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CatHerder

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Interesting you should say that. I remember in high school and at uni, some of the girls liked to hang out with guys because they said the girls they knew were too catty (they used another word - lol). I got along well with girls in uni and never understood/really noticed the 'emotional fighting' or whatever.
must be some Australian word that doesn't translate well into English.

**snicker**
 
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Raine

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Eh, I think there's advantages and disadvantages to girl and boy friends. Guys are more lay back and fun to hang out with but I love having my girl talks with my girls because they understand me from a girl perspective.
 

Rachel20

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I think I am on the other end.

I am friends more easily with women and I have more women friends than guys. And even with my guy friends, except perhaps one, I am not as close as with my female friends. Friendships with guys are always through an online medium.
Text or something, never physical.

I just relate more to women and it's so easy to share issues I face, because it's some we all collectively do.

Female friendships can be really deep and provide wisdom. It can be emotionally so fulfilling.

So it's not all of a gender that's bad or anything.
At the end of the day, I guess it really depends on the women you meet... or even men :)


PS - I am not quoting anybody because it's the same topic-ish on the thread. My apologies if I look like I am having a streams of consciousness and thoughts moment.
 

ChandlerFan

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I used to think I got along with girls better, but as I was ministered to by men and ministered to men myself in college, that has changed a lot. Not that I get along with one better than the other, but I think I've pursued friendships with men more and held onto the female friendships that formed naturally.

I don't think one gender is necessarily better than the other. God created men with some great characteristics generally speaking, and the same with women. I do think that men tend to be more hurtful and destructive in general, though.
 

cinder

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Oh sure, I'll chime in on the whole same sex vs opposite sex friendships here. I've had a lot of guy friends and found it easier to connect in general with guys. My dad says I think like a guy and that might be part of it, but I think a larger part of it is that cross gender conversations are usually about topics I enjoy talking about more. We'll talk about God, or good books, or fun activities we enjoy doing and most guys will never ask me about dating, or if I think such and such a guy is cute (I've always failed to see how that matters anyway but girls rarely understand that I find the question irrelevant) or even start dumping their illogical emotional dating messes in my lap. And guys usually appreciate my analytical and problem solving abilities when they do share, instead of thinking of me as siding with the other party or being insensitive (seriously sensitive for me is I ask if you want me to explain the situation or just say I'm sorry you are having negative emotions and associated difficulties right now).

Nerdy females or female engineers are the exception to the rule as I generally seem to get along well with them. And there are a few other gals as well that I seem to have clicked with in spite of my normal not getting along with the ladies so well.
 
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JustAnotherUser

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Night went a little bit better than I thought. Talked to my mother and she told me some things I never thought we would even discuss. I do wonder if it's because the beer could have brought some effect and that she wouldn't think about half of what we said by morning. :| Despite how she says it's not.

I just wish we had this type of bonding a bit more while growing up. She pretty much told me that no matter how I live my life or who I would accept or not if I were to be in any relationships that she would love me and want to see me happy, and that I could do better than how it ended up and how I see myself. Maybe, just maybe this could be a start of an actual open bond instead of yelling or not talking properly all the time. Who knows. Enjoyed it while it lasted though.

There was more but the keyboard on this phone annoys me. Plus I need to sleep.
 

gypsygirl

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I think I am on the other end.

I am friends more easily with women and I have more women friends than guys. And even with my guy friends, except perhaps one, I am not as close as with my female friends. Friendships with guys are always through an online medium.
Text or something, never physical.

I just relate more to women and it's so easy to share issues I face, because it's some we all collectively do.

Female friendships can be really deep and provide wisdom. It can be emotionally so fulfilling.

So it's not all of a gender that's bad or anything.
At the end of the day, I guess it really depends on the women you meet... or even men :)


PS - I am not quoting anybody because it's the same topic-ish on the thread. My apologies if I look like I am having a streams of consciousness and thoughts moment.

having good girlfriends is the best... however, i find it MUCH harder to trust women than men, likely because of my own history and how i was brought up.

as everyone has said, i think both genders have advantages... and typically if i have a problem, i usually choose to seek wisdom and support from the friend who i think will be most suited to help or listen --often that is because of a gender, but usually, just because they're a good, wise, loving friend.
 
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Ugly

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Night went a little bit better than I thought. Talked to my mother and she told me some things I never thought we would even discuss. I do wonder if it's because the beer could have brought some effect and that she wouldn't think about half of what we said by morning. :| Despite how she says it's not.

I just wish we had this type of bonding a bit more while growing up. She pretty much told me that no matter how I live my life or who I would accept or not if I were to be in any relationships that she would love me and want to see me happy, and that I could do better than how it ended up and how I see myself. Maybe, just maybe this could be a start of an actual open bond instead of yelling or not talking properly all the time. Who knows. Enjoyed it while it lasted though.

There was more but the keyboard on this phone annoys me. Plus I need to sleep.
I'm glad things went well. Maybe since things were good tonight, and you responded positively back, it will prompt her to make more efforts in the future.
 
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Raine

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having good girlfriends is the best... however, i find it MUCH harder to trust women than men, likely because of my own history and how i was brought up.

as everyone has said, i think both genders have advantages... and typically if i have a problem, i usually choose to seek wisdom and support from the friend who i think will be most suited to help or listen --often that is because of a gender, but usually, just because they're a good, wise, loving friend.
Girls tend to let their mouths run...................... No offense. I'm a girl too. :)
 

PopClick

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Um, guys, Tintin isn't allowed to have a birthday. Didn't anyone tell him?
 
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Tintin

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I was a bit of an odd ball in school and uni, who am I kidding? I still am. In primary school I played with my friends, who were all guys. There was one girl I liked - all of my primary school years. In high school, I crushed on a few girls but mostly hung-out in the library or played handball with a few friends or just talked. They were all guys, with the occasional girl who was a sister or friend of another. Then at TAFE, I wasn't really close with anyone but I got along with both guys and girls. Then at uni, I initially crushed on a few girls but became closer with the girls than the guys (I can't stand too much sports blah talk etc.) but I got along well with the guys too (handball may or may not have been involved - it totally was). My best friends from uni are girls but I wasn't attracted to either of them. Okay, I attracted to one of them for a short time at the beginning. Haha!