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mokie22yrold

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had to sign papers to file divorce. something I NEVER ever wanted to do but husband left me no choice. he had a fair and she is moved in with him. he acts like I never exhisted. and is so mean to me. all I ever did was love him to pieces and this is how he treats me. feel so lonely why bother go on.
 
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Sirk

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I'm sorry you are hurting. :(
 
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KJB

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"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go". Joshua 1:9

That is why you keep on going, God is with you right now. You bother to go on because He still stands with you, He does not leave you behind. He will provide for you, He will comfort you, He will heal you. God loves us forever. Maybe you need a pause, a pause to stop everything around you, look into yourself and reflect. Focus on the Lord and He has all the strength to keep you holding on and moving on.

I will pray for you, it is difficult to be in the situation you are in right now, but right now will not last forever, only the Lord's love lasts forever. Find Him, Look for Him, because He has already found you and wants you to see Him.

Prayers sister.

-Kim
 
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I'm so very sorry - it hurts. But the one reason you have to go on is that Jesus will go on with you. And He still has things to bless you with.
 
Shannon50

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I am so sorry this is happening to you. hugs.
 
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pwrnJC

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This is never easy..especially for the spouse that put more into the marriage than the other spouse. This is a new beginning for you...but you have to go through the natural order of grieving, because D.I.V.O.R.C.E is actually a funeral and there has to be absolution, and a time for laying things to rest, but also a time for new beginnings and planning. GOD knows the heart of HIS own..JESUS begs us to "Cast your cares upon me". Lay your burdens down , weep, if you will, in your prayer closet and come out smiling, laying them at the foot of the cross. There is no other way..YOU can't let this go on forever. Life holds other options and exciting things ahead if you allow it. You are being prayed for, sister.
 
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mokie22yrold

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thanks everyone for the encouragement and not judging me. I've had people tell me" love is blind" they saw this coming. well I didn't. I saw a nice caring "Christian" man. he is anything but now. someone else says" get over it" they don't understand.
 
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You have been wronged! But you are young, and in time God will help you recover.

Let me put it this way. This guy wasn't good enough for you! OK?
 
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jogoldie

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My sister.....alot of us has experianced this pain....."get over it"....(very cruel thing to say)....we all grieve differently.......
the time is different for everyone.....your are in pain and it hurts everywhere......when I was grieving .....each day I would
try something different ....changed my routine...focusing on the things I always wanted to do.....that never got to......you
see.....God is rearranging things for you.....so find peace.....find you.....make it an adventure....it wont be easy.....nothing worth
having is easy......but it will be well worth it.....when you find yourself feeling down....try to find something you like that keeps you
busy.....find Gods plan for you ...one moment at a time....one day at a time.....find fellowship...all will look differently tommarrow....
peace...jo
 
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Well, sister, I think so many of us understand what you´re going through. I´m deeply sorry to know that happened to you and mostly, how you must feel about that. It seems everything ends, right? That there´s no hope, that we attract everything that´s painful and bad. Well, that is the time you must cling to Jesus and get even closer to Him, sister. We must be here, in this world, to do His work, to be an extension of Him, to serve Him and only when He thinks it´s the right time, we´ll go to Him.

I know that so many of us would give everything to go to Him right now, but it´s no the time, sister.


I´ll pray for you!

God bless!
 
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sassylady

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mokie22yrold said:
thanks everyone for the encouragement and not judging me. I've had people tell me" love is blind" they saw this coming. well I didn't. I saw a nice caring "Christian" man. he is anything but now. someone else says" get over it" they don't understand.
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My ex molested our daughters and I had never intended to divorce him (25 years of marriage) but you do get forced into a divorce in some instances. It shatters your life. I swear if one more person says "just get over it" I could punch them. It is not that easy. If they walked the mile in your shoes they would be amazed at how long some things take to get over.
 
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mokie22yrold

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thanks everyone. I just turned 52 and really thought that God led me, us, to be together. now we're anything but. he didn't even have the guts to face me. dumped me in text messages.
 
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mokie22yrold

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not doing good tonight. I was setting on the side of the freeway crying an crying. feel SO ALONE.
 
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atwhatcost

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mokie22yrold said:
not doing good tonight. I was setting on the side of the freeway crying an crying. feel SO ALONE.
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This isn't something you "get over" in this lifetime, (although you do in the next life.) It's not easy. It's not fun. A whole bunch of tears are involved. But, slowly, oh-so-incredibly-slowly you venture on to take a step. Then you take another one, and another, until it's more than just getting up in the morning. You have a life again. It happens. Honest.

As for not being lonely, there are some things you can do about that.
1. Tell God and listen for his answer. He may not answer immediately, but he will give you comfort.
2. Volunteer. Do something for someone else having a hard time of life. That "Love others as you love yourself" thingy really works.

And, I don't recommend volunteering until you're sure you're past that stage where if someone you haven't seen in a while surprises you and asks about your ex, and that makes you break down in tears. There is a time to mourn and you're in it. Let it be what it has got to be. Your time to dance comes later. It really does.
 
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Goodgirl77

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I'm so sorry you are going through this. I know what it's like to have to pull over and sob
 
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Rudimental

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Think I read somewhere something once that said something like, there is a reason why people who are in your past, are in your past.

I don't know how much comfort that brings you but for me its helped me come to terms with loosing people in the past.

The other one is, when God takes something away from you, its not to hurt you or punish you as though you had done something wrong. It's to replace it with something better.

I hope you can find some peace and comfort in that.

Gob bless you.
 
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mokie22yrold

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thanks for all the encouragement. I'm still waiting to hear if my lousy husband has been served. I just want all this legal stuff to be over. rumor had it the woman he had affair with is pregnant. I don't know how low, cruel, hurtful he can be. all I ever did was love him to pieces.
 
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Cheer-up, its a new beginning and not an end. You probably haven't been alone before, so its a new experience. There are worse things in life, but I understand how getting the rug pulled out from under you feels. God will never do that, neither will a dog, but a husband? If he was cold-hearted enough to do what he did, be glad he's gone. Paul said; "But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this" (1 Corinthians 7:28). But he also wrote; "God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it" (i Corinthians 10:13). It takes a while to get past someone who broke your trust, but being angry instead of sad helps :) People say "get over it and move on" because that's the only choice you have. It doesn't mean that you shouldn't be disappointed or feel abandon, but that dwelling on it keeps you in a bad place (emotionally) and doesn't help. Why go on? Because you were born to live, so keep on keeping on.
 
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KJB

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Keep on living and going on, God loves you and right now you need to place yourself with Him, do everything through Him, pray and pour yourself into Him to find yourself once again. Have faith in the Lord.
 
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mokie22yrold said:
thanks for all the encouragement. I'm still waiting to hear if my lousy husband has been served. I just want all this legal stuff to be over. rumor had it the woman he had affair with is pregnant. I don't know how low, cruel, hurtful he can be. all I ever did was love him to pieces.
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My hubby had a lousy first marriage... except it wasn't. Two wonderful kids came out of it. AND, if he weren't married at the time, he would have been married by the time I was old enough to meet him. (I met him when I was 23 and he was 34. His ex BIL was my seventh grade science teacher -- that year. lol)

It's not fun, it hurts worse than anything else, but even in this God made something out of it and will makes something out of you because of this. I'm not saying you'll get married again. I don't know if you will, won't, or even want to. I am saying you can't tell why something went so horribly wrong looking, but wasn't, until much later. Rom. 8:28. Read it and remember that includes you.
 
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