How Long Do You Like To Know Someone...

[zeroturbulence]

The only dating I would qualify for now is carbon dating..

 

[Angelsnow]

I think in an ideal world....we'd get the "Perfect" person..after only knowing them a little while. I personally like it when someone KNOWS that person...and their character. But a blind date? isn't so bad. (if you play it Safe!!..don't get into a car with them...or go somewhere remote...or completely alone with them) ...then its not sooo dangerous? or worrisome. And you can truly enjoy yourselves. Peace of Mind.

Good Luck...and GBU all!!!

 

[garet82]

Like years!!!

 

[Desdichado]

Strictly blind dates or not knowing them very well at all. If I lived in a different century, my answer would be different.

 

[Lynx]

I have to wonder... if more people viewed dating as CASUAL, more people would go on dates more often, not be so intimidated, and eventually find their life partner much sooner than if they took it really serious and therefore rarely did it. Just my thought on things at this stage in my life.

Who's intimidated? I just never have bothered with the whole dating thing. Not in much hurry to find a life partner.

 

[melita916]

I knew my ex bf a few months before we started dating.

I knew my sweetie a few months before we started dating

 

[tinabeans1206]

Agreed. I'm not a serial dater but I wouldn't spend my time with someone that I do not see myself with long term. Especially since I'm over 40

 

[Lynx]

Oh that's good. I couldn't go with a cereal dater. I can eat three bowls of cereal and still not feel satisfied.

What? Oh... serial. Never mind.

 

[Rosesrock]

How long? What? Time doesn't matter.
Speed dating works. Get down to the nitty gritty.
Do you like to bring people coffee?
Do you pick up after yourself?
Do you cook?
Can you fix plumbing?
Are you employed?
Do you live with your mama?
Does your mama still pick out your clothes?

See All the important stuff can be answered via questionaire through email.
Cut out the awkward middle man.

Guys this might be cheaper too.

 

[Lynx]

How long? What? Time doesn't matter.
Speed dating works. Get down to the nitty gritty.
Do you like to bring people coffee?
Do you pick up after yourself?
Do you cook?
Can you fix plumbing?
Are you employed?
Do you live with your mama?
Does your mama still pick out your clothes?

See All the important stuff can be answered via questionaire through email.
Cut out the awkward middle man.

Guys this might be cheaper too.

I don't make coffee but I know the theory.
I clean up after myself.
I can and like to cook.
I call a plumber.
I have a job. Monday through Saturday, 9:30am to 4:30pm.
I live with my grandmother (mutual benefit situation.)
I dress myself, thank you. I have a good eye for what colors complement, clash or harmonize.

Any other questions?

 

[Rosesrock]

I don't make coffee but I know the theory.
I clean up after myself.
I can and like to cook.
I call a plumber.
I have a job. Monday through Saturday, 9:30am to 4:30pm.
I live with my grandmother (mutual benefit situation.)
I dress myself, thank you. I have a good eye for what colors complement, clash or harmonize.

Any other questions?

Dude. I thought I read somewhere that you weren't on the fast track to a marital partner. *scrolling down *
Flip to the *waiting on the perfect soul mate* page.

......running out of singles thread........*ducking to miss flying objects *

 

[tinabeans1206]

Oh that's good. I couldn't go with a cereal dater. I can eat three bowls of cereal and still not feel satisfied.

What? Oh... serial. Never mind.

Haha. However I am a cereal eater.

 

[Lynx]

Dude. I thought I read somewhere that you weren't on the fast track to a marital partner. *scrolling down *
Flip to the *waiting on the perfect soul mate* page.

......running out of singles thread........*ducking to miss flying objects *

What are you talking about? I missed three out of seven. I don't make coffee, I live with my grandmother and I call a plumber.

You can do better than that. There are some guys - single, even - who get all seven.

 

[Sonflower]

I have no idea. I've only ever dated one guy. I married him and was married for 17 years. I have no clue how to date. I feel like I'm ready, I just have no idea what one does to date. I do know I don't like the idea of my heart getting really close to person after person. Dating seems like too much work.

 

[Rosesrock]

What are you talking about? I missed three out of seven. I don't make coffee, I live with my grandmother and I call a plumber.

You can do better than that. There are some guys - single, even - who get all seven.

What are you talking about? There's no wrong answers. Point being speed.

Fyi. I have a plumber and Speed dial and dare the hub to go near the bathroom. And bonus: I'm.sure you're a blessing to your grandmother.

Careful you'll be stalked soon.

 

[cinder]

I've changed my viewpoint on dating over the years. At this point, I think casual dating to get to know people before forming any attachments or commitments is a good thing. I simply cannot go on a first date with someone ALREADY thinking about what it would be like to be married to that person. It's just jumping way too far ahead, and would freak me out, and the whole thing would implode before it even had a chance. I would need to start out getting to know them with no pressure, no expectations, no commitments, and then gradually take things from there. This way, there's a "back door" to gently ease out of if one of you doesn't feel a connection. No hurt feelings, no rejection. Just one date, thanks it was fun, and move on.

I have to wonder... if more people viewed dating as CASUAL, more people would go on dates more often, not be so intimidated, and eventually find their life partner much sooner than if they took it really serious and therefore rarely did it. Just my thought on things at this stage in my life.

I don't know that I'd be comfortable doing a blind date with someone I've never even spoken with, but if it's really just a date (no pressure to form a relationship at this point, just eating a meal together and talking for an evening), I'd say that knowing them even a little bit is enough.

Excellent point, Grace, and one of the complications we have with modern language. In my mind (and I think other people's) dating someone is different than going on a single date (and that's before we get into the whole is this a date or are we just hanging out confusingness).

So yeah meeting some guy for a meal and conversation, I don't have to know the guy super well to do that. To say that we're dating (implying that there is something between us that might become permanent) seems a whole lot more serious. I think we alternately put way too much pressure on the concept of dating and so never want to take that step and tend to hold out for someone just a little bit more perfect and so "friend zone" people who we could make things work with if we really wanted to. Not that I have much experience of doing either personally (I get all discomfited by someone paying so much attention to me), but I do know that most guys would have a much better chance of getting me to agree to meet for coffee or dinner once than to agree to be dating them.

 

[Lynx]

What are you talking about? There's no wrong answers. Point being speed.

Fyi. I have a plumber and Speed dial and dare the hub to go near the bathroom. And bonus: I'm.sure you're a blessing to your grandmother.

Careful you'll be stalked soon.

I care naught. I have a flamethrower for just such occasions. I use it primarily as a matchmaker deterrent. Kinda like a can of bug spray for wasps.

 

[cinder]

I care naught. I have a flamethrower for just such occasions. I use it primarily as a matchmaker deterrent. Kinda like a can of bug spray for wasps.

Well, looks like Lynx is going to be stalked by all the available female pyromaniacs. You gotta be careful about what you think will be a good deterrent Lynx, there's always a weirdo out there it won't work on.

 

[RodB65]

Heck, its been so long since I was last single that I'm not sure how to answer the poll.

 

[Lynx]

Well, looks like Lynx is going to be stalked by all the available female pyromaniacs. You gotta be careful about what you think will be a good deterrent Lynx, there's always a weirdo out there it won't work on.

Real flamethrowers are nothing like the short range junk they use in movies. As long as I can get a good firing angle it will work on anybody. It will work on a tank.