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Hey guys! Just looking for a little advice...
So theres this guy. Were pretty good friends and have known each other for over a year now and we hang out quite a bit with a mutual friend. Its become clear that he likes me, in that he has begun texting me a lot (which is abnormal for him because he's not a texter), we've messaged every day for the past week and for multiple hours at a time just chatting about everything and anything and he's been going out of his way to try to spend time with me like trying to organise for our group of friends to get together whenever I have a night off work. He's a really great guy, he's funny and smart and we get along really well but I'd never considered him in that way before. My friend pointed it out to me that she thought he liked me a couple of weeks prior but I just had never thought of him in that way. I have a dilemma though... and before anyone says anything I know that its quite superficial and its by no means a major factor in whether I can see us in a relationship, but its just something thats been bugging me that i wanted to ask about.
So the dilemma is that im not hugly physically attracted to him... Hes not ugly at all but I just dont feel physically attracted to him that much. So firstly do you think that as I (if I) grow to love his Godly character physical attraction will grow to? Secondly there are a few things that he could do to help the process along and I dont know if its appropriate to tell him and if it is ok how? So things like the way he dresses, he will often wear corduroy beige long pants and board shorts with joggers and cant for the life of him coordinate colours. Is it appropriate for me to say to him that he needs to get a bit of a wardrobe update? if so how do i do it?
anyway I hope that makes some sense
thanks in advance!!
So theres this guy. Were pretty good friends and have known each other for over a year now and we hang out quite a bit with a mutual friend. Its become clear that he likes me, in that he has begun texting me a lot (which is abnormal for him because he's not a texter), we've messaged every day for the past week and for multiple hours at a time just chatting about everything and anything and he's been going out of his way to try to spend time with me like trying to organise for our group of friends to get together whenever I have a night off work. He's a really great guy, he's funny and smart and we get along really well but I'd never considered him in that way before. My friend pointed it out to me that she thought he liked me a couple of weeks prior but I just had never thought of him in that way. I have a dilemma though... and before anyone says anything I know that its quite superficial and its by no means a major factor in whether I can see us in a relationship, but its just something thats been bugging me that i wanted to ask about.
So the dilemma is that im not hugly physically attracted to him... Hes not ugly at all but I just dont feel physically attracted to him that much. So firstly do you think that as I (if I) grow to love his Godly character physical attraction will grow to? Secondly there are a few things that he could do to help the process along and I dont know if its appropriate to tell him and if it is ok how? So things like the way he dresses, he will often wear corduroy beige long pants and board shorts with joggers and cant for the life of him coordinate colours. Is it appropriate for me to say to him that he needs to get a bit of a wardrobe update? if so how do i do it?
anyway I hope that makes some sense
thanks in advance!!