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Sirk

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The biggest reason I come to this place is for fellowship. It's taken some time to get the trust of a few people on here....even people who I sorted of started off on shaky ground with....I won't mention any names so I'll just call her The Bug...she has a Ladybug for her avatar and whatnot....but I digress. Lol

The reality out here on the ground is that everyone is on a journey. For some people, that journey is riddled with a lot of pain and brokenness. Sure...some of that brokenness is the result of poor choices...but some of it is the result of the bad choices of people who had authority over them and were derelict in their duty to to protect you and worse....inflicted hurt on you intentionally. It can take a long time to get to get to the bottom of some of that stuff and some unfortunate souls never do.

I don't know your story GIS but I hope you had a perfect childhood where you were accepted and loved for who you are...instead of what someone else wanted you to be or to keep someone else comfortable at the expense of your own personhood...I think that would be wonderful... because that is the gift I would like to give my son.....I just hope he has a humility about it and doesn't run people over with a few hand grenades of scripture who don't live up to his personal doctrine and bomb them to their senses. I think you're a good guy, your intentions here were good... and I have had some good interactions with you where you came across as respectful and kind in disagreement. I just ask that you respect the way that I have asked you to treat me. If I want your advice or biblical perspective I will ask for it. If you can't respect that... it will forever be on you and I will wash my hands of it.
 
PoetMary

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Basically we've got some boundary issues going on here. A topic was presented. A chatter ignored the topic and went after someone personally. This is not appropriate. Ever.

Even if someone argues "good intentions," this doesn't make up for bad behavior. (Remember, the road to hell is paved with good intentions). When the person was told to stop, he did not. He argued that he was pointing out some great doctrinal error. This is what we call "domination in the guise of service." He seeks his own way, but will posit that he's offering a benefit to others by his insistence on his own will. Ultimately, it's selfishness.

There was no care shown for Sirk's personhood. There were no offers of actual service (prayer for example). There were only attempts to shame and strong arm.

The significant disconnect between these self-motivated behaviors and imitating Christ is notable...and was noted by others. Sirk acted with great restraint. The clear disfavor experienced by the "corrector" was earned.
 
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Sirk

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PoetMary said:
Basically we've got some boundary issues going on here. A topic was presented. A chatter ignored the topic and went after someone personally. This is not appropriate. Ever.

Even if someone argues "good intentions," this doesn't make up for bad behavior. (Remember, the road to hell is paved with good intentions). When the person was told to stop, he did not. He argued that he was pointing out some great doctrinal error. This is what we call "domination in the guise of service." He seeks his own way, but will posit that he's offering a benefit to others by his insistence on his own will. Ultimately, it's selfishness.

There was no care shown for Sirk's personhood. There were no offers of actual service (prayer for example). There were only attempts to shame and strong arm.

The significant disconnect between these self-motivated behaviors and imitating Christ is notable...and was noted by others. Sirk acted with great restraint. The clear disfavor experienced by the "corrector" was earned.
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I always post something like this thread with a great expectation for God to do something with it. I troll for Jesus and for truth. Lol
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Sirk said:
Thank you. I am honestly sort of hurt by what he said to me. I realize his intention was probably to help but it wasn't helpful at all.
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I wouldn't let it get to you that bad brother. I think he means well despite how it sounded. These types of things happen on a website where everyone comes with all kinds of different ideas of who should do what and interpretations. Im actually amazed we don't see more of this type of thing happening in the singles area. Rare occurrence. We usually don't bump heads in here. Only place I ever see Catholics and Protestants get along.
 
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MollyConnor said:
I don't think GodIsSalvation was meaning those words in a harmful way...sometimes it's difficult to express what you want to say in a loving matter.
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If people cannot speak with love, they should remain silent and engage in some self-examination as to the shallow nature of their relationship with God.
 
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Tintin

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seoulsearch said:
If nothing else, maybe he's willing to sell his foot for $20 million and pay off any debt.

Then again... maybe that's just too habitual and ritualistic.

Not to mention traditional.

(Seriously, what American college student HASN'T thought of selling their blood/plasma/left side of their brain to one of those ads in every college newsletter hoping to make a quick buck?)
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Not this American college student that's for sure! ...wait. What's this? I'm an Aussie? Okay. And I'm no longer in college/university? Okay. ;)
 
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Abing

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PoetMary said:
If people cannot speak with love, they should remain silent and engage in some self-examination as to the shallow nature of their relationship with God.
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Then we all must be silent. Please let's not start with this.
 
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Tintin said:
Not this American college students that's for sure! ...wait. What's this? I'm an Aussie? Okay. And I'm no longer in college/university? Okay. ;)
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Good moooorrniiinngg Tintin!
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Abing said:
Then we all must be silent. Please let's not start with this.
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Not me, I love all you guys....so :p. Not a person on here I don't love bunches. Even the people that make me want to facepalm with a sledgehammer sometimes. We are a big dysfunctional family
 
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Sirk

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Tintin said:
Good morning, beautiful sister! It's almost lunchtime. :)
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Tintin is a single man. What say you? Doesn't a life filled with stifling expectations put on you by another person sound fun?!? Choose wisely young man....being able to see past the words takes an eyes wide open amount of time. Lol
 
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Sirk said:
Tintin is a single man. What say you? Doesn't a life filled with stifling expectations put on you by another person sound fun?!? Choose wisely young man....being able to see past the words takes an eyes wide open amount of time. Lol
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Yeah, I'm single. I have to start by saying I do have a debt from my university days (but university is expensive, so that's to be expected). I don't have a house, I've paid for my car in full and I don't have outstanding medical bills (I'm reasonably healthy). I don't believe in credit-card related debt, so I only have a debit card. Spend the money I do have, rather than the money I don't have. It's a good plan and it's worked so far. Now, if only I could find full-time work so I could pay off the rest of my university debt. Am I even in the right thread? Oops.
 
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Abing said:
Then we all must be silent. Please let's not start with this.
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That's not accurate. Plenty on these boards is said with love. And most of the wickedness is done out of anger or crowd-pleasing.

There's no shame in silence. There's no shame in self-reflection.

The bible does say, "He that loves not, knows not God, for God is love."
 
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Sirk

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Tintin said:
Yeah, I'm single. I have to start by saying I do have a debt from my university days (but university is expensive, so that's to be expected). I don't have a house, I've paid for my car in full and I don't have outstanding medical bills (I'm reasonably healthy). I don't believe in credit-card related debt, so I only have a debit card. Spend the money I do have, rather than the money I don't have. It's a good plan and it's worked so far. Now, if only I could find full-time work so I could pay off the rest of my university debt. Am I even in the right thread? Oops.
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Lol....you're always in the right thread.
 
blue_ladybug

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I could swear Oncefallen closed this thread earlier. Or was that a different traditional thread? :confused:
 
blue_ladybug

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Sirk said:
The biggest reason I come to this place is for fellowship. It's taken some time to get the trust of a few people on here....even people who I sorted of started off on shaky ground with....I won't mention any names so I'll just call her The Bug...she has a Ladybug for her avatar and whatnot....but I digress. Lol

The reality out here on the ground is that everyone is on a journey. For some people, that journey is riddled with a lot of pain and brokenness. Sure...some of that brokenness is the result of poor choices...but some of it is the result of the bad choices of people who had authority over them and were derelict in their duty to to protect you and worse....inflicted hurt on you intentionally. It can take a long time to get to get to the bottom of some of that stuff and some unfortunate souls never do.

I don't know your story GIS but I hope you had a perfect childhood where you were accepted and loved for who you are...instead of what someone else wanted you to be or to keep someone else comfortable at the expense of your own personhood...I think that would be wonderful... because that is the gift I would like to give my son.....I just hope he has a humility about it and doesn't run people over with a few hand grenades of scripture who don't live up to his personal doctrine and bomb them to their senses. I think you're a good guy, your intentions here were good... and I have had some good interactions with you where you came across as respectful and kind in disagreement. I just ask that you respect the way that I have asked you to treat me. If I want your advice or biblical perspective I will ask for it. If you can't respect that... it will forever be on you and I will wash my hands of it.
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I see how it is now. Passing the blame onto me now, are ya?! :mad: :cool:
 
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Tintin

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blue_ladybug said:
I could swear Oncefallen closed this thread earlier. Or was that a different traditional thread? :confused:
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Since this thread is only 6 hours old, I'd say it was the traditional girl thread that you're thinking of.
 
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Sirk

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Abing said:
Then we all must be silent. Please let's not start with this.
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PoetMary said:

That's not accurate. Plenty on these boards is said with love. And most of the wickedness is done out of anger or crowd-pleasing.

There's no shame in silence. There's no shame in self-reflection.

The bible does say, "He that loves not, knows not God, for God is love."
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I think the point of this thread was to point out how we get wrapped up in preconceived notions about how things should be in relationship. It seems the way of the world revolves around power and control...and we end up taking away another persons humanity because of our deeply held fears....we expect too much from those around us instead of relying on God to supply our needs.

Traditions are good and can be healthy...but they can also be destructive when they are worshipped. The good ole days weren't...the bible says the best is yet to come.
 
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