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Hello! Before I get into the real issue, here is some background to my relationship with my FI. We began dating 7 years ago. I have been deeply in love with him and even though we have gone through ups and downs, and talked to and dated other people, I still would compare them to him. I couldn’t feel the same way for them that I felt for him. He admitted to feeling the same way for me. We decided to get back together after a big breakup. That was 3 years ago and we have been together ever since. When he popped the question I was excited! My family was happy for us and have been very supportive of our relationship. So we have been engaged for 10 months so far. We have been making some plans towards a wedding and I have been having fun doing so with him and my family. But there is a feeling since we have gotten engaged that has been bothering me. I don’t know if it is cold feet or if it is just engagement anxiety. I have always lived at home with my family which is a big family. I am also the youngest in my family with 4 brothers and 1 older sister. My FI does not live in the same state as I do but we see each other every weekend. When we get married I am moving where he is. Away from my family and friends. I have been excited about wedding planning but have been having worries about if my FI is the one. On the other hand he is a great provider and so generous, loving, caring, and smart. He has been a great and understanding man to me. We are on the same page with so many things as far as what we want in the future. I find that alot of my issues that are brought up about my FI is physical insecurities that I believe I have about myself, but tend to see those insecurities in him instead. These insecurities are usually physical. We also stopped having sex about a year before we got engaged and it seemed that I didn’t think of the things I’m thinking of now before we stopped having sex, but more specifically before we got engaged.
BTW I have definitely prayed about the feelings that I have been having about my FI. I have had so many instances that have showed me that he is the one for me. I feel that he has made it clear to me.
Am I over analyzing this situation and its just anxiety, or should I really go on with getting married to my FI?
I love him so much. But there has been times that I am deeply in love with him, then others when I just feel love but not in love with him. He makes me happy. He is funny. He is always thete for me. He is all that I want in a man. Especially when I thought that he was the most handsome man ever bexpress we had gotten engaged. I just want to know if it is normal. And if I should continue going on with the wedding planning.
BTW I have definitely prayed about the feelings that I have been having about my FI. I have had so many instances that have showed me that he is the one for me. I feel that he has made it clear to me.
Am I over analyzing this situation and its just anxiety, or should I really go on with getting married to my FI?
I love him so much. But there has been times that I am deeply in love with him, then others when I just feel love but not in love with him. He makes me happy. He is funny. He is always thete for me. He is all that I want in a man. Especially when I thought that he was the most handsome man ever bexpress we had gotten engaged. I just want to know if it is normal. And if I should continue going on with the wedding planning.