Olerica....why can't you just answer the questions asked instead of trying to dig further? As someone else pointed out...yes this situation is different. But the thing is, every single situation is different. That's why I've tried the route of asking general questions to get some general advice. Like the question I have posed in this thread. I'm merely attempting to see if anyone has experience with this particular situation that can offer experience. I'm doing this because I am NOT bothering her begging for answers. I'm giving her the space I believe she needs. So, since I'm not asking her, I'm trying to get a feel from others who may have experienced different things about what may be going on and how I may should (or should not) approach her or the situation if I see similar characteristics. While in the other threads I have divulged a lot of info, it's not even the tip of the iceberg of what could be shared about our time together or the situation. As I've alluded to, like many relationships, it's a complicated situation. Even when I attempted to explain even briefly in another thread about the work aspect of our relationship (though i don't feel comfortable getting into specifics), someone totally blew off that cancern saying that essentially there is no way our work scenario should affect anything. That seems a little strange to me to totally blow the notion off the table that the work environment in any way would not affect our relationship. Again, all I've tried to do is get some general advice and ideas. I'm under no illusion that the answer of "she's just not that into you" isn't the case. I'm fully aware that could easily be the case. I don't need anyone on this site to tell me that's the case because that will become painfully obvious if nothing ever works out. However, if there are things people can mention that worked for them or like this question I asked in this thread could share experiences if they have them, I'd appreciate it. I asked this question because a close friend of mine said he thought it sounded like that. When he said that, my response was that I had not even considered that a possibility. I don't know how someone acts if they are in love and are afraid to be in love...which is why I ask for experience with that from anyone who may have experience so I can help gauge the situation without bothering her.
I know this sounds like a rant...and well, it is. But I don't need people repeating the same things over and over that are the same obvious answers that someone can give if they know 1 detail or hundreds of details. Again, I'm well aware of all those answers and well aware those could be the case. I do have a gut feeling there is something more going on and I don't know what it is. I refuse to bother her about it because I know now is a time she needs to herself. I'm trying to be very respectful of her while at the same time attempting to research different ideas from experiences others may have had. I appreciate the time people take to answer these posts but you tend to be pretty cynical in your responses.