Cross Culture Marriage
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From the begining God knew it wasn´t good for the men to be alone, so Eve came in and, the more a person loves his/her spouse, the more he/she knows how to help churchy people.
At the end of days, we will know God needed no help to spread the gospel the way "Paul" chose being "asexual". It was good for Jesus but Paul was a man, who enslaved men in abnormal "asexuality". More than that, deprived millions for the natural love GOD set on men to cherish women.
"Asexuality" as celibacy, makes a person selfcentered, not necesserily egotist (I´m not saying that with a lack of respect neither offensively against you or any) because I cannot love people as a father without having loved my own children first so, Paul is big tale the RCC taught to get their priests screwed up and actual Holy Priest is the Lord Jesus...
In the OT there were hundred of MARRIED priests, by the way, such as those Mary, the mother of jesus, paid a visit:
Luk 1:5 When Herod was king of Judea, there was a priest by the name of Zechariah from the priestly group of Abijah. His wife Elizabeth was from the family of Aaron.
Luk 1:6 Both of them were good people and pleased the Lord God by obeying all that he had commanded.
Luk 1:7 But they did not have children. Elizabeth could not have any, and both Zechariah and Elizabeth were already old.
Luk 1:8 One day Zechariah's group of priests were on duty, and he was serving God as a priest.
At the end of days, we will know God needed no help to spread the gospel the way "Paul" chose being "asexual". It was good for Jesus but Paul was a man, who enslaved men in abnormal "asexuality". More than that, deprived millions for the natural love GOD set on men to cherish women.
"Asexuality" as celibacy, makes a person selfcentered, not necesserily egotist (I´m not saying that with a lack of respect neither offensively against you or any) because I cannot love people as a father without having loved my own children first so, Paul is big tale the RCC taught to get their priests screwed up and actual Holy Priest is the Lord Jesus...
In the OT there were hundred of MARRIED priests, by the way, such as those Mary, the mother of jesus, paid a visit:
Luk 1:5 When Herod was king of Judea, there was a priest by the name of Zechariah from the priestly group of Abijah. His wife Elizabeth was from the family of Aaron.
Luk 1:6 Both of them were good people and pleased the Lord God by obeying all that he had commanded.
Luk 1:7 But they did not have children. Elizabeth could not have any, and both Zechariah and Elizabeth were already old.
Luk 1:8 One day Zechariah's group of priests were on duty, and he was serving God as a priest.
My younger brother met a Filipino woman on-line in 1997. He flew to meet her. A few months later he flew back to take her to America. They were married the same year and are still very much happily married and their marriage is centered on God. What seems impossible for us is possible with God because He is the God of great possibilities.
J
Actually, "at the end of days we will know" (actually, some of us know the same already) that Paul was merely echoing the words of Jesus Christ Who said:
Matthew chapter 19
[3] The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
[4] And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
[5] And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
[6] Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
[7] They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
[8] He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
[9] And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
[10] His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
[11] But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
[12] For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Yes, Jesus Christ said that there would be some who would "make themselves eunuchs FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN'S SAKE" and the Apostle Paul was one of the same. That you despise him for that is really only an indication that you despise the words of Jesus Christ Whom Paul was following. I'd work on that if I were you. Anyhow, Paul "enslaved" nobody.
Matthew chapter 19
[3] The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
[4] And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
[5] And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
[6] Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
[7] They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
[8] He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
[9] And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
[10] His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
[11] But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
[12] For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Yes, Jesus Christ said that there would be some who would "make themselves eunuchs FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN'S SAKE" and the Apostle Paul was one of the same. That you despise him for that is really only an indication that you despise the words of Jesus Christ Whom Paul was following. I'd work on that if I were you. Anyhow, Paul "enslaved" nobody.
Just to make Lynx happy yes, it is o.k. to marry cross culture. I married a man born in Germany and I asked God if I could keep him when we first were communicating with each other and God said it was o.k. that I could keep him so I married him in November. Yes, tourist was born in Germany....o.k. technicality as he really is American born to American parents. His dad was in the military over in Germany.....lol
So really our cultures aren't different.....but my daughter's father was 100% Lebanese and he asked me to marry him more than once but I just couldn't because he wasn't a Christian and I felt there would be problems later on down the road if I married him and decided to go back to church. However, I do believe that if both persons understand salvation and have accepted Jesus as their Savior and they love each other that it would be o.k.
The cultural differences had nothing to do with me not marrying him as I loved learning different foods and language it made my world bigger getting to know him and learning about his country. There is land out there and other people besides Americans....lol
So really our cultures aren't different.....but my daughter's father was 100% Lebanese and he asked me to marry him more than once but I just couldn't because he wasn't a Christian and I felt there would be problems later on down the road if I married him and decided to go back to church. However, I do believe that if both persons understand salvation and have accepted Jesus as their Savior and they love each other that it would be o.k.
The cultural differences had nothing to do with me not marrying him as I loved learning different foods and language it made my world bigger getting to know him and learning about his country. There is land out there and other people besides Americans....lol
J
My father was (he passed away about 12 years ago) an American soldier who was stationed in Italy during World War II and that is where he met my full-blooded Italian mother who will turn 90, Lord willing, this Sunday. I cannot imagine what life would have been like without all of the Italian food that I consumed while still living at home and my Panamanian wife is a pretty darn good cook herself. Don't even get me started on Chinese food. I'd probably marry somebody for some shrimp and broccoli and an eggroll with hot mustard...lol.
Cross cultural marriages suffer from one thing, mixed messages which either party understand differently. This means to share well, openly and honestly takes more work because assumptions are made by both parties which are simply not true.
The other problem is dominance. Both want their culture to dominate, but you can only live in one place, and often in later life, where you end up is a problem. Family support is also an issue as it extends across countries etc. so yes it can work, but it also means extra baggage.....
The other problem is dominance. Both want their culture to dominate, but you can only live in one place, and often in later life, where you end up is a problem. Family support is also an issue as it extends across countries etc. so yes it can work, but it also means extra baggage.....
J
I couldn't care less about "my culture dominating". In fact, I'm merely a pilgrim and a stranger here who is awaiting the coming and the establishment of the kingdom of God right here on earth. When said kingdom comes, it will be comprised of those from every kindred, tribe and tongue and that's just fine with me...not that God needs my seal of approval.
J
Your lack of belief does absolutely nothing to change the truth of what I stated before both God and man and it's actually an indication of your own lack of discernment. Furthermore, much about "culture" is rooted in PRIDE. As a Christian, I couldn't care less about any particular "culture" unless it's given to sinful practices or the like. Again, people from every kindred, tribe and tongue will ultimately comprise the bride of Christ.
Slaves are all sort of pederasts/rapers, who have (and had) a human passsion hidden under the coverup of an unamed uniform, religion or priesthood. Those are enslaved under such wide spread "traditional" lie. Jesus is the exception and His life was written prior He was alive this human life but, the RCC´s teachings were not (and are not limited) to the Bible only.
John the baptist was an eunuch? Yes?
Jesus, the Lord and Son of God? Yes!
Mary, the mother of Jesus? No! She had more kids.
But I respect what you believed, sir!
I´m happy both of us can die for our beliefs, instead of another´s.
When God created this universe, I wasn´t there to help Him build the good things He created to know how GOOD He really is.
John the baptist was an eunuch? Yes?
Jesus, the Lord and Son of God? Yes!
Mary, the mother of Jesus? No! She had more kids.
But I respect what you believed, sir!
I´m happy both of us can die for our beliefs, instead of another´s.
When God created this universe, I wasn´t there to help Him build the good things He created to know how GOOD He really is.
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YES! Only is JESUS is the foundation between the two, respecting each other differences in cultures, communication and forgiveness. I question myself can I marry a man from different ethnic race or different culture. A man/woman must complement one another in all areas of the relationship. I believes ones character is important and praying together is important to a relationship. My two sister- in -laws are Caucasian and brother -in -law Spanish. Love is Love!
K
I think, that there isn't something bad in cross culture marriage, i have many friends who are from different contries, and they are married and happy. After all, everyone deserves to be happy. Don't you think so? I can say more, I met my " Mr. Destiny" on http://kovla.com/datings/us/ and we are from different culture, but we both are christian. And I'm sure, that he's my destiny!