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I can relate on some level. I am now re-married. My first marriage was not meant to be, and I was mistreated. God has a way of using you in this life in ways sometimes you don't understand. I say it a million times over, but as long as you seek God's will then you can rest assured you are on the right path. Good out look though, I would feel a burden lifted too! God's will is a wonderful feeling, just knowing that he already has your life in His hands is a great burden lifted anyway. It's snowing here at my house, and I look at that white snow falling, and think of Jesus. His purity, and His sacrifice that saved us all, that's a great burden lifted. Thanks be to Him for shedding his blood so that we can be saved. God Bless, and I am here for you!
Interesting. I can't put my finger on why but something about that makes sense to me.
I've been married and it didn't work out. A girlfriend of mine is currently trying to end a very wrong longterm relationship, and all at once longing to find someone else, and she was enthusistically trying to convince me that I should be looking for someone. Seeing my sheer disbelief at what she was saying she asked if I thought I was ready for that. I told her "no" in no uncertain terms, she asked "When will you be ready?"
Well the plan is to stay single. I have no intention of finding someone else and it's important to me that my life now is not some half-lived version because I'm waiting for someone to complete it. But. I'm not ruling it out either. Not quite. Very almost. But only for the fact that God's ways are not mine and I don't see into the future and what will become appropriate and timely, for that only do I reserve ruling it out entirely. My friend knows this, and her question was - so how will you know if that happens and you're missing it? What would define it as being right? When will you be ready?
I told her - when some guy that I hadn't even thought of in that way, who I have known for a while and have a friendship with - without me looking for it, expresses interest and it stuns me because it was the last thing on my mind, and in that state I am able to clear-headedly consider whether he is someone I want to be with in that way. I told her compare that to how you're feeling now. If someone expresses intrest in you now, tell me every part of you wouldn't be screaming "oh-my-goodness-oh-my-goodness-oh-my-goodness-someone-likes-me-someone-likes-me-someone-likes-me!" Tell me honestly you're not feeling soooo needy for attention and worth that as long as there is something mildly apealing about a guy that offers it to you, it would be reeeeally difficult not to listen to him when he tells you you're beautiful and he's in love with you and you should be together. She sheepishly admitted it was true.
Anyway. I can't remember if I had a point and what what I'm saying has to do with anything. I think I need a kip and then I'll come back and read what I wrote, and figure out whether I just posted secrets I didn't mean to share, lol. And make my point if I had one.
I've been married and it didn't work out. A girlfriend of mine is currently trying to end a very wrong longterm relationship, and all at once longing to find someone else, and she was enthusistically trying to convince me that I should be looking for someone. Seeing my sheer disbelief at what she was saying she asked if I thought I was ready for that. I told her "no" in no uncertain terms, she asked "When will you be ready?"
Well the plan is to stay single. I have no intention of finding someone else and it's important to me that my life now is not some half-lived version because I'm waiting for someone to complete it. But. I'm not ruling it out either. Not quite. Very almost. But only for the fact that God's ways are not mine and I don't see into the future and what will become appropriate and timely, for that only do I reserve ruling it out entirely. My friend knows this, and her question was - so how will you know if that happens and you're missing it? What would define it as being right? When will you be ready?
I told her - when some guy that I hadn't even thought of in that way, who I have known for a while and have a friendship with - without me looking for it, expresses interest and it stuns me because it was the last thing on my mind, and in that state I am able to clear-headedly consider whether he is someone I want to be with in that way. I told her compare that to how you're feeling now. If someone expresses intrest in you now, tell me every part of you wouldn't be screaming "oh-my-goodness-oh-my-goodness-oh-my-goodness-someone-likes-me-someone-likes-me-someone-likes-me!" Tell me honestly you're not feeling soooo needy for attention and worth that as long as there is something mildly apealing about a guy that offers it to you, it would be reeeeally difficult not to listen to him when he tells you you're beautiful and he's in love with you and you should be together. She sheepishly admitted it was true.
Anyway. I can't remember if I had a point and what what I'm saying has to do with anything. I think I need a kip and then I'll come back and read what I wrote, and figure out whether I just posted secrets I didn't mean to share, lol. And make my point if I had one.
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I know people who got married and they were over 50 years old. so I have hope. it is good that marred couplei are both believer.
in our church they organize seminars (last week or weekend) for them who are planning to marry, have been married less or more years.
if I want to share what is going on my single life, so it is better to meet people who are in same situation. I don't like how can I say overspecailised
only single life not to see there is other life also.
in our church they organize seminars (last week or weekend) for them who are planning to marry, have been married less or more years.
if I want to share what is going on my single life, so it is better to meet people who are in same situation. I don't like how can I say overspecailised
only single life not to see there is other life also.
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I do not know if you are referring to a couple who decides to have sex before they are married and decide to get married. Or if you are referring to someone who is not a virgin and gets married.
I agree that if a couple has sex before they get married that they are creating a recipe for disaster. Sex should be saved for marriage, and I agree that sex should be sacred.
I do not feel that if someone is not a virgin and they change their life around and decide to get married that their marriage will struggle because they are not a virgin. I feel that if someone has changed their life around and are living Gods will then their marriage will succeed as long as they follow Gods will.
I agree that if a couple has sex before they get married that they are creating a recipe for disaster. Sex should be saved for marriage, and I agree that sex should be sacred.
I do not feel that if someone is not a virgin and they change their life around and decide to get married that their marriage will struggle because they are not a virgin. I feel that if someone has changed their life around and are living Gods will then their marriage will succeed as long as they follow Gods will.
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I have seen happy marriages all around me. I saw my grand mother and grand father travel the world until a few months before his death. He died at home with her and all his family around him. They were the funnest people to hang out with. Always knew how to throw a party and boogie down. My grandmother is Presbyterian. I did not realize this until a couple years ago.
Some good friends of the family from Ireland are madly in love with one another even with 3 kids including one who still sleeps with them. He has her name tattooed on him. Which to me seems silly. But when he comes home from being away for work, she lights up and looks like she could sequel/jump up and down like a teenager- the kids are equally happy.
Last one for now I promise..my dad though busy and traveling for work always looks forward to being home. They do a lot together and have totally different interests, but they do things that the other likes. They are like best friends and always speak respectfully towards one another.
I think that marriage is a good thing and it helps people grow.
Some good friends of the family from Ireland are madly in love with one another even with 3 kids including one who still sleeps with them. He has her name tattooed on him. Which to me seems silly. But when he comes home from being away for work, she lights up and looks like she could sequel/jump up and down like a teenager- the kids are equally happy.
Last one for now I promise..my dad though busy and traveling for work always looks forward to being home. They do a lot together and have totally different interests, but they do things that the other likes. They are like best friends and always speak respectfully towards one another.
I think that marriage is a good thing and it helps people grow.
I think you need to hit a bar, and find yourself a nice younger man. Just one of the joys in life is being with the opposite sex, doing the rumba. If you think thats wrong, think back to adam and eve. they had nothing to do all day so they spent alot of time together. Man and woman goes together like feet and shoes. you need yourself a man. I pray that you find someone.
Is it possible that you are shutting people out of your life because of the bible? Don't let that thing get in the way, you'll never have any fun.
God bless you with a man.
Is it possible that you are shutting people out of your life because of the bible? Don't let that thing get in the way, you'll never have any fun.
God bless you with a man.