Married People's Opinions on Singleness: No Thank You.
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Depends. Some are horribly annoying, but the ones I read and heard were very good. Derek Prince, God is a Matchmaker, he married twice, awesome.
One man here has been single til in his fifties. Then God had someone and she had to wait 5 years til he was ready. He so loved being single. When I felt horrible I wouldn't listen to that one. What do you know? You loved it. But that was a real gift of singleness, what Derek Prince also says. Now I think it's an awesome testimony. But I wouldn't let him minister to me when I felt rotten. Better someone who knows exactly what it is, my ex who is remarried. Only one who prayed for me for that.
One man here has been single til in his fifties. Then God had someone and she had to wait 5 years til he was ready. He so loved being single. When I felt horrible I wouldn't listen to that one. What do you know? You loved it. But that was a real gift of singleness, what Derek Prince also says. Now I think it's an awesome testimony. But I wouldn't let him minister to me when I felt rotten. Better someone who knows exactly what it is, my ex who is remarried. Only one who prayed for me for that.
Actually the bible tell us that the elders are to teach the younger. The Mother are to teach the daughters in the ways of home making. and fathers instruct the young men. Before a married couple got married they were " Single " so they do know what a single person is going through , most young people think they don't 
. This is why Proverbs tells us very clearly no to forsake the teaching of our mothers and hear your father. But with the break down on the family the young men have no example of man hood. Iron sharpens iron. two faithful examples of a married couple is better then a single person IMHO not that a single can't teach another single but a married person can too both husband and wife
. This is why Proverbs tells us very clearly no to forsake the teaching of our mothers and hear your father. But with the break down on the family the young men have no example of man hood. Iron sharpens iron. two faithful examples of a married couple is better then a single person IMHO not that a single can't teach another single but a married person can too both husband and wife
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Actually the bible tell us that the elders are to teach the younger. The Mother are to teach the daughters in the ways of home making. and fathers instruct the young men. Before a married couple got married they were " Single " so they do know what a single person is going through , most young people think they don't . This is why Proverbs tells us very clearly no to forsake the teaching of our mothers and hear your father. But with the break down on the family the young men have no example of man hood. Iron sharpens iron. two faithful examples of a married couple is better then a single person IMHO not that a single can't teach another single but a married person can too both husband and wife
. This is why Proverbs tells us very clearly no to forsake the teaching of our mothers and hear your father. But with the break down on the family the young men have no example of man hood. Iron sharpens iron. two faithful examples of a married couple is better then a single person IMHO not that a single can't teach another single but a married person can too both husband and wife
https://gracefortheroad.com/2012/02/03/idontwait/
I have some female friends as well. I just prefer the simplicity of being unattached. I haven't been single for very long but I'm not looking and honestly not that interested in being romantically involved at this point. It's easier in many ways. I've made compromises my whole life and I'm not doing that anymore.
@OP I assume you're talking about this article Will I Be Single Forever? | Desiring God
No offense but this seems like 'grass is greener on the other side' mentality. It seems to assume that being single is harder than being married. Marriage can be just as lonely and heartbreaking as singleness. As someone once prayed for me, nothing worse than finding the wrong one, and nothing better than finding the right one. But it's not easy regardless.
I have been single for a long time, never married, no real relationship in over a decade. Yes it's been hard but I have grown as a person and focused more on God, and I'm sure the difficulties I've had by myself, wouldn't have disappeared if someone else (besides God) were intimately a part of my day to day life. In fact I'm glad I have done less harm because in a sense I've been by myself while God deals with my issues.
I read the article and didn't find much wrong with it. Even if it doesn't deal explicitly with long term singleness, the talk about perspective and focusing on eternity is spot on. It's how I've dealt with many difficulties.
Stephen's one point I would disagree with is when he says there won't be marriage in the new creation. Marriage is a covenant to protect intimacy and oneness between two people, it's an archetype of what's to come. We will be married to Christ, to God, we will be one with God. There won't be less intimacy and passion in heaven than there is on earth. And we can begin experiencing that intimacy and passion with God now. That is the answer as I've found it.
No offense but this seems like 'grass is greener on the other side' mentality. It seems to assume that being single is harder than being married. Marriage can be just as lonely and heartbreaking as singleness. As someone once prayed for me, nothing worse than finding the wrong one, and nothing better than finding the right one. But it's not easy regardless.
I have been single for a long time, never married, no real relationship in over a decade. Yes it's been hard but I have grown as a person and focused more on God, and I'm sure the difficulties I've had by myself, wouldn't have disappeared if someone else (besides God) were intimately a part of my day to day life. In fact I'm glad I have done less harm because in a sense I've been by myself while God deals with my issues.
I read the article and didn't find much wrong with it. Even if it doesn't deal explicitly with long term singleness, the talk about perspective and focusing on eternity is spot on. It's how I've dealt with many difficulties.
Stephen's one point I would disagree with is when he says there won't be marriage in the new creation. Marriage is a covenant to protect intimacy and oneness between two people, it's an archetype of what's to come. We will be married to Christ, to God, we will be one with God. There won't be less intimacy and passion in heaven than there is on earth. And we can begin experiencing that intimacy and passion with God now. That is the answer as I've found it.
Hi Sister Crimson Lark.U r always a blessing and u also come up with great questions that make people think.Definitely me.I was single till 45,now married for 17yrs and im not trying to answer your question,but i love that the bible, always has the answer to these questions.Also yes there r peoples feelings of being alone which i respect and can relate to,but i also believe that single people as many dont think the same possibly r just as treasured, important, valuable, loved by God as anyone else.Its a beautiful place to be.I always state that its better to be single wishing and hoping u were married,than to be married wishing and hoping u were single again.Once again as always, May God bless You and all the singles out there.
Seoulsearch: always good to see you, thanks for posting!
Born_again: Hilarious response, thank you for noting my post.
Tintin: I do agree with you. Even in the realm of singles there are different break downs.
Gentleheart/Tinkerbell725/Abigailzeke: We will have to disagree on the value of experience and the role it plays in being an authority.
CS1: For the record, Witmer is a man with whom I have never spoken. I’ve never met him. He’s most likely younger than me and he is in no way my elder. My disagreements with the sentiments you expressed in your post are already laid out in my original post, so I’m not going to restate them.
Sharkwhales: I’m not saying that being single is harder. I am saying that as a single woman I want advice from other singles about being single. Many married people love to give ‘godly’ advice when they have no clue what they are talking about.
Thank you everyone for your thoughts! Please know if I didn't list you by name I did still read your post. I always appreciate hearing other perspectives. (*begin sense of humor* Unless of course you are married.)
Born_again: Hilarious response, thank you for noting my post.
Tintin: I do agree with you. Even in the realm of singles there are different break downs.
Gentleheart/Tinkerbell725/Abigailzeke: We will have to disagree on the value of experience and the role it plays in being an authority.
CS1: For the record, Witmer is a man with whom I have never spoken. I’ve never met him. He’s most likely younger than me and he is in no way my elder. My disagreements with the sentiments you expressed in your post are already laid out in my original post, so I’m not going to restate them.
Sharkwhales: I’m not saying that being single is harder. I am saying that as a single woman I want advice from other singles about being single. Many married people love to give ‘godly’ advice when they have no clue what they are talking about.
Thank you everyone for your thoughts! Please know if I didn't list you by name I did still read your post. I always appreciate hearing other perspectives. (*begin sense of humor* Unless of course you are married.)