it to keep in touch with my friends who live out of state. I don't post much on my wall at all. Most of our communication is through private groups that we have set up so only the people in the group can see what is posted.

I agree about the numbers, J~Kay~2, I don't get into the friending people so I look popular thing. I have less than 100 friends and need to go through and unfriend about half of those since we never talk to each other.

I don't normally read the news feeds, I only check in with the groups I am a part of and then move on to something else.
 
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Have facebook and check it daily to see what's happening with family and friends, but I don't spend a lot of time on it. It's a useful tool that I appreciate for networking. I have a habit of quietly unfriending drama queens or controversial posters, so my feed is usually pleasant and informative.
 
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J-Kay-2

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I had it since 2009 but deleted it within this past month because of conflicts with my mom. From what I have seen and experienced, it has divided families along with friendships being broken. I know for a fact when I had my Facebook, my mom would get mad when I would block her from seeing some of my posts because she would get overly concerned. Then she would do the guilt trips because I blocked her. It brought a whole mess. Eventually, I thought it would solve all my problems if I simply added my close friends from there to Skype. However, now she thinks I have blocked her on Facebook still. It is what it is. Personally for me though, I have experienced negative situations.
This is where I got hurt most by family. When I saw things I was
seriously concerned about, I never talked it out with them. I just
fixed it so I did not have to see it. Maybe I was not doing them a
favor by not witnessing. Would have seemed I was putting them down ?
The one time I left it was over my son in law. He can be nasty. I
have learned not to make comment on his page. So I leave my son in-law
alone and just try to post the Spiritual things I believe to be encouraging.
So, I understand where you are coming from.... only I guess I might be
wearing your moms shoes ?? But I didn't put them down, however maybe
they see me as you see your mom ? I know my son in -law and daughter
have different spiritual views now. I am still what they once were until
the watered down versions of Christianity became popular. I am sure
you feel I am like your mom because of the age difference. Believe me
sometimes I just want to leave all social networks.... I will repeat again,
I don't see what my family or friends post because I have changed settings.
God bless and thank you for responding...
 
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J-Kay-2

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I think I'm kinda getting tired of FB. I have a lot if my family on it and a few friends that I haven't put on the ignore lust, but for the most part 90% of the things on FB just frustrate me lol. Also, I never realized how often people have babies until I got a Facebook account.

Oh my gosh.... this one made me laugh... That was cute ... and you are right. LOL...
 
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J-Kay-2

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Have facebook and check it daily to see what's happening with family and friends, but I don't spend a lot of time on it. It's a useful tool that I appreciate for networking. I have a habit of quietly unfriending drama queens or controversial posters, so my feed is usually pleasant and informative.
Sort of funny about unfriending drama queens. I haven't had that problem.
I have two favorites I keep coming on new every day in the New feed...
Mike Huckabee and Oswald Chambers .....John McTernan. If the people
don't like it, and most don't show they do... well, it is my news.

I was getting tired of the bragging ... or seeing family of people I hardly
knew... it was taking up space and I sneaked in and put unfollow ...........
By the way... I love the "grace like rain " .... wash down on me... God bless.
 
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J-Kay-2

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I don't use facebook very much at all. I mainly use it to keep in touch with my friends who live out of state. I don't post much on my wall at all. Most of our communication is through private groups that we have set up so only the people in the group can see what is posted.

I agree about the numbers, J~Kay~2, I don't get into the friending people so I look popular thing. I have less than 100 friends and need to go through and unfriend about half of those since we never talk to each other.
I don't normally read the news feeds, I only check in with the groups I am a part of and then move on to something else.
I have done this ..... gone and removed those I don't have contact with.
I actually get little upset when I have private messaged someone I want
to see if they are well, etc., when I don't hear from them... and they do
not respond. I guess they don't see the square (you have message ) ??
Certainly not because they don't want to talk to me, Nah, can't be that.. LOL..
 
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Cairparavel

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i avoided FB for a long time because i am a very private person, but i finally gave in last year then cancelled my account after a few months because there were a few people i didn't want to "unfriend" and the thought just just seemed so mean to me. So i re-joined a second time this year and giving it another chance. Also I wanted to do it differently this time and mainly use it to keep up with my favorite bands and stuff.

I know, i'm really old school...i don't like to display every detail of my life and i don't have any pictures of me or my family...not even on my avatar. Like i said, i use it to keep track of bands and also the local steampunk group i'm involved in. That's it.

To me, it is identical to a really huge high school. Oooooooo.....Lets' check out what the cool kids are doing! Ooooooo let me show you the latest FB quiz i took! It says i'm Ariel of the Disney princesses!! I'm SO awesome! see what a great mother i am! I took my kids to the park! See how cute i am in my selfie!

I think you get my point.
 

SparkleEyes

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I LOVE FB. I have connected with friends from 30 years ago and love hearing what is going on in their lives. I like feeling connected to people who live far away from me. I like learning about new things from my friends, I like communicating and laughing with my friends. I am careful who to friend. If you are not my friend in real life, I am not inclined to friend you. I am not friends with my friend's children, nor friends of friends. If I don't trust you or don't know you well enough to trust you I will not be your friend on FB. I am not likely to friend anyone I do business with because I tend to keep my professional life separate from my social life.

I wonder if people's bad experiences with FB tend to be the result of friending the wrong people. These wrong people may post things that some consider inappropriate and it is then easy to blame FB and not the person (people) who are saying or posting ugly, rude or otherwise inappropriate things.

I think that like anything, you can overuse it and it can become a place that is not healthy. It depends on how people use it...not on the technology or concept. :cool:
 
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J-Kay-2

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i avoided FB for a long time because i am a very private person, but i finally gave in last year then cancelled my account after a few months because there were a few people i didn't want to "unfriend" and the thought just just seemed so mean to me. So i re-joined a second time this year and giving it another chance. Also I wanted to do it differently this time and mainly use it to keep up with my favorite bands and stuff.

I know, i'm really old school...i don't like to display every detail of my life and i don't have any pictures of me or my family...not even on my avatar. Like i said, i use it to keep track of bands and also the local steampunk group i'm involved in. That's it.

To me, it is identical to a really huge high school. Oooooooo.....Lets' check out what the cool kids are doing! Ooooooo let me show you the latest FB quiz i took! It says i'm Ariel of the Disney princesses!! I'm SO awesome! see what a great mother i am! I took my kids to the park! See how cute i am in my selfie!

I think you get my point.
This is too cute... you are so right about the most of it. I don't do games.
and a lot of people I do know personally will want to friend, then I find out
it was just to play their games... No thank you....
It is a place for those who really like to show the good side of themselves,
but I discovered there are a few more that 'one' person I know who goes
to another site and shows a whole different side and it is not pretty.
So facebook can be a front for some. And no matter how they try to tell us
we are safe, we aren't. So, you are more wise than I am. LOL...
 
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J-Kay-2

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I LOVE FB. I have connected with friends from 30 years ago and love hearing what is going on in their lives. I like feeling connected to people who live far away from me. I like learning about new things from my friends, I like communicating and laughing with my friends. I am careful who to friend. If you are not my friend in real life, I am not inclined to friend you. I am not friends with my friend's children, nor friends of friends. If I don't trust you or don't know you well enough to trust you I will not be your friend on FB. I am not likely to friend anyone I do business with because I tend to keep my professional life separate from my social life.

I wonder if people's bad experiences with FB tend to be the result of friending the wrong people. These wrong people may post things that some consider inappropriate and it is then easy to blame FB and not the person (people) who are saying or posting ugly, rude or otherwise inappropriate things.

I think that like anything, you can overuse it and it can become a place that is not healthy. It depends on how people use it...not on the technology or concept. :cool:
You have a good point about catching up with friends you knew 30 years ago.
I do agree with you there. I was hurt by one I remembered every year Jan 8th,
because her BD was same day as Elvis. I rode the school bus with her and we
graduated together. Every year as I said.... Jan 8th.. I was thinking... today is
her BD. Wonder how she is. Where she is. We graduated in 1962. So that takes
a lot of years in that I thought of her. Okay, I get my computer and waited few
years to go to FB and finally began to catch up with some classmates and I found
the girl I wanted to tell I thought of her every year. To my dismay, she was not
that into me as a friend. Hurt ? Yes. Sensitive ? Yes. Do I love when not loved
or even liked back ? Yes. But as you will tell me ... I am too sensitive. I won't go
into anymore 'hurts'..... Makes me look pretty pathetic doesn't it ?
I now just use it only to keep up on health issues and the friends I have who have
become 'widows' or those who have ailing husbands, or sick grandchildren.
I can pray... I love to pray for these in need. So that is my best experience with FB.
 
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jer2911

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J-Kay-2, I personally have never used FB, and never will. I know it can be a great way to stay in touch with people, but alot of personal stuff gets posted on there. Stuff that no one cares about, such as whether or not a person cant choose between eating spaghetti or linguine..LOL. My personal opinion is that FB is completely and utterly ridiculous and should be outlawed!! LOL JK!! :)
it depends how one person use FB.

Lucky 7 list:

1. It helps me connected and updated. to classmates, from elementary to college friends, from former co-workers to
relatives, people from other countries.
2. It helps me advertise my business and have a chat with my clients.
3. It helps me to know what's in and what's out, to follow and unfollow.
4. It helps me find my friend's long lost loved ones like: a father he never saw since birth for 26 years, and a son that got
separated from a mom since the boy was 3 years old. They never stopped thanking me.

5. Greeting them on birthdays, anniversary, etc. being thoughtful when deaths announced, and being creative on giving
encouragement.
6. It helps me filter videos that I don't like to see or watch because all friends that I added are decent enough.
7. Finally, it broaden my social network.

Like J-Kay-2, I wont be disappointed in case it would be removed only it's cheaper to do things on FB than call relatives who are abroad, and it would be great to see friends, talk to them face to face but then with hectic schedules, couldn't afford. :)