Consider this from J C Ryle in his book 'Startling Questions':
"Suffering is the diet of the Lord's family. "Whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth." "If ye be without chastisement, then are ye bastards, and not sons." "Through much tribulation we must enter the kingdom of God." When Bishop Latimer was told by his landlord that he had never had a trouble, "Then," said he, "God cannot be here." Suffering is a part of the process by -which the sons of God are sanctified. They are chastened to wean them from the world, and make them partakers of God's holiness. The Captain of their salvation was made perfect through sufferings, and so are they. There never yet was a great saint who had not either great afflictions or great corruptions. Well said Philip Melancthon, "Where there are no cares there will generally be no prayers."
I hope this may be of help to some on this forum.