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lol well what I experienced was completely based on her being drunk with the wrong type of alcohol. She tended to get pretty aggressive and stupid when she drank vodka (meaning she didn't drink it after that one incident lol), but the point remains for a reason. You CAN stop a girl if you want to. We are men... we are stronger... and honestly a girl abusing you by hitting you or something like that is just messed up on a lot of levels. There are plenty of things you can do to stop it in my mind... and calling your parents crying wouldn't really be a solution in my eyes.
There are about 250,000,000+ people in your country Loveschild. The media likes to blow things out of proportion in order to get everyone spooked. We all need to be careful regarding this. The media blasts trumpets over one story about some atrocious crime, and then people get frightened and change their behavior to protect themselves. But the actual number of incidents, in proportion to the size of the population is very small. It's propaganda and it's designed to keep people in continual fear, and as Christians we should not be concerned by these things since we know that God is in control of our circumstances.
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I am reading some of these stories, and I have to say......it takes TWO people to have a relationship/friendship.
If a relationship is great, there is NO way the relationship can be great because of one person.
If the relationship is bad, there is NO way the relationship can be bad because of just one of the people either.
I heard a quote once that said, "You teach people how to treat you." When I first heard it I was offended because I had thoughts of , "Nooooo, I did not 'teach' this person that it was acceptable to lie to me." OR, "I did not teach them it is ok for them to stay out all hours of the night and not call."
BUT, reality is...these things start out so small, and the first couple times you tell yourself it won't happen again etc. Then when it keeps happening, you think you can change the person...so you allow it to continue because you think that ifyou love them enough etc that they will want to change for you etc.
There is a song by Casting Crowns called Slow Fade....it talks about this. How things start out so small that you do not even notice...then one day it explodes and you wonder how your life got to where it is.
Bottom line is, if a woman *goes psycho* on you. Its because she obviously has issues she needs to deal with, BUT, also its because the guy had signs that he had noticed up until that point that she had these issues that he chose to ignore or put on hold etc.
Same goes for women. We may be the worst at it because we don't want to be alone. We want the companionship. But, there are always signs and symptoms of greater issues...and if you do not deal with them when them come along they are not just going to go away. Sometimes you have to make the hard choice to walk away from a relationship because it does not look like things will change or grow into a healthier direction. (that goes for both men and women.
With that all being said.....this happens with online relationships/friendships, as well as with people you meet in real life.
Make wise choices....weigh all the pros and cons. Let numerous people know where you will be. Make sure they have all his information. Grown up decisions take grown up reasoning.
You alone are responsible for your actions. You are not responsible for what others do, only for how you react to it. If they are doing things that make you feel uncomfortable etc...then deal with it appropriatly. If you choose to let it go on...then you are just as much a part of it as they are. I speak this from experience.
Anyway...I will stop rambling now. Just wanted to get those few things off my chest.
If a relationship is great, there is NO way the relationship can be great because of one person.
If the relationship is bad, there is NO way the relationship can be bad because of just one of the people either.
I heard a quote once that said, "You teach people how to treat you." When I first heard it I was offended because I had thoughts of , "Nooooo, I did not 'teach' this person that it was acceptable to lie to me." OR, "I did not teach them it is ok for them to stay out all hours of the night and not call."
BUT, reality is...these things start out so small, and the first couple times you tell yourself it won't happen again etc. Then when it keeps happening, you think you can change the person...so you allow it to continue because you think that ifyou love them enough etc that they will want to change for you etc.
There is a song by Casting Crowns called Slow Fade....it talks about this. How things start out so small that you do not even notice...then one day it explodes and you wonder how your life got to where it is.
Bottom line is, if a woman *goes psycho* on you. Its because she obviously has issues she needs to deal with, BUT, also its because the guy had signs that he had noticed up until that point that she had these issues that he chose to ignore or put on hold etc.
Same goes for women. We may be the worst at it because we don't want to be alone. We want the companionship. But, there are always signs and symptoms of greater issues...and if you do not deal with them when them come along they are not just going to go away. Sometimes you have to make the hard choice to walk away from a relationship because it does not look like things will change or grow into a healthier direction. (that goes for both men and women.
With that all being said.....this happens with online relationships/friendships, as well as with people you meet in real life.
Make wise choices....weigh all the pros and cons. Let numerous people know where you will be. Make sure they have all his information. Grown up decisions take grown up reasoning.
You alone are responsible for your actions. You are not responsible for what others do, only for how you react to it. If they are doing things that make you feel uncomfortable etc...then deal with it appropriatly. If you choose to let it go on...then you are just as much a part of it as they are. I speak this from experience.
Anyway...I will stop rambling now. Just wanted to get those few things off my chest.
Ok, no typos - I promise..
Most people using online dating services, are looking for the same thing you are: friendship, romance, and the possibility of finding "the one." Most of them are nice, decent people. Many of them are busy professionals whose work lives make it difficult for them to meet potential dating or relationship partners in more "conventional" ways. It's very reasonable to have concerns about safety, but you should keep them in perspective, Actually, meeting people on the Net is probably safer than meeting people in a bar or even the supermarket. We just need to use some common sense and intuition...
Most people using online dating services, are looking for the same thing you are: friendship, romance, and the possibility of finding "the one." Most of them are nice, decent people. Many of them are busy professionals whose work lives make it difficult for them to meet potential dating or relationship partners in more "conventional" ways. It's very reasonable to have concerns about safety, but you should keep them in perspective, Actually, meeting people on the Net is probably safer than meeting people in a bar or even the supermarket. We just need to use some common sense and intuition...
Look closely, Pine... CLOSELY. That would be a South Korean flag by my name, though I reside in the good old US of A!!! Yes, I realize there is some red in my country flag but it's not shaped like a leaf...
Again, look closely.
*Wonders how many others Pineapple "mistakenly" believes are from countries other than their original ones.*
Be prepared for the paybacks! There was this rumor going around that you were Indian, Pine!
Yes, I realize there is some red in my country flag but it's not shaped like a leaf...Again, look closely.
*Wonders how many others Pineapple "mistakenly" believes are from countries other than their original ones.*
Be prepared for the paybacks! There was this rumor going around that you were Indian, Pine!