Shoud I ask a girl out?

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
Jul 22, 2014
10,350
51
0
Do whatever the Lord leads you to do BritishDave.

Jason just needs a hug.
Well, I am relieved you said that Dave should go by the leading of God.

As for any feelings of not being hugged or loved: Well, this is not true, my friend; I have received plenty of hugs recently. I hugged my fiance and some fellow co-workers not too long ago.
 
B

BritishDave

Guest
Thats what my note says that you responded too.:)

Why can't Jason just say that?
BritishDave obviously wanted to keep this thread light......Jason ruined that.
I'm not being a jerk by calling him out.......0047 was being inconsiderate for getting too preachy, on a simple question.
I would like some more snappy posts at least Jason XD I can't be spending all day reading
 
C

cmarieh

Guest
This sounds like a very impersonal way of evangelising.. people are much more likely to come to Christ if a Christian comes alongside them and demonstrates God's love in their life
Every situation is different and so is every person one way that works for one person may not work in another. For me I show Gods love through my actions and have led a few through the sinners prayer. I will be praying for you that you find strength and courage in regards to this girl.
 
Jul 22, 2014
10,350
51
0
So everybody stay inside during summer :) there could be girls in miniskirts, sounds like potential temptation doesn't it Jason?
There is a big difference between going on a date (Where intimate feelings can arise between two people) versus being in the general public. Granted, if a person struggles with lusting by looking at women (Even in public) then I believe they should avoid places that is known to have women dressing in such provocative ways.
 
Jul 22, 2014
10,350
51
0
Depends how much you trust your wife
I don't know of anyone who would not think such a thing was appropriate. Nobody; So I highly doubt you would either. It's not acceptable to find your wife constantly talking with a guy all the time that you really don't know (When he has no business related reason to see her). Especially if they were enjoying each other's company.
 
S

Sirk

Guest
Well, I am relieved you said that Dave should go by the leading of God.

As for any feelings of not being hugged or loved: Well, this is not true, my friend; I have received plenty of hugs recently. I hugged my fiance and some fellow co-workers not too long ago.
I hope you had a chaperone when you hugged your fiancé.....otherwise, you can only touch hands thru dark tinted glass.
 
Jul 22, 2014
10,350
51
0
This sounds like a very impersonal way of evangelising.. people are much more likely to come to Christ if a Christian comes alongside them and demonstrates God's love in their life
It's how I received Christ.
 
Jul 22, 2014
10,350
51
0
I hope you had a chaperone when you hugged your fiancé.....otherwise, you can only touch hands thru dark tinted glass.
Again, your issue is not with me, but it is with the Word of God. Take it up with the Lord, my friend.
 
S

Sirk

Guest
Again, your issue is not with me, but it is with the Word of God. Take it up with the Lord, my friend.
Did we just go in a big circle? I feel like I'm back where I started....Hypothermia is setting in, I'm starting to feel warm all over and want shed layers and sit by this nice tree and die a peaceful death.
 
B

BritishDave

Guest
There is a big difference between going on a date (Where intimate feelings can arise between two people) versus being in the general public. Granted, if a person struggles with lusting by looking at women (Even in public) then I believe they should avoid places that is known to have women dressing in such provocative ways.
There's always a risk though wherever you go, the only way to avoid it entirely would be to cut yourself off from the world. We're called to bring the gospel to the world so obviously separating ourselves from it completely would be unwise
 
B

BritishDave

Guest
I don't know of anyone who would not think such a thing was appropriate. Nobody; So I highly doubt you would either. It's not acceptable to find your wife constantly talking with a guy all the time that you really don't know (When he has no business related reason to see her). Especially if they were enjoying each other's company.
Remind me which bible verse this idea comes from?
 
B

BritishDave

Guest
It's how I received Christ.
It may have worked in your case but I believe almost anyone will be more open to a relationship with Christ if they personally know a Christian and can see how their life reflects God's love
 
Jul 22, 2014
10,350
51
0
Did we just go in a big circle? I feel like I'm back where I started....Hypothermia is setting in, I'm starting to feel warm all over and want shed layers and sit by this nice tree and die a peaceful death.
Ecclesiastes 1:6
"The wind goeth toward the south, and turneth about unto the north; it whirleth about continually, and the wind returneth again according to his circuits."

Just as Jonah tried to avoid God's will in preaching to the Ninevites, he came back full circle to do exactly that even though he did not initially want to do so. In other words, he came back around >>>full circle<<< (like the wind goes in circles) to God's way of thinking.
 
Jul 22, 2014
10,350
51
0
Remind me which bible verse this idea comes from?
Are you thinking of this passage?

"And one of the Pharisees desired him that he would eat with him. And he went into the Pharisee's house, and sat down to meat. And, behold, a woman in the city, which was a sinner, when she knew that Jesus sat at meat in the Pharisee's house, brought an alabaster box of ointment, And stood at his feet behind him weeping, and began to wash his feet with tears, and did wipethem with the hairs of her head, and kissed his feet, and anointed them with the ointment. Now when the Pharisee which had bidden him saw it, he spake within himself, saying, This man, if he were a prophet, would have known who and what manner of woman this is that toucheth him: for she is a sinner." (Luke 7:36-39).​

If this is the passsage you had in mind, it does not apply. This was a woman who was seeking forgiveness and found it with Jesus Christ. Hence, why she was so grateful to him.

There is no viable good reason that your neighbor should visit your wife an ongoing basis so as to share in enjoying her company. Like I said, if they met once in the fact that he introduced himself and or if one of them was needing help in an emergency, then that is different. But to just have them hang out all the time whereby they would enjoy each others company is not appropriate.

For both my fiance and myself agree that this type of behavior would not be acceptable by either of us. Our connection is more than just the physical. First, our connection is spiritual because we both love the Lord and the Bible. So we wouldn't want to do anything to make one another potentially jealous. Second, we deeply share each others affections on a mental or social level. To share that with another man in the same way that we do would be wrong. It would no longer be special. Do you know I am talking about?
 
Last edited:
Feb 5, 2015
493
1
0
What does this have to do with asking a girl out? Do y'all have dates I wonder?
 
Jul 22, 2014
10,350
51
0
Are you thinking of this passage?

"And one of the Pharisees desired him that he would eat with him. And he went into the Pharisee's house, and sat down to meat. And, behold, a woman in the city, which was a sinner, when she knew that Jesus sat at meat in the Pharisee's house, brought an alabaster box of ointment, And stood at his feet behind him weeping, and began to wash his feet with tears, and did wipethem with the hairs of her head, and kissed his feet, and anointed them with the ointment. Now when the Pharisee which had bidden him saw it, he spake within himself, saying, This man, if he were a prophet, would have known who and what manner of woman this is that toucheth him: for she is a sinner." (Luke 7:36-39).​

If this is the passsage you had in mind, it does not apply. This was a woman who was seeking forgiveness and found it with Jesus Christ. Hence, why she was so grateful to him.

There is no viable good reason that your neighbor should visit your wife an ongoing basis so as to share in enjoying her company. Like I said, if they met once in the fact that he introduced himself and or if one of them was needing help in an emergency, then that is different. But to just have them hang out all the time whereby they would enjoy each others company is not appropriate.

For both my fiance and myself agree that this type of behavior would not be acceptable by either of us. Our connection is more than just the physical. First, our connection is spiritual because we both love the Lord and the Bible. So we wouldn't want to do anything to make one another potentially jealous. Second, we deeply share each others affections on a mental or social level. To share that with another man in the same way that we do would be wrong. It would no longer be special. Do you know I am talking about?
For example: How would you feel if some girl decided to go on a date with you, and during the date she decided to talk to some other guy on the phone for a half an hour? Or what is she invited some other guy to show up on the date? How would you feel then?
 
B

BritishDave

Guest
Are you thinking of this passage?

"And one of the Pharisees desired him that he would eat with him. And he went into the Pharisee's house, and sat down to meat. And, behold, a woman in the city, which was a sinner, when she knew that Jesus sat at meat in the Pharisee's house, brought an alabaster box of ointment, And stood at his feet behind him weeping, and began to wash his feet with tears, and did wipethem with the hairs of her head, and kissed his feet, and anointed them with the ointment. Now when the Pharisee which had bidden him saw it, he spake within himself, saying, This man, if he were a prophet, would have known who and what manner of woman this is that toucheth him: for she is a sinner." (Luke 7:36-39).​

If this is the passsage you had in mind, it does not apply. This was a woman who was seeking forgiveness and found it with Jesus Christ. Hence, why she was so grateful to him.

There is no viable good reason that your neighbor should visit your wife an ongoing basis so as to share in enjoying her company. Like I said, if they met once in the fact that he introduced himself and or if one of them was needing help in an emergency, then that is different. But to just have them hang out all the time whereby they would enjoy each others company is not appropriate.

For both my fiance and myself agree that this type of behavior would not be acceptable by either of us. Our connection is more than just the physical. First, our connection is spiritual because we both love the Lord and the Bible. So we wouldn't want to do anything to make one another potentially jealous. Second, we deeply share each others affections on a mental or social level. To share that with another man in the same way that we do would be wrong. It would no longer be special. Do you know I am talking about?
Ahh I see what you're getting at! I agree; marriage should be exclusive and deeper than any relationship with other women.. However I don't see anything in the Bible prohibiting friendship with people of the opposite sex
 
Jul 22, 2014
10,350
51
0
What does this have to do with asking a girl out? Do y'all have dates I wonder?
It's silly to assume that most Christian adults here would need to currently have dates to the prom in order to give sound Bibllical advice to a fellow young brother who is wondering if they should take an unbelieving woman to the prom or not.
 
K

keepitsimple

Guest
Ask her out already Dave. And be a perfect gentleman.

The End :)
 
U

Ugly

Guest
Only the BDF could turn such a minor question into a 10 page debate.